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Story of a Kalos Teenager Part 3: The First Loss (Pokemon Y)

2020.04.27 18:50 TheFrogTalks Story of a Kalos Teenager Part 3: The First Loss (Pokemon Y)

Inside the gate, I can hear the sounds of the city through the other gate. Just so much life. I cannot wait to see Lumiose. Before I go, Sina hands me the TM for Return, telling me that the attack is stronger the more the Pokemon like me. Let's see, raccoon I barely use, angry duck who I traded a parapalegic rabbit, fairy that I took from flowers, bouncy blue bulb who looks like its about to cry, and Nigel and Pixel. Eh, 1 out of 3 aint bad.
The two direct me to the Pokemon Lab to meet Sycamore. Our taskmaster. Also I can talk to him about Viola's death web. I go inside, go up the elevator to the third floor, and there he is, waiting for me. Looking a lot younger than most professors I have heard about. He greets me and goes behind a screen divider. Ah, good, talks in secret. We meet at his desk, and Serena and Shauna come in. Sycamore says that everyone is here, and is ready to begin. Hehe, even he doesn't include Tierno. Shame though about Trevor. Sycamore then challenges me, just me, to a pokemon fight. He fights me with all three of the Kanto Starters. That's weird, I thought he would have the Kalos one.
The battle is easy. Pixel takes care of the Bulbasaur, Nigel the Charmander, and Ferngully vine whips the Squirtle. After the battle, Sycamore offers the three of us one of the Kanto Starters. Even though I'm the only one that EARNED that right. Let's see, I have two water types, and Ferngully looks like it can get some grass moves later. So Volvagia the Charmander it is. Finally I can replace the angry duck.
Trevor and, unfortunately, Tierno catch up to us, and Sycamore finally gives us what we really need to do: Study the phenomenon known as Mega Evolution. He hands me a Charizard compatible stone that has to do something with Mega Evolution. I hope Volvagia is around for me to find out. New task in hand, I head on out. On the way out, I see Sina talking to a huge, red maned obvious villain man, curious about the five of us. He introduces himself as Lysandere, the inventor of the Holo Caster, and leaves. Serena wants to talk to me privately at one of the cafes. Ooh, secret date. Well, if I'm want to go on a date, I better go get a haircut. Might as well dye my hair as well.
In the cafe, we walk in to Lysandre creeping on a woman of undetermined age and unique clothing. Apparently, she's a famous movie star. Diantha. Lysandre goes off some tirade about being beautiful and not living in a world without it, whatever. Diantha just brushes him off, they both talk to us, and leave. We get a table, and Serena asks me to be her rival. I thought that was a given, I don't know why she needed to say that to me here, but sure. We are rivals.
As much as I want to explore this town, a power outage shut down the half of the city, screwing people's lifestyles. Also Tierno now invited me to the next route, saying that there are so many pokemon out on the route. I go meet up with him and Trevor. Tierno goes off about dancing, and says he has nothing better to talk about. Gee, I don't know how he can dance with that one note. He then challenges me to a fight. He only has a Corphish. Ferngully knows some grass moves, so she could do it. Or so I thought.
Ferngully vine whipped Corphish as it vice gripped back at us. We kept exchanging blows until Corphish's hp looked very low. I, outspeeding him all this time, decided to switch to tackle him instead. For some reason, Corphish outsped Ferngully and with one vice grip, he kills Ferngully. Ugh. Nigel comes in to avenge her.
Ugh, Tierno. All you were is just a one note annoyance. Now, now.....

I hate you. Murderer.

Rest in Peace, Ferngully.
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2019.09.17 02:03 Devan4590 My impressions of Everyone

Nugget: Demon. The very thing my Demonomicon's Writer tried to destroy. But ever since being threatened, 3 stars.
Lilly: Probably some secret agent. 5 stars.
Billy: Also a secret agent. 4 stars.
Buggs: Bully, but does it to cope with issues. We've had our cordial exchanges. 4 stars.
Penny: Just wants to be friends with everyone, but has serious issues communicating. Aspergers, maybe? We'll work on that...4 stars.
Carla: Clever little girl who might be Central American because she called me a Gringo. Also didn't she date Monty? 5 stars.
Monty: Intelligent but Parapalegic. Also wants revenge against Janitor. Didn't he date Carla? 5 stars.
Jerome: He misses his dad. I'd miss my dad too if I was him. 3 stars.
Ozzy: Too scared of everything and has a routine to cope. I suggest branching out and trying new things if I was him. 2 stars.
Felix: Fratricidal and High and mighty. Like a kindergartener version of Byakuya Togami from Danganronpa. Why is he thinking about a company when he's still in grade school? 1 star!
Ted: Unconfident, needs to learn how to stand up to his brother. Also 1 star.
Cindy: Go away Cindy, you unfair little maniac. 1 star.
Mrs. Applegate: I need to get you fired. 1 star.
Old Principal: ...I don't have an opinion on him. Rating pending.
New Principal: ...All over the roadmap. Rating Pending.
Old Janitor: Creepy as hell. I liked when Monty blasted him into oblivion. 1 star.
Bob: So sweet! He's so nice and caring, and loves Mrs. Applegate! 5 stars.
Cookie: She seems nice and sweet. Maybe she's the alternate, kinder aspect of what my Demonomicon's writer was trying to destroy. 4 stars.
I think that's it.
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2018.07.26 16:57 Kawoni Wheelchair love?

Hey guys, I'm 29 and just became wheelchair bound 2 months ago. This is my first post, even though I've lurked around for a while.
Anyway, I'll be honest. I'm afraid that I'll never find someone to love since I'm stuck in a wheelchair. I've had a rough two months since my injury and feeling just a bit insecure since my entire life just changed. Any advice from you guys? Would you date someone in a wheelchair? I'm a T6 parapalegic and can use my upper body just fine.
I'm down to answer any questions or PMs.
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2018.03.22 22:18 jetpuffedpanda Wedding regrets. Is a destination vow renewal possible for 7-8k?

The story is long so I’ll save you some time now: the TLDR is pretty much the title.
We did things a little differently. We decided to have the reception first and the ceremony a couple months later. Our reasons were mainly that we didn’t want our out of town guests having to drive over snowy mountain passes and we are both introverts. I have an anxiety disorder and, honestly, the idea of having 50 people stare at me while we read vows was very overwhelming. Plus we had been dating for 11 years (since we were 15) so we didn’t see anything wrong with having the reception first.
In August we had a backyard BBQ celebration that we invited extended family and friends to (about 45 people) and it really was a blast! We did the cooking and decorating for it ourselves, got some beer kegs, and set up a neat little polaroid camera and scrapbook guest book. (This was hella fun and I highly recommend it for you and your guests!)
About a week after the BBQ we left for what was supposed to be our honeymoon but, very long story short, we ran into some vehicle trouble so we broke down halfway to our destination and spent 3 days in a small town with nothing to do. We spent almost double our entire honeymoon budget getting the truck back on the road and getting home. We made the best of our, as we call it, “Sourmoon” by drinking champagne slushies in a super 8 motel but it really wasn't anything like the trip we had planned. C'est la vie, right?
October rolls around and we get married in our SIL’s backyard. Drinking mimosas with 11 of our immediate family members followed by a brunch that messed up our seating. It was supposed to be in a private room (I confirmed this 3 separate times) but we were set up dead center in the busiest room they had. This was a problem because my mom is severely disabled (basically a parapalegic) and other people kept bumping her wheelchair trying to get by and it was so loud in there we couldn’t talk to each other. My mom has a very soft voice so she couldn’t speak to anyone who wasn’t right beside her and our grandparents are hard of hearing so they struggled too. Not the end of the world but still. I put a lot of effort into making sure everyone would be comfortable and able to communicate with each other.
So here’s what we missed out on and what we are hoping to experience with a vow renewal:
We would actually get our honeymoon. We haven’t been anywhere so it’s really important to us that we get 1 vacation in before we have babies.
We did not actually write our own vows and just went with the standard, required ones the officiant had. We know how we feel about each other and we wanted to keep those things private. Now we think it would’ve been nice to say something original.
Now here’s a real big one for me. I couldn’t maintain eye contact with my husband. I was so nervous and embarrassed about having everyone looking at me that my eyes kept wandering. I feel so guilty about this and I know it kind of hurt his feelings. He laughs about it now (even later that day) but I just feel terrible about it.
We never dressed up. I wore a plain, off-white, knee length dress that I found at a second hand store and a black sweater. He wore his dusty work coat and sneakers. No flowers, no makeup, but at least his face and my legs were shaved lol!
We never got a photographer. I look at everyone’s beautiful wedding photos and feel sad that we never got any. I mean, we have photos of both days but none were fancy, beautiful photos that I’d really want to put in a frame.
We did not do a first dance. We were 16-17 when we decided that the song of our first dance would be “I don’t want to set the world on fire” by The Ink Spots but we were both too shy to dance in front of everyone.
The only people that would attend this “vow renewal” would be the two of us. We would actually get dressed up (bouquet and boutonniere included), do a small vow exchange (with me maintaining eye contact throughout), get a photographer for some photos, and we would actually dance to our song. I don’t care if it’s in the room, on a beach, or wherever but I am getting my dance! We would like to go for 5-7 nights and the room must include a Jacuzzi tub. Is this even possible for 7-8k? Where could some seriously inexperienced travellers go that would be affordable but still has some nice, sunny beaches?
Congrats and thank you for reading the whole thing!
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2017.12.09 16:38 pdonettes Old dogs, new tricks. Help!

Ok, so I have a lot of issues with dating. I was raised super religious, where everything was a sin. Waited until I was 30 to get married, and that was my first pretty much everything.
Fast forward 10 years. I am now pretty much agnostic, not into all the rules and restrictions, divorced and medically retired from the military. Because of a lot of things, I am housebound. I’m not in a wheelchair, or parapalegic or anything, I just can’t drive. I can’t really go out alone either, for the reasons I am housebound. Online dating and Apps are not working. Maybe I’m using the wrong ones? I feel so clueless and out of my element. It would be bad enough if I had experience dating befire I got married, but I don’t even have that.
any advice is approciated.
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2013.06.15 16:10 tabledresser [Table] IAmA: Hey! I'm Torre and I'm a 20 year old quadriplegic male. Ask me anything!

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Do you find it hard to run errands? I actually find it very hard to run! Haha :p
Hahaha I love that you have such a great sense if humour! Hahaha thanks! And omg are you British? Or just weird like me and spell things with ou? Like humour?
Haha nah I'm from new zealand :-) Even better! Not in a creepy way or anything but I love English, Australian, Norwegian, New Zealand, basically foreign accents! And foreign people! :)
I am British, what do you need? You're awesome! Foreign people are amazing! I really wish I had an accent of sort! :p.
No one else will ask it: How do you masturbate? Honestly I just haven't in a longtime because I have no use in my hands. But if you have any ideas tell me!!!
Oh my god I'm so sorry. It's something I have learned to get use to. It is really fun and frustrating trying to figure out how to do something in a completely different way.
They're going to tell you to ask your mom to masturbate you. Don't fall for it! It doesn't end well. O god! That sounds like the worst possible thing that could ever happen!
Since you asked for "hands-off" ideas... on the "high price" end of things, there's the Venus, basically a reverse fucking machine. There's also the Cobra Libre, which is much more portable/hidable/affordable. I'm not too familiar with male toys, so I bet there's some more stuff out there. Interesting very interesting... Thank you very much for the good ideas! :)
I distinctly remember an AMA done by another quadriplegic guy a long time ago, if I recall correctly, his answer to this question was that he rubbed himself against a pillow on the ground. Just saying. Interesting! Man people are full of ideas I never thought of before! :)
Ask your mom for help? Honestly, I'm the first to this? Ewww. That is disgusting! I love my mom, but never!!!
I think i would just rub my dick against shit. Or rub shit on my dick. Hmmm.. You might have something with the rubbing dick against stuff! But the shit on dick not sure if ill go for that one. Hahaha.
I don't mean to pry even further, but my understanding is that usually men with complete spinal injuries can't ejaculate. So uh... can you? I honestly don't know! Never tried :p.
Get a noose around your bell end and tug it with your teeth. Something like this Link to Interesting... I think I might be safer if I get some assistance attempting this. Haha :p.
Maybe this? Omg! That is a hilarious commercial! But a good product! :)
What was the hardest thing for you to get used to? Does it still bother? BTW it's great to see such a big smile on your face! Stay strong :) The hardest thing getting used to has to be unable to do simple tasks such as just brushing my teeth or eating. Or just going out and hanging with my friends. Thank you very much for your support! :)
If you don't mind, what specifically happened in the accident? Well I was with my 3best friends and my dad. Dad was driving and me and my friends were on an inner tube behind the boat. The tube flipped and one of my friends landed on my neck and the other on my back dislocating my neck. The X-ray of my spine was really cool! It was bent in ways it should not bend.
Damn bro I'm sorry about that. Are you still 'friends' with your friend? Most of my best friends stayed my best friends! I have made some really new good friends as well as losing old ones. But that's life if people can't accept a physical change in me then I don't need them in my life.
I am afraid of tubing now... Don't be! It was a pure accident. If you live your life afraid you will never accomplish anything! I have been skydiving twice since I have been injured.
Much respect bro! You are very inspiring, keep it up and I wish you the best! Thanks man! I hope you the best as well! :)
Since? O.o. Hell ya! I love it! I'm going to try and go every for the rest of my life! :)
I mean no insensitivity, but these are questions I've always had in the back of my mind when meeting quadriplegic people but I feel are inappropriate to ask... When you are out and about in public, what do you wish more people would help you with and what do you people try to help you with that you feel is just patronizing? I don't feel as if people are patronizing me when they try and help they just don't understand. With me I kinda enjoy people asking questions such as this or when people try to help because I try and usually make them feel awkward and just try and lighten the mood and make them laugh.
What are your goals for the rest of your life, since a full-length triathlon and professional soccer player are probably out? Those are actually two goals I really wanted to do! I'm currently going to school to get a mathematics degree and hopefully become a teacher one day. :)
As an engineering major who hated his ODE class, I respect the hell out of anyone pursuing a math degree on purpose. Best of luck in your studies! Thanks bro! :) props on the engineering degree!! :)
How hard was it getting used to other people having to do all of your.. personal hygiene? My wife lost use of one of her arms after a stroke and it was hard for her to aclimate. It was very difficult at first.sometimes I enjoy it because I feel pampered when I really don't want to do anything. But it is very frustrating other times.
I have a blind uncle who used to run a company specifically for paraplegics and quadriplegics. They did anything from doorbells, ramps, wheelchairs and their controls, and so on. Is there anything you can think of that maybe isn't available that would help your daily life? Yes! I actually have been trying to figure out how to hook a dog leash up to my wheelchair for my service dog. I have been trying numerous ways to figure it out and it's just not working great. Also I can't figure how to go on a beach easily with my wheelchair wheels.
Link to Something like this maybe? Omg! I love you! This is a genius idea! This is exactly what I have been looking for! :)
Get arm rests dude. Trust me when I'm high or drunk arm rests seem like the most genius idea ever!
Do you enjoy pizza? And If so, what toppings do you like? I love pizza! I actually just got done eating some! :) I usually like green peppers and onions as toppings. What about you?
I had pesto and duck on a pizza last night. Would not recommend. That sounds...gross. Why would you try that??
Are you gonna start playing murderball? Yes! I have been talking to the local team! It looks really fun!
Murderball is badass O fuck ya!! Some of the guys on the local team are crazy!
Hey man nice to see youre positive. i cant imagine what life would be with this condition. are you depressed about it? how do you type btw? gl. I have an iPad. Also I have dragon naturally speaking for my laptop. :p.
Sorry if it seems insensitive, but I'm genuinely curious. I assume you're using speech-to-text on the iPad, but how do you press the button to start dictating/post the message? I'm actually able to manipulate my hands so I can use my thumbs to type on my iPad. :)
Do you find it hard to be in / get into, a stable relationship because of your condition? Why yes I do. It definitely has been much more difficult to try and approach random girls. But I have been able to have a few relationships.
God me beat. Damnit. Hey dude all you have to do is have confidence and be your self and the right people will come along in your life! :)
Quadriplegic or Paraplegic? Did you have someone help you set up those shots? I might be wrong, just wondering. Quadriplegic. I had my friend take the pictures on my iPad.
Do you look up to fellow quads like Christopher Reeve? If not, who are your role models? I look up to him as an actor when he played superman, but i do not have any in wheelchairs. My main idols are Edwin van der sar, Eric Clapton, flea, robin van Persie, and batman.
A Manchester United fan eh? Glory glory man united! My dream is to go to old trafford to watch them play! :)
Fellow quad here check this living American hero out Link to Wow that's incredible!
I'm a Chelsea fan haha so I hate you a little bit ;) Van der Saar was a world class keeper, as for RVP, well I'll keep my opinion of him to myself. The way you're living your life is very inspirational, I hope you get to go to Old Trafford to see them play. I'm sorry for you man. But I just gotta say we are number 1 :p you have some great players in hazard, David Luiz, and Oscar!
O and Torres... Had to go there! :o Thank you very much for the compliments and I hope you have a good life as well! :)
Are you planning on a future career? Are you in training for anything? (Sorry if its a stupid question, I have no clue.) No there are no stupid questions! I currently am pursuing a mathematics degree at hope to one day become a middle school math teacher. :)
Superman or Batman? Batman all the way!!!
What's your favorite Batman movie? That's tough the movie by far is the dark knight! But I'm really excited because I just bought scooby do meets batman and I can't wait to watch that! Also the original 1960s Adam west batman is pure genius! :)
How exactly does sex work? I have yet to figure out how that will go down. If you know any hot chicks willing to try hit me up!! Haha :p.
You're pretty cute! I'm sure it won't be hard to find a girl to help you figure it out haha Thank you! I really hope I do! :)
Dude, you could get mad pussy. Imean that, I'm not a liar nor am I empathetic. I wouldn't say I'm jealous of you but still, mad pussy. Dude how???
Do you have any sensation down there? Can you still get it up? I do actually! I am unable to watch porn and have it go up, but it do get hard randomly.
Do you believe is extra terrestrial life? Yes! I believe we have been visited many times and that the government is trying to cover it up.
There is no way there isn't. Space is endless! All right what do you think is out there humanoid creatures, or beings that are like a huge flying dinosaur or something?
Not an uncommon belief within UFO circles and such. I really hope one day that going in space and meeting different races will be a common normal thing! :)
What's your mom doing later? Probably not having as much fun as me and your mom will later!
I have an uncle whos quadriplegic and although it took him a long time he is now living an essentially normal life with two (adopted) kids and a wife but even now ( almost 40 years later) he's still constantly looking at different clinics and surgeries that will help him, do you think you will retain that same hope? Also if they found a way to replace your legs with cyborg legs, would you do it? Yes! I would try anything to be able to walk again! Especially cyborg legs! Dude that would be fucking awesome! I would try and become like a superhero with those things!:p.
This might be a goofy question, but how do you stay in shape? Since exercise is mostly out of the question is it a change in diet, or just good metabolism? I'm kinda lucky because I was a vegetarian for two years before I was hurt. But now I eat less than I did before and use my exercise bike at least 30min per day. And I try to take my service dog on walks everyday as well. :)
Torre, You write that you're a quad but you're holding a notepad in your proof picture. How are your hands disabled? In my situation I have some use of my arms. I have no use of motor function in my hands, and I'm unable to use my triceps as well.
Hey, occupational therapist here. I'm guessing about C6-7? How are you doing in therapy, or are you on a break right now? I'm a c6 incomplete. I'm taking a break from therapy right now. But going to start again learning how to transfer into a transfer seat for my van.
So how much hand/arm do you have, if I can ask? And depending on the car, car transfers are usually just as easy as regular transfers, I've found. Are you into tenodesis grasp, or is there not enough hand for that? I actually have a van with an electric ramp. And yes I have a tenodesis grip. I have biceps and some chest. I am able to bring my wrists up. Like a motorcycle action. But no lift on the reverse side. Sorry for the explanation. Please ask any more questions you have! :p.
I know I should know this, but what differs between a parapalegic and a quadriplegic? Actually I didn't know this either A quad is someone who is impaired in all 4 limbs while a para is 2 limbs.
Is it possible to have opposite paralyzed limbs on each side? Left leg and right arm? Or vice versa? Maybe! I think that would suck! Also they would have a really funny limp!
Could you do me a favor, it's s little bizarre so bare with me. Step 1. Go to faith healing church. step 2. Near the end of the sermon when the faith healing begins, approach and wait in the line. Step 3. When he puts his/her hand on your head please yell "jesus give me strength" step 4.(A) If possible just after he releases you I need you to jiggle slightly and look bewildered and roll away step 4. (B) if possible after he releases you if your able kinda slouch over and look yell "did it work?" Dude if I could find one of these churches I would totally do this and record me doing it! Are these places common?? :o.
I think it's more common than a snake handler churches. Dude I will definitely look for one and record me doing this! :)
Cats or dogs? Dogs all the way! In fact I have a service dog! :)
Anyone ever tell you that you look a lot like Will Wheaton? I'll admit I have not read thru all the questions here, but do you have a GF? Prospects? No I have never been told that! But thank you! I love that guy! And naw not right now. I'm just kinda taking life as it comes. If a girl comes around I would love it but right now I'm doing pretty good. :)
Do you have limited control of your arms or did someone help you pose for those pics? I have control of my arms except in my triceps and I have no motor control in my hands.
Wacky waving inflatable tube man? O man that guy is one awesome dancer! I wish I was on his level! Hahaha ;)
Is there any chance of recovery (aside from potential new medical breakthroughs)? Also, just curious, how are you holding that sign? Sadly no. Besides the rare miracle or that breakthrough in science. Let's hope! :) I'm able to use my arms kinda just no motor function in my hands or the have my triceps.
How do you type with boxing gloves on your hands? Boxing gloves? Sir I'm a cripple not a boxing cripple! :p haha.
Man, I'm 20 also and I couldn't imagine having to do the things that I do in life without use in my limbs. I just want to say good for you! Glad you're so positive. Maybe in addition to teaching you could be a motivational speaker?! It's definitely tough! I never imagined having this happen. You just have to make the best out of any situation! Being a motivational speaker could be really fun! I've met a few people who talked to me and I was like dang. My life is good compared to yours!
When I walk past you in superstore should I look at you then back at my eye level at stuff or do something different? Im awkward when it comes to that... Good question! Most people especially in public venues do not really know how to act in that situation. Just go with what feels natural. :)
Hey OP, Just wanted to say thanks for doing this AMA. Out of curiosity, can you talk and how do you type? I can do both! I speak normally! And I have figured how to manipulate my hands so I can type on my iPad!
Whats your favorite food? I would have to say my grandmas pesto gnocchi. She is full blood Italian and makes the best everything!
I think the obvious question is how are you writing this? I'm using my iPad! Touch screen things have helped me do so much!
You sound as though youre taking this all in stride and doing well. Bravo! I am curious, how are you responding on this AMA? Thank you so much! :) I always appreciate people telling me that! I'm actually able to kinda manipulate my thumbs so I am able to type using my iPad. :)
Was it hard to adjust to when you first had the accident? What were the hardest aspects that you had to come to terms with? Thanks man, you're kind of awesome. O heavens yes! I mean I can't do normal tasks such as get myself dressed or drive or even such mundane tasks as walk to the toilet or shower myself. The hardest part was that i had to accept my life is like this now. I will always need some help from people no matter any task I'm doing.
Are you typing this with your nose? I actually have been able to figure out how to manipulate my hands so I can type on my iPad and use my phone I have galaxy s3.
I see that you're holding up a sign for your verification. How do you go about performing tasks like this? Do you have movement in your elbows only? And you look happy, so I'm happy, keep on keepin on, you. I actually have function in my arms just no fine motor function in my hands or the use of my triceps. And I have caregivers and a service dog to help aid me in tasks :)
Ur dick work? It actually does! It kinda sucks sometimes because I get random boners out of nowhere, and it is like o I have a boner! :p.
My uncle is also a quadriplegic and I run him through a bunch of physical therapy machines on mon wed and fri (Leg bike, arm bike, and a standing frame). Are you doing anything to keep your body active in hopes that one day there is some medical breakthrough that will allow atleast someuse of the arms or legs? I have a arm bike in which I use for at least half an hour every day. I also am currently training my puppy to become a service dog. And for my legs I have range of motion done every day once in the morning and once at night. I would love for that procedure to exist someday! :)
Thanks so much for your post. My older brother was born with cerebral palsy, we are adults now, but I have always wondered/thought that it might be a good thing for him emotionally that he does not know what walking is like. Are you glad that you have the memories of walking or do you feel like it makes it more difficult to accept your present circumstances? I'm not gonna lie, I miss walking every day. But I have come to accept the way life is now and almost think that fate or god put this upon me to test my strength. So that helps me go through life.
What are you using to type this AMA? I tried Dasher once and thought it was really promising... I have never heard of dasher but I have dragon naturally speaking and I'm able to kinda use my iPad! :)
Do you work? I do not right now. I currently am a student. And to help with spending money I receive ssi.
Saw the picture in the background. So my question is, Do you have any plans to see the new Superman movie? O hell ya! I'm planning on going tonight!! I'm stoked!
Do you play alot of games? I play tons of games on my iPad! My fav. Is FIFA or Lego batman. It's difficult to somethings during gameplay but I always manage just to find a way eventually. ;p haha.
How is your romantic life? Umm right now it's at a stand still. :( but I hope it picks up sometime soon! :)
How do you pronounce your name? Tor r e.
Wanna go for a swim? Heck yea! Bet I could still beat you in a 100 meter race! :p.
Based on the kind of engineering TAs I had in college, I would gladly welcome anyone who can clearly speak proper English into the teaching faculty. Working limbs or not. I understand your pain, my economics teacher last semester was of African decent and most of the class had to ask her to repeat herself numerous amounts of time. We all eventually gave up and taught ourselves.
Great smile, Torre. No question for you, just wanted to give you a high five and thanks for coming by ;) Thank you so much! high five bro!!
I mean he is super cute and seems like and awesome dude, so he actually is very datable regardless of the spinal cord injury :P. Thank you very much! :) it's always nice to be called attractive by a stranger! ;p.
Longtime lurker but your smile motivated me to create an account. This is my first post and it is dedicated to you. :) Yay! This was first time creating an account too! Thank you so much for commenting! :)
I don't have a question but think you're amazing. Good for you! O thank you!! :) bless your soul! :)
I would just like to say that you have a really badass wheeliedop. Sorry but what is a wheeliedop?
"this was no boating accident." Sorry, i couldn't help myself...;) Hahahaha hahahaha :p.
Hey Torre, no questions, just dropped by to congratulate you on your attitude. You're awesome and you remind me a lot of my late uncle, who was also a quad and had a fantastically positive attitude too. High five dude. Thanks man! high five :p I hope you have a good day!
How are you typing responses... I'm able to figure out to manipulate my thumbs so I'm able to type on my iPad! :)
This really puts my problems into perspective. Thank you for your strength. No problem! I'm just here to help! :)
It said quadriplegic but you are using your arms... From what I have been told a quad is someone who has 4 impaired limbs.
Hawhaw! Muwhahaha.
We deserve literally every downvote on reddit. worth it All the up vote! I'm paralyzed! Jk Hahahah ;p.
Don't you mean paraplegic? No. I'm actually a quad. I have a c5-c7 fusion in my neck and I am impaired in all 4 of my limbs
How badly do you miss playing soccer? I miss it ssoo much!! It was my life. I was going to play college ball. I have season tickets to the sounders so that helps keep my passion strong! :)
I have c4-c7 fusion from the car accident last summer I'm a c6 complete right side c5 complete left side I too use Dragon a Galaxy S3 and Galaxy Tab 2. Dude I love the name! How is everything going of you?
Lucky you! I've only been to one sounders game! Aren't they amazing!? The best atmosphere I've ever felt! :)
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2013.05.18 20:45 tabledresser [Table] IAMA 16 year old Paraplegic. AMA.

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Damn man that sucks, how do you stay positive knowing that you may have to spend the rest of your life in a wheelchair being so young? To be honest, I don't think I'm gonna spend the rest of my life in a wheel chair. That's how I keep positive. Being in a wheel chair for the rest of my life is quite frankly not an option to me. I don't care what it takes. And as much as I hate to say it because i'm on atheist reddit, but faith helps too. And I mean I still live a normal life. I go to school full time. I still party. I still smoke weed and drink beer just like any other teenager. I don't let my disability get the best of me.
As a Cellular Biologist, I believe you will not spend the rest of your life in a chair. Thank you! It really does mean a lot!
I imagine the wheelchair doesn't help you score with girls much? which is already difficult when your in high school. I think we will have the technology for you to walk again eventually that is why i said maybe. It is going to be science that will allow that to happen though not religion. To be honest. The wheelchair is a fucking chick magnet. So much sympathy, so much pussy. And everyone in my grad already knew me before my accident so everyone knows who I am on the inside. And I totally agree with you. I mean i'm not one of those jesus freaks that relies solely on prayer and that prayer is going to heal me. I am a strong believer in technology and medicine and I know that it is going to heal me. And thank you! I hope I walk again too!
Can you still fuck, with the whole being paralyzed thing? Yea, read one of my other comments. I go into some detail.
Since you're doing an AMA, I feel like you're pretty open about your condition... What's your favorite joke to make other people feel uncomfortable? Well sometimes if I ask people for a favor and they say no I just say "come on man. I can't even feel my legs." then they feel shitty and kind of do what i want.
After a big meal I like saying "Am I the only one that feels like they need to get rolled out of here" while rubbing my stomach. Hhahahahaha.
A friend of mine is 18 and a parapalegic. He usually tells people that he cant stand up for himself. I mean everyone is different.
If it isn't to personal, you mentioned that the wheelchair is a chick magnet and it actually gets you laid; is it weird having sex without being able to move your legs? What is that process like? Does she have to lead? Ah a common question. I am currently prescribed viagra. Therefor I still get rock hard boners. It really isn't that weird because I can still do alot of positions. (ex. Doggy style, missionary, cowgirl, etc.) It is weird but i got used to it. Also, I can't ejaculate. I can take special medicine if i want to but i don't want to because I then don't have to use a condom and not worry about getting a girl pregnant. And because I don't cum, i have a boner that lasts for 2-4 hours so therefor I give girls multiple orgasms. So that's pretty cool.
Holy shit. You're a 16 year old kid in a wheelchair and you have an active sex life? You're doing better than a lot of redditors, lol. Did you lose your virginity before or after the accident? After my accident. I told you! The chair is a damn pussy magnet!
This kinda makes me wish I was in a wheelchair. Just for a while. Its a hell of an experience man. Both bad and good as weird as that sounds. If you want, I know a guy in Detroit that can break your spinal cord for a SUPER cheap price.
What is the medication you use? What do you mean?
Haha thanks for the info, but a flight to Detroit is a bit expensive for a 16 year old at the moment. Lol.
For ejaculation. Also, do you have insurance? Viagra/Cialis is fucking expensive. I don't take any medication for ejaculation. I mean i'm only 16 so i don't really plan on getting a girl pregnant anytime soon. lol. And yes I do have insurance for my viagra. However it's not like a use it often so I don't really spend a lot of money on it. My doctor gives my 20 teblets and I cut them in half so that's enought for 40 sex sessions.
Oh, sorry I was confused, I thought you said you had some but didn't take it. I was wondering what meds existed that allowed you to do it. Figured it was Floxmax or something like that. Yes I believe it's something like that. It's usually given to people with Spinal Cord Injuries when/if they want to have children.
You say you get spasms... so you can get vague nerve sensations in your legs? Yes.
How and at what age did you become a paraplegic? Well me and a couple of friends decided to go to Bass Lake Indiana for a weekend just to relax. We were out on the water one day and a flash storm rolled in. There were 80 mph winds and the water was going crazy. We decided to start docking up the boat and start bringing in the tubes. My friend Chase and I were bringing in a tube when a tree collapsed on us. He fractured a foot, but I fractured 6 ribs, both of my lungs collapsed, 2 fractures in my pelvis and shoulder, and 2 of my vertebrae fractures causing damage to my spinal cord. This happened on June 29th 2012. I was 15.
Wow. I was actually just checking out your website, after I had already asked. I am very sorry that this happened to you. I have a couple of other questions if you feel like answering them. You seem like a very positive person. Do you ever wonder "Why me"? Is there any hope that you will walk again? I mean as soon as I woke up in the hospital I pretty much knew what was up because I obviously couldn't feel my legs. I am VERY positive. That is honestly one of the most important things I can do right now. And yes I personally do believe that i'm going to walk again. The doctors can say what ever the fuck they want but technology is getting so advanced that I am almost 100% sure that by the next year i'll be on my feet independently. I already see people that go to my therapy that have returned sensation and mobility in their lower extremities. So yes, I am very hopeful that I will walk again.
Did you went into a depression after the accident? For like 2 days yes.
I agree that keeping a positive outlook on things is very important. Thanks for the replies! No problem man. Thanks for the questions!
Do you fap? Where does the fap mess go? How do you clean it up if it makes a mess? I jerk off all the time. I can't ejaculate. no clean up.
How often are you at the doctor's getting a health checkup? What stuff do you need to make sure is okay? Do you get tired of writing that long ass last name? :P. Not often. I am a very healthy person and I was healthy before my accident. I eat healthy. I go to therapy five days a week, and I go to the gym six days a week. I can bench press 205 lbs. I'm pretty fucking fit. Ans yes, my last name fucking sucks.
Have everyday task become harder in your life? ( Taking showers, getting to school, using the restroom, ext.) An if yes, how so? Yes but now it's to the point where it's second nature. It takes me ten minutes to shower. I have a chair that slides into my shower and I just shower sitting down. I take a normal car to school. My brother just takes apart my wheelchair and puts it in the back of the car. It takes me 5 minutes to take a piss and 10 minutes to drop a dump.
no alcohol or marjiuana for me! i also suffered a "serious" brain injury. Thankfully neurologists say ive made an "amazing" recovery. Good for you! That's awesome to hear.
Do you go to school or have a tutor? Does it feel annoying being accommodated all the time? How much can you do on your own? Thanks so much for fielding questions-- it's pretty damn cool of you to put yourself out like that. I go to school full time. I am actually very independent and do every thing on my own that I did pre accident. My mother still cooks for me and cleans my room, but i'm only sixteen, so i shouldn't be doing that anyways haha.
Wow. That's really cool. Are you a sophomore or young junior? Sophomore.
Alright, cool. Almost a junior! Yep!
Does your mom...? Does my mom what?
It's a reference to a incesty thing.. Don't ask. Ok. ok.
It's an ongoing reddit joke about a mother who jerked off her son after he broke his arms. Also see: COLBY 2012 NEVER FORGET, and get a shoebox, jolly rancher, and dorito. I recommend not pursuing any of this for more information. Lol. yaaa i can still move my arms.
A friend of mine got in a motor-accident last week(slipped at 30miles/hour, hit a small pole, pure bad luck) and he'll never be able to walk again. How were your first weeks(hospital/coming back home/reactions)? Is he a paraplegic? My first week in the hospital was gruesome. You just start to learn what happened to you and you lose hope. I hated it. The doctors and nurses just keep on bringing bad news and it fucking sucks. Would you mind sending me a private message of his contact information and I would be more than happy to talk to him. Not to be cocky but I am sure that I will make a huge impact on his whole outlook of his accident.
He's Dutch and he isn't terribly good at English, but I'd love to pass on the information and inform you about his experiences. And yep, he's been diagnosed as a paraplegic. I'm sure he'll know what I am trying to say haha. Ya just message me whenever,
Did you happen to used to be a swimmer? Or are you a wheelchair basketball player? I'm asking you this because it looked as though you shave your pits. (Not that I have a problem with that, I actually prefer men who shave.) Haha no i don't play any accessible sports. I actually trim my arm pit hair very short because if i don't then my arm pit hair gets stuck in my under armor when I lift.
Is there a future medical or surgical option to try and repair the damage that you are thinking of? There is actually this new implant that goes around your spinal cord and is pretty much a detour for your nerves to get around your injury. Pretty cool actually. But it is still being researched.
I know you can't feel them, but what does your lack of leg feeling 'feel' like? I get alot of tingles in my legs because my nerves are waking up. It feels like my legs have ants in them. its weird but i dont really care.
So do you think you get more attention from girls/ peers because of this or have you pretty much kept the same circle of friends since the accident? Also how badly hurt was your friend Chase? I hang out with the same friends I did earlier. I do get alot of attention and to be honest i don't really mind it. I'm comfortable talking about this stuff. And chase fractured his foot.
Do you ever consider contracting the military so they can retrofit your wheelchair with like lasers and sh*t? Hmm. No. But that's a bad ass idea.
What is the hardest part of just living daily life? Things like stores that don't have accessibly for wheelchairs. Also, did you play sports/compete in athletics and do you miss them? I mean nothing is really to hard. I do miss being able to do things that I can't anymore but I can still do alot. Like for example I am writing you this message frm my friends house and were all swimming right now haha. Yea I wrestled freshmen year and I fucking loved it. I miss it so much but I mean I still have my upper body which I am thankful for.
Can you get an erection and (even though you are still young) can you have sex/ ever hope to have sex? Yes and yes. I have actually lost my virginity since my accident.
Not to be rude/weird, but how is that possible? Do you enjoy sex? Yes. Very much. I love pleasuring girls.
Actually, no. Polio gets better or stays the same after a short period of time. You may be thinking of muscular dystrophy which is degenerative. You know what. youre right. i was thinking of MS. I mean polio attacks the spinal cord so it is some what similar to a spinal cord injury.
Common mistake, especially in a time and place where you have likely never seen someone with polio. (It does still happen in the third world) Yep.
What are the troubles with getting a girlfriend? No troubles.
You're from South Bend, are you a Notee Dame fan? Have you been to any ND games. No no. I'm from Chicago. The accident happened in bass lake Indiana and the hospital I stayed in was in south bend. But surprisingly enough I am a Norte dame fan but I have not been to any games.
Wait you can support you own weight!!? Thats fantastic, if you have voluntary control over part of both legs that qualifies you for moto-loco therapy. Im in France where hopefully ill pass the two-year mark and hope that my recovery is like the right-hand side of an x3 graph. I can't support my weight independently but on a walker yes. I do lokomotor training 5 days a week.
What is the average length for that therapy? I'm in France and I've decided to not come back to the US until I need that. 2 hours. It depends where you go.
Also, what is the time-frame for stairs? I have a stair lift so like 30 seconds.
Total? Not per session. One session is two hours. I go 5 days a week. But there are hundreds if not thousands of different questions so I can't really answer your question.
Lucky fucking paras. (I'm a c-5 quad) It'll be ok man. My friend danny is a c-5 c-6 quad and he returned all sorts of muscles. He can 11 pull ups INDEPENDENTLY. The human body is amazing.
From your comments about sensation returning, I'm guessing your injury is incomplete. You might want to make this clear as incomplete injuries can be VERY different from complete injuries. I am incomplete. But people with complete injuries can return function also. and the only reason I din't say i have an incomplete injury is because I don't think a lot of people know what that means.
People with complete injuries can spontaneously regain certain functions but not others. With modern medical treatments its becoming more and more possible. Yes you are correct.
The Paraplegic Paralegal sounds like a great Jonathan Coulton song. Hahahaha.
Proof? What do ya need man?
Just something linking you to the site, like an acknowledgement on the site of this AMA. Just linking to the site doesn't quite do it. Just put up some pics
I see paraplegics picked on a lot. Why don't paraplegics stand up for themselves more often? I never get picked on. A lot of people actually have respect for me and what i've been through. I mean i'm not too sure how to answer this question but I sure as fuck don't take shit from anyone. Maybe the other paraplegics that are getting picked on are just little bitches and let people make fun of them.
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2012.11.27 21:36 SluttyStonersAnon Thoughts on living with an alcoholic SO?

This is really fuzzing the line between AA and AlAnon territory, but I'm here trying to get sober for the second time, so I'm really looking for thoughts on or experiences with living with an alcoholic or heavily drinking SO, while quitting drinking yourself. Encouragement, advice, anything except telling me to just leave him.
The story is a long and complicated one, but suffice it to say I have broken off numerous, otherwise awesome, relationships because of that person's negative impact on my sobriety. Being with the wrong men (for me) led me to try drugs I never wanted, and led me to try drinking in moderation, just with them, to feel closer. Inevitably, I broke it off when I realized they were just dragging me down, and I was just nagging them to stop bringing booze over every day.
This time is different, because I'm living with my best friend of many years. I met him in the darkest time in my life, when I had just been left by the man I was going to marry (looking back, I dodged that bullet!) and he had recently been left by his fiance. We were instantly friends, and since then, he has been with me through everything. Dating the wrong guys, getting my heart broken, unemployment, getting sober and getting drunk again - we've lived in different states at times, and been attached at the hip when near each other, but no matter what, he's the one who sticks with me. After 4 years of picking up the pieces other dudes left behind, he admitted that it was getting super difficult to love me and not be with me. We've been living together for about a year, and the longer we're together, the more thankful I am that I had to choose between being a slut or keeping my best friend.
Now, nobody's perfect, and I will say that the entire time I've known him, he's either smoked weed throughout the day (which I love, because it seems to help his anxiety without changing his personality) or drank heavily, which I absolutely fucking hate. We went from seeing each other every single day since moving to the same city, to once a week as soon as I got sober, because I couldn't be around all that temptation. Eventually, I learned to deal, and started hanging out and just not drinking.
Now, I'm getting sober for the second time, for good, forever, and we live together. I have never imagined myself getting old with anybody else, I just didn't really picture the monogamous interim that's happening now.
Now that I've explained why I'll just start crying, and give you an emotional downvote, if you suggest doing the smart thing and just separating for the sake of my sobriety, how do I deal with the fact that I live with someone who drinks every single day, and I never want to drink again? This week has been his vacation, and the first 3 days he has been parapalegic 12 year old blacked out drunk. This was majorly difficult for me, and a lot of friendly messages here got me through it. Yesterday was day 4, and before going to work I reiterated that when he went to the grocery store, please don't get more rum (I knew he'd get beer either way), that I really missed him the last 3 days despite being by his side, and couldn't wait to hang out with my sober bf, and so on. I came home to find him drinking rum, totally astonished that this upset me. I ended up buying the bottle from him and pouring it out, which he could have been a much bigger asshole about than he actually was.
He knows how important it is to me to stop drinking again, and while he has stopped bringing home wine for me (fizzy water and grapefruit soda instead, fuck yeah!), and been rather stern with his friends who try to get me to drink, he doesn't seem to understand that watching him get drunk is just as troubling to me. He starts crying and says he can't deal with his job, and all the (very real, stressful) drama in his life without drinking, since he can't smoke weed right now. In his mind I think he sees a tallboy more like a prescribed anti anxiety med, not like the day's first drink for an alcoholic that needs help.
I have given him many varied ultimatums to stop drinking, to come to meetings with me, just to admit that he drinks too much and for the wrong reasons, but it never sticks. I don't think it's my place to get him sober, as much as I hope he does one day. I think I really want to know if anyone has successfully stayed sober in a situation like this, and how?
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