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2020.09.20 21:27 tpounds0 What to Expect from a Quality 8 Week Writing Class

Hey all, this class was all email, so it was easy to include almost all the work I did in this class.
I convinced my friend Alex to also take this class, and we did do some Skype calls to talk things out which I didn't really write notes on. But you will see everything I sent my teacher, and everything he sent back.
For all you people wondering if a class is worth it, you can see the progression from a premise to a draft.
This was an 8 week course from an idea to a first draft. Class Link here.

Week One Focus: What's Your Sitcom

Good morning everyone.
Thanks again for signing up to Lockdown Sitcom. I hope you enjoy it. Let me start by explaining how this is going to work.
Each Friday, starting today, I shall set you a task. You then have until midnight the following Thursday to work on it.
I promise to get back to everyone by the end of the day on Friday. There's a lot of you so it may take a while. Each week I'll send you some blogs that will help you explore the relevant task.
Your weekly task will be tailored to your individual needs, but I'm hoping to keep very roughly to the following list
THIS WEEK
Week 1 Friday 17 July
  • WHAT'S THE BIG IDEA?
  • What's your "sit"?
  • What's it about?
  • What's it really about?
  • Who is it about?
  • Why are you the best person to write this?
    • And why now? (This doesn't mean you all have to write about Coronavirus, you can write about anything. But if it's a sitcom about a flat-share couple, what new thing are you bringing to the show that updates it from Peep Show? Or if it's a family sitcom, what moves it on from Modern Family?)
Have a read of these blogs and let me have your thoughts back by midnight Thursday 23 July.
If you can get your notes back to me any earlier in the week that will be really helpful!
What I expect back from you is something short, but it will take a lot of thought and effort. Below isn't the definitive version for you to fill in the blank spaces, but it gives you the sort of idea of what I'll be looking for from you
It's a sitcom set (place) ........... about (what happens there) ....... eg workplace/staff, family home/family, institution/staff The main person is ............. a character who wants/thinks........... but in reality............ (OR main 2 characters are ......... and .......... - 1 is ............ while 2 is......... Each wants.......... but in reality..........) Every week main character (s) want (s).............. but every week they get .......... This show is a bit like........ (by the way it doesn't have to be a bit like any other show but if it is...) but the new thing I'm bringing to the idea is....... What's the show really about? I don't expect you to have all the answers in a week, but read the blogs and think about what you're trying to get across with this show. Is there a comedy cliche you can use to describe your show? Eg main character is "a fish out of water", "Be careful what you wish for", "too many cooks spoil the broth", "You can choose your friends but you can't choose family"
Week 2 Friday 24 July WHAT'S THE BIG IDEA? Not a mistake. I want to be absolutely sure you've properly tested your idea, and check that you have something that's either brand new (probably unlikely) or at least taking something familiar and moving it on.
From then on each week we'll be looking at the following areas, and you'll have a week to deal with these:
  • Week 3 Characters
  • Week 4 Stories
  • Week 5 Stories for your characters
  • Week 6 Story outline
  • Week 7 Write the script
  • Week 8 Keep writing the script
  • Week 9 Final feedback

My reply:

This is a sitcom set in a monster prone suburban town about a family of women monster hunters.
The main character is the young boy in the family who wants to hunt monsters but the reality he has to deal with is his family's rigid gender roles.
Every week the main character wants to do what he pleases, but gets assumptions about his abilities.
This show is a little bit like Buffy the Vampire Slayer but a thoughtful inclusive take on empowerment. Buffy treated gender as a binary instead of a spectrum.
Our main character is a fish out of water, unused to the demands of hunting monsters by night and handling schoolwork by day as well as being the first boy in the family to inherit monster hunting powers.
I'm the best person to write for this because of my upbringing as queer, and disney channel obsessed. Will and Grace did so much for perceptions of gay men in media and I think now is the time for inclusive fun mainstream show that tackles gender as a spectrum.

Notes on Week One Assignment

Week Two: What's the Big Idea

Email to everyone:
Dear all,
Thanks for all your hard work, I hope my notes have made sense for you.
Just a few quick general points:
  • a) Always keep in mind your premise - "it's about a bunch of 20something workers in a modern office" is different from your episode story - "this week Kev is determined to give up smoking." It's okay to have a group of people together talking - but you need to give them something to do
  • b) Lots of stories based on your own experiences - which is fine, as a starting point. But this is fiction, it's made up. Give yourself permission to make up stuff about this new world you're creating
  • c) We all have opinions, some probably stronger than others. But the best writers don't try and force their own opinions on an audience, they try and sympathetically represent the opinion they disagree with.
  • d) This is when it starts to get harder. If you're struggling to respond to the notes that's a good thing!

Week Two Reply:

Our lead character is very headstrong. Because he's been taught this fundamental thing, he can't inherit his families powers, that was completely wrong. So he doesn't have much of a trust in authority. He's regularly ignoring his teachers, family, and more cautious friends to dive head first into danger.
He is balancing two worlds: his normal middle school life, and his evenings with his family of monster hunters. A more UK centric example would be The Sarah Jane Adventures. This is a world just like ours, with a hidden world of magic and monsters.
His family is an ancient line of monster hunters. The women (and our lead) are supernaturally strong, durable, and athletic. While the men in the family make up for the lack of strength by focusing on the research of monsters; their lairs, their abilities; and their weaknesses. These monsters are traditional creatures of Folklore: gremlins, kappa, unicorns, banshees.
His family is made up of his older sister, his father and mother, and his grandmother. His sister is a stickler to tradition and the favorite of the family. She doesn't approve of teaching a boy to fight, regardless of whether he has powers or not. She's basically a magic TERF. The mother runs the household and is open to training her son, though she's concerned with training him. His father is a bumbling professor type and is disappointed that he doesn't get to teach his traditions to his son. Grandmother occasionally appears, and she's a blue haired badass. She doesn't care what's in her grandkids pants as long as they're willing "to continue the ever present war against darkness and evil."
His school life features his best friend whose interest in fairy tales allows her to be his voice of reason, and the role of creature researcher that our lead hates to do. A frenemy influencer who would like nothing more than to prove monsters exist by way of viral video. And a teacher that threatens our lead with detention when our lead has til midnight to save the swim team from a siren.
A typical episode will have a strange goings on at school; kids who eat the lunch ladies carrot soup start growing rabbit ears, a paper mache art project seems to be moving at night, or the new kid doesn't have a reflection.
Meanwhile our lead is failing a class, grounded for failing math, or forced to attend easter dinner at the house of a neighbor he hates.
His family doesn't believe him when he points out the strange goings on at school, and assumes it's him 'making a monster out of a molehill.' which causes him to try to solve it by himself. More often than not this leads him to getting himself in danger, though occasionally he's off to rescue a friend in peril.
Every episode ends with a climactic and physical humor fight. The new kid vampire is staked through the heart by an extremely sharp pencil, the paper mache statue melts after getting a bucket of water dumped on it, the lunch lady witch falls into her pot of soup and turns into a rabbit.
And our episode concludes with the resolution of his real world kid conflict.
Every episode has a magical issue, a school issue, a monster fight at the end, and maybe a lesson about growing up.
Avatar the Last Airbender with the budget of Hannah Montana.
Sabrina the Teenage Witch but since visual effects are cheaper we also have a fight choreographer on staff.

Notes on Week Two Assignment

Week Three: Character

I decided to drop grandma, and create a character relationship map for my leads.

My Reply HERE

Notes on Week Three Assignment

Week Four Focus: Stories

Email to everyone:
... which as you will know by now is all about plotting. Not to be confused with premise.
Your sitcom might be about a bunch of students hanging out together and the premise will be around that, but the story will be what happens in that episode - it's x's birthday, y won the lottery, z's dad is getting married again. That kind of thing.
Quite a few of you wrote to tell me how last week was a bit of a struggle. Yep. Sorry. It's really hard to do this well. Don't worry if you're still struggling to work out who your characters are, this week you get to find out more about them by sticking them in situations and seeing how they respond.
Part of the character-building job at this stage is to stick them in a situation and see how they respond. Don't be afraid to exaggerate, or to put them in extreme situations, but remember, the only way out of the stories is to remain true to the character.
I hope that makes sense.
Thanks everyone for your amazing hard work up to now. I'm not just saying that, it gives me such pleasure to see your stories and characters blossom week by week. I know sometimes it can seem tough but I hope you're beginning to see how the process works together.
And thanks again to the early senders, it really helps.
Look forward to getting back to you next week, when we'll be at the half way stage! Amazing how fast the time goes.

My Reply HERE

Notes on Week Four Assignment

Week Five Focus: Stories for your Characters

Email to everyone:
Thanks again everyone,
I hope it hasn't been too much of a struggle for you, especially if you were trying to work this week in exceedingly high temperatures.
Hopefully you're all clear about what you need to do this week - don't be afraid to ask anything if you're not quite sure.
If you're still struggling to come up with plots, or to turn those single sentences into comedy gold, you're in good company. Here are a few things that might help you:
  1. Look back through your earlier weeks and remember the thoughts you were having about characters, something from there might inspire you.
  2. Imagine your show is a cartoon. Now you can exaggerate the story and have weird things happen. You might have to step back again but don't be afraid to hit the comedy exaggeration button.
  3. Watch an episode of your favourite sitcom. Notice how they get to the point about three quarters in where all is lost. Look at how they built to that moment.
Using a phrase that I only came up with this week, which from now on I shall be milking for all it's worth:
Activate
Escalate
Resolve
Finally in other news for those of you in the UK thinking of entering the BAFTA Rocliffe competition, deadline 10 September, I shall be running a daily email Monday to Friday starting next week on Monday 17 August and running through to Monday 7 September with a little tip to help with your sitcom entry. If you'd like to receive that email let me know and I'll add your name to the list. (Even if you're not entering you might find the daily tips useful)
Until next week...
All the best

My Reply HERE

Notes on Week Five Assignment

Week Six Focus: Story Outline

Email to everyone:
Dear all,
Thanks as ever for your incredibly hard work, and sorry if it's beginning to get frustratingly hard - that's because, it's frustratingly hard!
You've done really well to get here already, even if you've missed the odd week I think of where you all were at the start of week 1 and where you are now, and the difference for everyone is real.
I've been doing these daily tips this week and a story I shared in that was what I thought was a great quote from a writer who had done well, struggled and was doing well again. "How do you know when it's working?" he was asked. "I don't, all I've done is work harder at eliminating what doesn't work." We never really know until we're out there. As a stand-up I remember that great feeling when people laughed, the understanding that that joke worked. But then why did so many others not work? You just have to keep eliminating the ones that don't until you get to the one that does.
Thanks also because I'm seeing in real time where my new insight of Activate, Escalate, Resolve is taking us. A lot of problems this week occurred somewhere between the end of escalate and the beginning of resolve. Loads of great stories, many very strongly character-driven but not quite delivering that big moment. I need to think harder about how to explain that... it's not enough for me to just say "all is lost", there's a little penny dropping moment that comes after that which then triggers resolve.
Have a good week and thanks again

My Reply HERE

Notes on Week Six Assignments

Week Seven Focus: Writing the Script

Email to all:
Well done everyone, and thanks for all your hard work, as ever. There is light at the end of the tunnel as we head towards that script.
I totally understand if you've not been able to do as much as you hoped. It's August. We're still in lockdown. Or are we? What the hell is going to happen next month? Next week? Tomorrow even? I understand how things don't always work out timewise and sympathise, hoping that I can clock off myself today before midnight.
But I have three big notes off the back of what I have been reading this week:
Be aware of the meaning of the word escalation.
Something that starts small and gets bigger. Too many stories activate nicely early on, only to go straight into outright hostility from the word go. If your conflicting characters are already hating each other by page 6, where are they going to be at page 26?
People who already know each other don't relate old stories to each other
It's hard because the audience don't know these people like you do. But they still need to sound like people who talk to each other all the time. They don't say things like "remember the last time you did that thing? This happened then that then the other." And so on. Think about what you're trying to reveal to the audience about this new character and find a way of doing it that sounds like how people talk in real life.
People don't always say what they mean
How often do you go directly to a person you love or work for and immediately ask for the thing you want? Scenes are funny because people are hiding their real intent for whatever reason, and that's what gets them into scrapes.
Good luck and look forward to hearing from you again next week
Author's Note: I am a fast writer, so I wrote my first draft in one week. The expectation was to get to the end of the first draft in two weeks.

My First Draft HERE

Notes on Vomit Draft Script

Week Eight: Keep Writing

Author's Note: I am ahead of the curve, so no email since people are still writing. I decide to challenge myself to get a second draft out.
I emailed him an updated page one outline and a page one rewrite. My focus of the rewrite was to clarify my lead, the relationships between the lead and other characters, and the supporting characters emotional arc.

Updated One Pager HERE

Page One Rewrite HERE

Notes on Second Draft of the Pilot

Author's Note: My Word count is very on point for a American Multicam sitcom. DATA SCIENCE!

Conclusion

Final Email:
Thanks for all your amazing work. It's been a blast for me. I hope you've enjoyed - or at least, got a lot out of working through the process of getting it done. I know I said at the start that it would be hard, and that not everyone would make it to the end but the main thing would be learning about writing to deadlines, and getting a sense of the process. I hope you still feel that way, however far you reached.
I know that writing to deadlines can be stressful, and I hope you haven't been struggling too much with it. Like there haven't already been enough struggles so far this year...
If you haven't already contacted me with your thoughts please do - any things you might have wanted to see that I didn't do.
One thing someone mentioned - is there any more reading I would recommend? Off the top of my head I would say:
  • Writing That Sitcom by James Cary
  • Cheeky Monkey by Tim Ferguson
  • The Serious Guide to Joke Writing by Sally Holloway
The teacher Bennett Arron has just brought out a short book about sitcom writing, I haven't had a chance to read it yet but I'm sure it will be helpful.
And I'll get back to you if I think of any more
Thanks again, and best of luck with all your future projects

TL;DR: If you don't get weekly challenging deadlines, and personalized feedback, the class you are thinking about taking is trash. You can write a sitcom from a premise in eight weeks.

wemustburncarthage I wrote this as a resource if you want to place this in the Wiki.
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2020.09.08 09:46 Articguard11 Hooking up with loads of people is indicative of a larger problem and shouldn’t be treated like a hobby

A lot of my friends only ever talk about hookups/sex, and sometimes I genuinely wonder if they think about anything else because the rate they go at it, I don’t see how it ‘s healthy. And this isn’t just my friends, this is just hookup culture in general, and I think it’s severely damaging to the individual. For example, some of my friends even cite self-esteem issues and such - and I believe their trying to heal themselves with sex, but I don’t believe that will help them, only time and counselling really can.
Essentially I think It’s sad we’ve created such a normalized culture regarding frequent hookups; often saying “yeah, another notch on the belt! To Tinder! Bumble! Hinge! Mutual friends!” And not as a symptom of a bigger issue. Sex shouldn’t be treated as a hobby, it should be treated as a deeply emotionally affective experience.
Edit: I put this in the comment section, but I think it’s getting lost in the shuffle so I’m putting it here:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-about-men/202006/the-dark-side-hooking?fbclid=IwAR1XLUtJzYUbmE2jfqYDk4YfWTvrXII9zqjMVKXxaidtn0lsTgeVZkaQgjE . I know for some reason people seem to think I’m completely against sex (not entirely sure why, I never said that) but to reiterate, I am not against sex at all. What I’m saying is sex is an affective thing to a person - you’re being vulnerable, and it’s impossible, I believe, that a person who is throwing themselves around is likely because they don’t think they don’t matter. Here is a link to a study I’ve read related to this. It’s a bit old, but still resonant.
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2020.09.02 05:08 Extension-Substance4 I'm scared I'll be a virgin forever

I'm 21M, double S.T.E.M. major (adding a masters) going to graduate school. For those of you who don't know, this pretty much means I have very little time in my life.
There was girl I was infatuated with in high school that chose someone over me, lost her virginity to and always compared me to him after I went back to attempt to persuade her to view me as an option.
I haven't had anyone like her ever appear in my life. She ticked all the boxes, (I have high standards) but ended up not being such a great person. I beat myself up all the time about what happened and relentlessly blame myself for the failure of that "relationship". Yeah, I've been to therapy, and got medicated for depression and all that fun stuff. I just work on myself now.
I've been on TindeBumble/Hinge whatever for the past 2 years, constantly improve upon myself all the time (I only see myself as a failure and always strive to become the person I envision myself in my head to be), yet I can never find someone who ticks just a few of my boxes.
All my friends give me shit for still being a virgin, I get made fun of saying they'll buy me an escort for my birthday. They turn around most of the time and try to lift my spirits up and say I'm an attractive dude that dresses well etc. when they see it starts getting to me.
Secretly, I love "love". I wanted to go to prom with a girl so badly, I got a suit tailored and everything before my life came crashing down that year. I've read so many forums, blog posts, watched all my friends relationships from afar to see what not to do, and what to do. I've just never gotten a real shot, and I don't think I ever will.
I don't think anyone's going to see all the effort I put in, just to be a somewhat attractive human being, and I don't think they ever will.
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2020.08.27 00:39 CHAD_J_THUNDERCOCK Best alpha content:

At different points in my life I consumed unbelievable amounts of content on money/careers/pua/health/fitness/nutrition and general alpha content. Here are the most important links that apply to most young men.
At different stages in your life different things matter. At age 18-20 nobody cares about careemoney - your height/money/face/dominance/status matter. At age 26 careenetwork/apperance matter. Really to succeed at life/serotinin/socially-perceived-success you should try to maximise the integral of your sexual desirability over life.
We use Richard Dawkins' Selfish Gene Framework, Jordan Peterson Framework and Machiavelli Framework here. Don't be the Napolean Dynamite "highschool quarterback making $40k/year". Dont be the 30 year old 5'5'' iBanker marrying a goldigger who hates you and will cuckold and divorce you. If you are a guy be the 7/10 appearance average dude who slept with 30+ women and is lucky to be making 200K+/year and marrying a 9/10 appearance smart woman.
Spiritually we approve/endorce/love the women who are 7/10 in genetic appearance and dating 9/10 men (a great subreddit for this is /FemaleDatingStrategy/). We care about teaching everyone to maximise their social status/class/whatever - no matter where they started in life - social mobility is the ultimate form of equality (see the Sunday Times Of London Rich List which has shown how entreprenuership is the ultimate path to wealth in the UK while it was not 30 years ago (this is even more true in the USA)) - but the author of this subreddit only can speak for men because he is a man. The author will be teaching his daughters to follow /FemaleDatingStrategy/ and his sons to follow /theredpill - but at the same time you must be honest and good while appreciating the machiavellian strategies.

High income careers / biz

  1. https://wallstreetplayboys.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-choosing-a-caree - read their entire blog.
  2. https://old.reddit.com/fatFIRE/comments/bxa3qz/guide_for_new_readers_probability_income/. Consume all of /fatfire. Learn what rich people are doing/thinking. Learn how they got rich. Don't post there FFS, just read read read. So much wisdom. Even if you are dumb your goal is to have $1M networht by age 30. Anything telling you otherwise is holding you back. If you miss that goal its OK but you still need to hustle.
  3. Being rich/high-income-potential becomes FAR more important after age 23. See OkCupid datascientist blog data for undeniable proof of the irrelevance before and the predominance afterward. The sooner you care/start the better; some attractive 23 year old women are very interested in rich 40 year olds. If you are not genetically hot as a male then money/status will help you - a 6/10 can become an 8/10, an 8/10 can become a 10/10. The game of life is VERY cruel and men rate women on physical appearance (genetics) far more than men rate women. Women are more rational/fair than men and care about life success / accomplishments. We care about youth/fertility/waist-hip-ratio. Society will demand men prject the opposite and women project the opposite, in the name of equality (which is not a bad thing for soceity to do - you should encourage it - but it is a shit-test and bad for you personally - I just gave you 2 years of discovery/wisdom/truth-finding for free so upvote this post you cunt. If your career tops out at $100k or $250k a year then you should be working on your side hustle and trying to build a business on the side. The sooner you start the better. Amazon FBA (/fulfillmentbyamazon) was very hot back in 2015 for this but not so hot now. NoCode, Shopify and some other models are hot ways to make $200k+ outside of a career in 2020 - search Twitter for people talking about this stuff and follow people who are making 200k/year or more. I recommend the "My First Million" podcast most of all - listen to all of them and learn about business models that are trending. Ideasex those biz models. Follow their guests on twitter. Learn from people who "make it" who have <1k followers. Apply what they say and start your own businesses, put in 3months+ work, then message them, thank them for the inspiration, tell them how you applied their methods, then ask for SPECIFIC advice. They will 80%+ reply because the see themself in you - congrats you have a mentor who will take you to $5M+ networth if you DONT fuck up with stupid questions.

Building relationships with women:

  1. https://www.youtube.com/c/AskToddV/videos - ToddV was one of the PUAs in the book The Game. He was part of RSD then they all fell out. Of all the PUA content out there, all the channels, all the blogs - I think his two youtube channels are the best foundation and with content for all skill levels.
  2. /theredpill does have some good stuff, try different search terms and sort by top of all time.
  3. Cold approach Day Game and Social Circle game are the absolute best. TindeBumble/Hinge are great if you are very good looking (6 foot tall and good muscle mass and face). In college Social Circle Game is supreme: At university I went from 0 to 50 sexual partners using social circle game / charisma, and I was sleeping with 9/10s while physically I was a 7 or 8/10 (skinny, bad clothes, bad haircut, decent height, good face). Become president of college societies & DJing are great. Also great in early 20s: being in a band, being in some distinct subculture (e.g. if you are chinese then being involved in chinese societies within your western university are great to be high status in a chinese crowd) (if you are in highschool and goths).

Looksmaxxing:

  1. https://www.youtube.com/c/MorePlatesMoreDates/videos - content on steroids/hairloss/height/face/asthetics. I advise against steroids and dont take them. Absolutely do not do them without getting tonnes of bloodwork and genetic testing and checking your arterial stiffness with cardiologist.
  2. you really can increase your penis size - /ajelqforyou
  3. fast hack: wear red. one study showed a red T shirt makes a man rated by women as 7/10 get rated as 8/10.
  4. cologne: get Armaf club de nuit. Its a spin off clone of Creed Aventus (very expensive). on the perfume forums both creed aventus and Club De Nuit got maximum scores for "what cologne makes female strangers come up and compliment you most" - the most important metric.
  5. Wear boots for an inch in height it makes a surprising difference. more plates more dates on youtube tested this.
  6. nobody notices or cares about watches, but you can save a lot of money getting a superclone, see reptime . at the very least do not buy a genuine watch that has superclones or expect anyone to notice your watch.
  7. women do however notice shoes and clothes. But the right clothes depend so much on context/age/location that it is not worth going into here.

Body language / Charisma

  1. https://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/toc.html
  2. Read and apply How to Win Friends and Influence people. Using names, eye contact, asking questions - it really is the cheat code to being loved, increasing serotonin, being happy and fulfilled, making sales, being a leader.

Nutrition

  1. buy frozen mixed veg. e.g. "frozen soffrito mix", "frozen mediterranean veg mix". Buy as many varieties as you can. Put 250g of two different bags in a frying pan with olive oil. Add a spice mix (buy many different spice mixes). Add a squirt of tomato paste and a lot of meat. Drink it with small glass of juice. This meal is 8 of your 5 a day, it takes 10 minutes with minimal effort/prep and only a pan/plate to wash up. If you are aiming to lose fat then do OMAD or IF 20:4 and make this your main/only meal of the day.
  2. If you are not bulking always do intermittent fasting 20:4, life is just so much better on it.
  3. Stan Efferdings vertical diet is great for bulking but dont do it without blood tests and worry about clogging your arteries. They dont get unclogged.
  4. read about spices/supplements on ergo-log.com. did you know garlic triples testosterone in rats? did you know a teaspoon of dirt cheap paprika has more micronutrients than a full handful of blueberries (considered an expensive superfood?).
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2020.08.24 15:27 dataiskings How to create the perfect Tinder profile

When Liam moved to Manchester from south Wales in 2017, he thought he was doing it for lasting love. Dating his girlfriend long distance for over a year, he found a job as a prison officer and moved north to be with her. But after a year he found himself single again and hasn’t managed to date anyone seriously since. He desperately wants a committed, long-term relationship, but is struggling to make it past consistent hook-ups.
When Holly’s relationship fell apart a few months ago, she left London after 13 years of living there, moving with her brand-new dachshund puppy to her hometown of Hastings. But trying to date other women in Hastings has proved less than fruitful.
Dan’s life in London has been pretty good. A graphic designer, just finishing his masters at UCL, he’s got most of it figured out. But at 29, he’s realised that the gay clubbing scene is making it more difficult to meet romantic partners with whom he really connects and is struggling to find someone to date for more than a couple months.
While all three of these people are in vastly situations, one thing unites them: they all absolutely despise their online dating profiles. From Tinder to Bumble to Her to Hinge, they feel cringed-out, awkward and unfulfilled by how they present themselves and feel their dating profile is holding them back.
This is a major problem for online daters. You can be charming, funny and genuinely interesting, but when it comes to writing a bio your mind can go blank. It’s hard to make profiles read the same (see: “I love gin!”, “My pet peeve is slow walkers”) and it’s hard to make your real self stand out. In the US, dating profile styling agencies are even starting to pop up, where people can pay to have this increasingly common dating problem professionally solved. But for those who don’t have hundreds to shell out on professionals, the question still persists: what do you need to do to make your dating profile better?
Liam, Dan and Holly have gotten this question answered. Working with three romantic professionals – a relationships therapist, a dating expert and a professional advertising creative – they have willingly handed over their profiles, histories, and insecurities to be molded into a more authentic version of themselves and get desperately needed news on how to make their dating profile dateable.
The datersLiam
The basics: 28 years old, Welsh, straight, prison officer. Describes himself as a regular guy, interested in sport, going out with his friends, spending time with his family and looking after his dog, Jasper.
Dating history: Has had three serious relationships and says that all of them petered out at the same time – around the two-year mark.
Dating profile description: Mostly selfies, mostly taken in dark rooms, one topless, mostly bordering on scary faces. Bio reads, “I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing / Beards make the world go round / Never watched Game Of Thrones, which is apparently a huge deal? / Welsh boy trespassing in the North, tryna not get kicked out after Brexit...”
Dating problems: Liam’s problem is two-fold. Although his job as a prisoner officer is interesting, it’s not something that defines him – however, it’s the only thing on dating apps that women seem to be interested in talking about. His second problem is that, when he does meet people, there’s miscommunication about what each other wants and he ends up thinking it’s becoming serious when all she wants is something casual.
Looking for: A serious relationship. “What’s the point in having fun if there’s nobody there when you have a rubbish day at work? Who’s there to share your good and bad days, your achievements? Who’s there to pick you up when you’re down? And, ideally, that’s what I’m after. Something real. Something proper.”
Holly
The basics: 31 years old, English, bisexual, working-from-home office manager, dachshund dog mum. Describes herself as multifaceted – funny, smart, well-read and interested in everything from politics to the Kardashians.
Dating history: Has had two serious relationships, one with a man and one with a woman, but is looking to just date women for the time being.
Dating profile description: Mostly close-up selfies, one picture with her dog. Bio reads, “Office manager by day, mum to a mini sausage all the time / Love long conversations, walks with the pup, binge watching Netflix, exploring bars and restaurants, blogging / Looking to meet someone to enjoy my next thing with!”
Dating problems: Holly has paralysis when it comes to talking about herself in a positive way and is terrified of coming off as boastful, cringey or cocky. “I’m down to earth, have a great personality, and I'm quite an all-rounded person. But explaining that to somebody in a few short sentences, to catch somebody's interest and not come off like an absolute knob, is really hard!”
Looking for: Nothing too serious, but someone to actually connect with.
Dan
The basics: 29 years old, half-English, half-Paraguayan, gay, graphic designer, master's student in urban studies. Describes himself as outgoing and adventurous and knows his own self-worth, but he’s growing increasingly tired of dating via the club scene.
Dating history: Has had three boyfriends, none lasting longer than nine months, and has only been on five or six “real dates” in his whole life.
Dating profile description: Mostly semi-ironic bad selfies, two topless, one picture of himself out cycling, one picture with a friend. Bio reads, “Happy, creative, driven, calm and introspective / Once had a full-blown 20-minute argument with Boris Johnson whilst cycling to work / I’m a student with a research interest in queer space, cycling and community-led projects / I’m also a graphic designer on the side. Sometimes an art school tutor. Sometimes a van man / Half-English, half-Paraguayan, born in Hastings / 5’10”.”
Dating problems: Dan is afraid that his profile isn’t drawing in the right person. He thinks he’s more interesting than his profile indicates and doesn’t convey his personality and, therefore, isn’t matching with guys he will actually connect with. He wants his profile to make him appear like someone dateable, not just someone to sleep with.
Looking for: Dating people who he might genuinely get on with, with the possibility for something more serious. “I would like to find guys who are suited to me. And by communicating what I am or who I am in a better way on my dating profile, I might attract the right kind of guys.”
The experts weigh inThe relationships therapist
Sally Baker is a relationships therapist who has appeared on the BBC, in the Observer and in New York Magazine. She says almost all daters do their dating profiles wrong: setting their own personal pitch to low.
“Online dating can be particularly challenging if the person writing their profile isn’t sure what they want for themselves,” Sally says. “Their ambivalence can make their profile read as wishy-washy or uninspiring. Profiles that are written without clarity usually mean you attract the kind of people that aren’t right for you either on a casual basis or for something more serious and long term.
“Of course, it's not about being egotistical or showing off either, as that’s just another kind of knob-head behaviour,” she adds. “It is, however, about describing yourself and what you want in a real, approachable way that would resonate with the right people for you.”
Sally takes all three daters through an exercise she does with all her clients, called “Perfect Day”, getting them to describe what their perfect day would look like, from the location to the activities to with whom that perfect day would ideally be spent. Sally encourages her clients to forget about realistic boundaries and to “dream big” about what their day would look like. “This is so if you only achieve half of what you want in your perfect day it will still be amazing,” she says.
Liam’s perfect day is actually pretty simple: nice meals, walking his dog, spending time with his family and skydiving for the first time. But despite his intense interest in being in a serious, romantic relationship, his day doesn’t mention a partner at all. Instead, it mentions dating as happening the night before and meeting potential prospects at random points between other activities.
“In reality, he seems very much of the casual dating mindset,” Sally says. “He is intrigued by seeing who catches his eye. For sure his day was bookended with the afterglow of a great date and included possibilities with a new woman he met. However, the women mentioned were peripheral to his main story.”
Sally believes that Liam needs to change up his dating profile and whole dating approach; to be less focused on finding a long-term commitment and shifting his profile to encourage something less intense. “I feel that the more comfortable he is taking his time and meeting a variety of partners without putting himself under any commitment pressures, the sooner he will gain clarity about what he needs for himself and bring his life into greater balance,” Sally argues. “When he has greater clarity, he'll find the right woman for him.”
Holly’s day, while similarly simple – nice meals, drinks and dinner with friends, trips to the beach, playing with the dog – lays out huge signposts for something more serious: a long-standing, committed relationship, emotional and physical intimacy and even mentions exploring parenthood at the end of the day.
“Holly is ready for the next stage of her life more than her profile alludes to,” Sally says. “She is ready to meet her significant other and embrace all the possibilities that could bring for her and her partner, including starting their own family.”
Sally believes that Holly’s profile could shout more about herself. “Her profile should show more about how she feels successful in many areas of her life and she can also rightly say how proud she is with the life she’s made for herself. From this place of feeling grounded and content in who she is, she recognises what's missing for her now is the love of her life and that’s who she’s looking for.”
Dan’s perfect day is the most elaborate: living in an apartment in Barcelona, cycling to a lake and going freshwater swimming, drinks with friends, a spontaneous trip out to a warehouse party and staying out until 8am. Sally believes that this excitement, colour and adventurousness should be relayed in Dan’s profile, which, at the moment, reads more like a CV.
“Specifying Latin heritage, or how much he enjoys the way of life in places like Barcelona, could be added to his profile,” Sally says. “I don’t know how Dan would feel about niching down his profile to say exactly what he wants – I think he should. Other people aren’t psychic so sometimes you need to put what you want out there in a straightforward way and see what happens.”
The dating expert
Dami Olonisakin, better known as Oloni, is a dating expert and sex blogger who has been consulting on relationships for the past ten years. She is known for her viral Twitter threads, in which she anonymously shares her readers’ wildest sex stories, as well as her podcast, Laid Bare, which has a listernership reaching the six-figure mark. She also has a dating show coming out with BBC Three at the end of this year called My Mates Are Bad Dates, in which she will consult terrible daters on how to do dating better.
“Whew, people are really bad at taking photos,” she tells me after looking at the three daters’ profiles. Liam, specifically, she thinks needs a major change-up. “There's been research that shows that dating profiles that usually do well are those who basically show off that they're either athletic or that they're into the gym or that they like to keep fit. So if he loves his sport, he needs photos of himself where he's at a match or something, to show that side of him... rather than the dark, gory photos that he's got and sharing that he's a prison officer.”
Oloni agrees that many of Liam’s dating app problems stem from him revealing his job title. “He needs to tone down what he does,” she says, “and when it comes to a job like that, it's not really something you should be screaming about on the internet anyway. Dating profiles are supposed to be fun and quirky, so he needs to show that he’s an outgoing person. It's not supposed to be taken too seriously and he needs to remember that.”
Alongside better pictures – “they all need better photos” – Oloni thinks that Holly is being way too vague in her profile. “She needs to show us a bit more of her personality,” she says. “If she’s well-rounded, if she’s multifaceted, she needs to show that.”
Oloni notes Holly’s apprehension about coming off arrogant or boastful and says that, while it’s entirely normal to hype yourself on your profile, there are some easy ways to signpost features of your personality without blatantly bragging about your best traits.
“If she wants to show us that she's smart, she can probably share that she's a ‘booklover’,” Oloni argues. “No different from someone who's sharing their love for the arts saying that they love going to the movies or that they watched 300 films. I think she just needs to find ways to get it across without saying, ‘I am funny ha ha ha.’ If you're funny, say something that you find hilarious. It can be one-liners, for example, that she feels comfortable expressing. Simply sharing a joke that's not OTT.”
When it comes to Dan’s profile issues, Oloni summarises quite succinctly: “This isn’t your Instagram bio, this is a dating profile.” Dan’s problem she argues, is that he simply lists basic biographical information about himself rather than revealing things about himself that show why he could be a good date – or even an interesting person to get to know.
“He needs to put a bit more effort into his dating profile and to switch things up,” she tells me. “Tell us something interesting about you. What's a fun fact about yourself? What are your interests? What are your hobbies? Put a bit more effort in and you can basically attract someone with the same hobbies or interests.”
“He needs to put more effort in with photos as well,” Oloni says. “He needs to take better photos, find photos of himself where he's gone on holiday. He needs to ask himself as well, if he saw his own dating profile, would he think that person is serious about dating? Not a commitment, but even just looking to date properly and seeing if it could go somewhere, or do they think that that person would just be down to fuck? What would he think? You know, you can tell when you look at a person's profile if they're quite serious or if they're looking to date or if they're just there for a hook-up. You can kind of get that. So he needs to ask himself what is this reflecting? And just give himself a total brand-new start.”
The advertiser
Charlie Palmer is a Planner at Uncommon – a creative agency in London that has worked with brands such as ITV, the World Wildlife Fund and YouTube. “A dating profile, like an advert, has a specific goal,” he tells me. “It has a specific behaviour it wants to promote. In this case, the goal is just to start a conversation. That’s the furthest the profile can get you – after that, your actual personality has to take over. The profile doesn’t get you a girlfriend, or even a date. There’s no point trying to say loads of different things in your Tinder bio.”
With that in mind, he says Liam has several major issues. “Liam needs to simplify that bio,” Charlie argues. “Communicating one thing well is better than communicating four things badly. People are looking through hundreds of profiles – they don’t care enough to read a list of stuff.
“The selfies are a problem on a few levels,” he also says. “Liam’s a very sociable guy, but his profile looks like he doesn’t have any mates to take photos of him. It looks like far too much effort has gone into taking selfies specifically to put on the profile, and, most importantly, a selfie taken in your bedroom is a conversational non-starter.”
Like the other professionals, Charlie argues that Holly needs to sell herself a bit more. “Holly’s profile feels a little like she’s trying to persuade people on the app that she’s good enough for them,” he says. “But she should try the opposite. You want people to be doubting whether they’re good enough for you.”
Charlie says that Holly needs to inject a bit more personality into her bio. “Her bio should be less like a shop window with a sale on and more like a club with a massive (but friendly) bouncer on the door. She should try baby steps to begin with, like, ‘If you don’t like dachshunds this isn’t going to work’ or ‘I have strong views on the Kardashians.’” He also thinks less staged, more candid pictures could go a long way. “Nobody likes an advert that feels like an advert. Everyone likes an advert that feels like an exclusive invitation.”
Dan’s profile, Charlie says, reads too much like a dispassionate list of his features. “Dan needs to show rather than tell,” he tells me. “On paper, it does the job, but he needs to think about his audience a bit more. The profile is designed to give an idea of what it’s like to hang out with you. It’s not a list of qualifications.”
He says that Dan’s pictures could do more to convey his personality too. “If he has photos of himself in context, he should use more of them,” Charlie argues. “He’s listed lots of attributes and interests in the bio that aren’t coming through in the pictures, and the vast majority of communication is visual. It’s particularly difficult to get an idea of what you’re like when you’ve got the same expression in every photo. Mix it up a bit for a more rounded profile.”
Finally, Charlie suggests Dan appeals to the emotional side of his personality to make his profile read less like a CV. “The best advertising is emotional not rational – focus on how you want your profile to feel, not just the things it describes. If you’re funny, be funny. If you’re charming, be charming. What you say or show matters less than how you say it or show it.”
In conclusion
Dating cannot be mastered with just a good profile, and a good profile doesn’t mean you’ve mastered a dating app. Without a decent opening line, an ability to converse like a normal human being and the grace to ask to meet someone IRL without sounding like a serial killer, daters will struggle to get anywhere online. But in order to get to any of those points, a good profile is a necessity, and for Liam, Dan and Holly, theirs can be dramatically – and expertly – improved. And while it may not guarantee that they’ll find the person of their dreams, it is a good, and perhaps the only, place to start. CLICK HERE TO SEE A VIDEO PRESENTATION
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When Liam moved to Manchester from south Wales in 2017, he thought he was doing it for lasting love. Dating his girlfriend long distance for over a year, he found a job as a prison officer and moved north to be with her. But after a year he found himself single again and hasn’t managed to date anyone seriously since. He desperately wants a committed, long-term relationship, but is struggling to make it past consistent hook-ups.
When Holly’s relationship fell apart a few months ago, she left London after 13 years of living there, moving with her brand-new dachshund puppy to her hometown of Hastings. But trying to date other women in Hastings has proved less than fruitful.
Dan’s life in London has been pretty good. A graphic designer, just finishing his masters at UCL, he’s got most of it figured out. But at 29, he’s realised that the gay clubbing scene is making it more difficult to meet romantic partners with whom he really connects and is struggling to find someone to date for more than a couple months.
While all three of these people are in vastly situations, one thing unites them: they all absolutely despise their online dating profiles. From Tinder to Bumble to Her to Hinge, they feel cringed-out, awkward and unfulfilled by how they present themselves and feel their dating profile is holding them back.
This is a major problem for online daters. You can be charming, funny and genuinely interesting, but when it comes to writing a bio your mind can go blank. It’s hard to make profiles read the same (see: “I love gin!”, “My pet peeve is slow walkers”) and it’s hard to make your real self stand out. In the US, dating profile styling agencies are even starting to pop up, where people can pay to have this increasingly common dating problem professionally solved. But for those who don’t have hundreds to shell out on professionals, the question still persists: what do you need to do to make your dating profile better?
Liam, Dan and Holly have gotten this question answered. Working with three romantic professionals – a relationships therapist, a dating expert and a professional advertising creative – they have willingly handed over their profiles, histories, and insecurities to be molded into a more authentic version of themselves and get desperately needed news on how to make their dating profile dateable.
The datersLiam
The basics: 28 years old, Welsh, straight, prison officer. Describes himself as a regular guy, interested in sport, going out with his friends, spending time with his family and looking after his dog, Jasper.
Dating history: Has had three serious relationships and says that all of them petered out at the same time – around the two-year mark.
Dating profile description: Mostly selfies, mostly taken in dark rooms, one topless, mostly bordering on scary faces. Bio reads, “I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing / Beards make the world go round / Never watched Game Of Thrones, which is apparently a huge deal? / Welsh boy trespassing in the North, tryna not get kicked out after Brexit...”
Dating problems: Liam’s problem is two-fold. Although his job as a prisoner officer is interesting, it’s not something that defines him – however, it’s the only thing on dating apps that women seem to be interested in talking about. His second problem is that, when he does meet people, there’s miscommunication about what each other wants and he ends up thinking it’s becoming serious when all she wants is something casual.
Looking for: A serious relationship. “What’s the point in having fun if there’s nobody there when you have a rubbish day at work? Who’s there to share your good and bad days, your achievements? Who’s there to pick you up when you’re down? And, ideally, that’s what I’m after. Something real. Something proper.”
Holly
The basics: 31 years old, English, bisexual, working-from-home office manager, dachshund dog mum. Describes herself as multifaceted – funny, smart, well-read and interested in everything from politics to the Kardashians.
Dating history: Has had two serious relationships, one with a man and one with a woman, but is looking to just date women for the time being.
Dating profile description: Mostly close-up selfies, one picture with her dog. Bio reads, “Office manager by day, mum to a mini sausage all the time / Love long conversations, walks with the pup, binge watching Netflix, exploring bars and restaurants, blogging / Looking to meet someone to enjoy my next thing with!”
Dating problems: Holly has paralysis when it comes to talking about herself in a positive way and is terrified of coming off as boastful, cringey or cocky. “I’m down to earth, have a great personality, and I'm quite an all-rounded person. But explaining that to somebody in a few short sentences, to catch somebody's interest and not come off like an absolute knob, is really hard!”
Looking for: Nothing too serious, but someone to actually connect with.
Dan
The basics: 29 years old, half-English, half-Paraguayan, gay, graphic designer, master's student in urban studies. Describes himself as outgoing and adventurous and knows his own self-worth, but he’s growing increasingly tired of dating via the club scene.
Dating history: Has had three boyfriends, none lasting longer than nine months, and has only been on five or six “real dates” in his whole life.
Dating profile description: Mostly semi-ironic bad selfies, two topless, one picture of himself out cycling, one picture with a friend. Bio reads, “Happy, creative, driven, calm and introspective / Once had a full-blown 20-minute argument with Boris Johnson whilst cycling to work / I’m a student with a research interest in queer space, cycling and community-led projects / I’m also a graphic designer on the side. Sometimes an art school tutor. Sometimes a van man / Half-English, half-Paraguayan, born in Hastings / 5’10”.”
Dating problems: Dan is afraid that his profile isn’t drawing in the right person. He thinks he’s more interesting than his profile indicates and doesn’t convey his personality and, therefore, isn’t matching with guys he will actually connect with. He wants his profile to make him appear like someone dateable, not just someone to sleep with.
Looking for: Dating people who he might genuinely get on with, with the possibility for something more serious. “I would like to find guys who are suited to me. And by communicating what I am or who I am in a better way on my dating profile, I might attract the right kind of guys.”
The experts weigh inThe relationships therapist
Sally Baker is a relationships therapist who has appeared on the BBC, in the Observer and in New York Magazine. She says almost all daters do their dating profiles wrong: setting their own personal pitch to low.
“Online dating can be particularly challenging if the person writing their profile isn’t sure what they want for themselves,” Sally says. “Their ambivalence can make their profile read as wishy-washy or uninspiring. Profiles that are written without clarity usually mean you attract the kind of people that aren’t right for you either on a casual basis or for something more serious and long term.
“Of course, it's not about being egotistical or showing off either, as that’s just another kind of knob-head behaviour,” she adds. “It is, however, about describing yourself and what you want in a real, approachable way that would resonate with the right people for you.”
Sally takes all three daters through an exercise she does with all her clients, called “Perfect Day”, getting them to describe what their perfect day would look like, from the location to the activities to with whom that perfect day would ideally be spent. Sally encourages her clients to forget about realistic boundaries and to “dream big” about what their day would look like. “This is so if you only achieve half of what you want in your perfect day it will still be amazing,” she says.
Liam’s perfect day is actually pretty simple: nice meals, walking his dog, spending time with his family and skydiving for the first time. But despite his intense interest in being in a serious, romantic relationship, his day doesn’t mention a partner at all. Instead, it mentions dating as happening the night before and meeting potential prospects at random points between other activities.
“In reality, he seems very much of the casual dating mindset,” Sally says. “He is intrigued by seeing who catches his eye. For sure his day was bookended with the afterglow of a great date and included possibilities with a new woman he met. However, the women mentioned were peripheral to his main story.”
Sally believes that Liam needs to change up his dating profile and whole dating approach; to be less focused on finding a long-term commitment and shifting his profile to encourage something less intense. “I feel that the more comfortable he is taking his time and meeting a variety of partners without putting himself under any commitment pressures, the sooner he will gain clarity about what he needs for himself and bring his life into greater balance,” Sally argues. “When he has greater clarity, he'll find the right woman for him.”
Holly’s day, while similarly simple – nice meals, drinks and dinner with friends, trips to the beach, playing with the dog – lays out huge signposts for something more serious: a long-standing, committed relationship, emotional and physical intimacy and even mentions exploring parenthood at the end of the day.
“Holly is ready for the next stage of her life more than her profile alludes to,” Sally says. “She is ready to meet her significant other and embrace all the possibilities that could bring for her and her partner, including starting their own family.”
Sally believes that Holly’s profile could shout more about herself. “Her profile should show more about how she feels successful in many areas of her life and she can also rightly say how proud she is with the life she’s made for herself. From this place of feeling grounded and content in who she is, she recognises what's missing for her now is the love of her life and that’s who she’s looking for.”
Dan’s perfect day is the most elaborate: living in an apartment in Barcelona, cycling to a lake and going freshwater swimming, drinks with friends, a spontaneous trip out to a warehouse party and staying out until 8am. Sally believes that this excitement, colour and adventurousness should be relayed in Dan’s profile, which, at the moment, reads more like a CV.
“Specifying Latin heritage, or how much he enjoys the way of life in places like Barcelona, could be added to his profile,” Sally says. “I don’t know how Dan would feel about niching down his profile to say exactly what he wants – I think he should. Other people aren’t psychic so sometimes you need to put what you want out there in a straightforward way and see what happens.”
The dating expert
Dami Olonisakin, better known as Oloni, is a dating expert and sex blogger who has been consulting on relationships for the past ten years. She is known for her viral Twitter threads, in which she anonymously shares her readers’ wildest sex stories, as well as her podcast, Laid Bare, which has a listernership reaching the six-figure mark. She also has a dating show coming out with BBC Three at the end of this year called My Mates Are Bad Dates, in which she will consult terrible daters on how to do dating better.
“Whew, people are really bad at taking photos,” she tells me after looking at the three daters’ profiles. Liam, specifically, she thinks needs a major change-up. “There's been research that shows that dating profiles that usually do well are those who basically show off that they're either athletic or that they're into the gym or that they like to keep fit. So if he loves his sport, he needs photos of himself where he's at a match or something, to show that side of him... rather than the dark, gory photos that he's got and sharing that he's a prison officer.”
Oloni agrees that many of Liam’s dating app problems stem from him revealing his job title. “He needs to tone down what he does,” she says, “and when it comes to a job like that, it's not really something you should be screaming about on the internet anyway. Dating profiles are supposed to be fun and quirky, so he needs to show that he’s an outgoing person. It's not supposed to be taken too seriously and he needs to remember that.”
Alongside better pictures – “they all need better photos” – Oloni thinks that Holly is being way too vague in her profile. “She needs to show us a bit more of her personality,” she says. “If she’s well-rounded, if she’s multifaceted, she needs to show that.”
Oloni notes Holly’s apprehension about coming off arrogant or boastful and says that, while it’s entirely normal to hype yourself on your profile, there are some easy ways to signpost features of your personality without blatantly bragging about your best traits.
“If she wants to show us that she's smart, she can probably share that she's a ‘booklover’,” Oloni argues. “No different from someone who's sharing their love for the arts saying that they love going to the movies or that they watched 300 films. I think she just needs to find ways to get it across without saying, ‘I am funny ha ha ha.’ If you're funny, say something that you find hilarious. It can be one-liners, for example, that she feels comfortable expressing. Simply sharing a joke that's not OTT.”
When it comes to Dan’s profile issues, Oloni summarises quite succinctly: “This isn’t your Instagram bio, this is a dating profile.” Dan’s problem she argues, is that he simply lists basic biographical information about himself rather than revealing things about himself that show why he could be a good date – or even an interesting person to get to know.
“He needs to put a bit more effort into his dating profile and to switch things up,” she tells me. “Tell us something interesting about you. What's a fun fact about yourself? What are your interests? What are your hobbies? Put a bit more effort in and you can basically attract someone with the same hobbies or interests.”
“He needs to put more effort in with photos as well,” Oloni says. “He needs to take better photos, find photos of himself where he's gone on holiday. He needs to ask himself as well, if he saw his own dating profile, would he think that person is serious about dating? Not a commitment, but even just looking to date properly and seeing if it could go somewhere, or do they think that that person would just be down to fuck? What would he think? You know, you can tell when you look at a person's profile if they're quite serious or if they're looking to date or if they're just there for a hook-up. You can kind of get that. So he needs to ask himself what is this reflecting? And just give himself a total brand-new start.”
The advertiser
Charlie Palmer is a Planner at Uncommon – a creative agency in London that has worked with brands such as ITV, the World Wildlife Fund and YouTube. “A dating profile, like an advert, has a specific goal,” he tells me. “It has a specific behaviour it wants to promote. In this case, the goal is just to start a conversation. That’s the furthest the profile can get you – after that, your actual personality has to take over. The profile doesn’t get you a girlfriend, or even a date. There’s no point trying to say loads of different things in your Tinder bio.”
With that in mind, he says Liam has several major issues. “Liam needs to simplify that bio,” Charlie argues. “Communicating one thing well is better than communicating four things badly. People are looking through hundreds of profiles – they don’t care enough to read a list of stuff.
“The selfies are a problem on a few levels,” he also says. “Liam’s a very sociable guy, but his profile looks like he doesn’t have any mates to take photos of him. It looks like far too much effort has gone into taking selfies specifically to put on the profile, and, most importantly, a selfie taken in your bedroom is a conversational non-starter.”
Like the other professionals, Charlie argues that Holly needs to sell herself a bit more. “Holly’s profile feels a little like she’s trying to persuade people on the app that she’s good enough for them,” he says. “But she should try the opposite. You want people to be doubting whether they’re good enough for you.”
Charlie says that Holly needs to inject a bit more personality into her bio. “Her bio should be less like a shop window with a sale on and more like a club with a massive (but friendly) bouncer on the door. She should try baby steps to begin with, like, ‘If you don’t like dachshunds this isn’t going to work’ or ‘I have strong views on the Kardashians.’” He also thinks less staged, more candid pictures could go a long way. “Nobody likes an advert that feels like an advert. Everyone likes an advert that feels like an exclusive invitation.”
Dan’s profile, Charlie says, reads too much like a dispassionate list of his features. “Dan needs to show rather than tell,” he tells me. “On paper, it does the job, but he needs to think about his audience a bit more. The profile is designed to give an idea of what it’s like to hang out with you. It’s not a list of qualifications.”
He says that Dan’s pictures could do more to convey his personality too. “If he has photos of himself in context, he should use more of them,” Charlie argues. “He’s listed lots of attributes and interests in the bio that aren’t coming through in the pictures, and the vast majority of communication is visual. It’s particularly difficult to get an idea of what you’re like when you’ve got the same expression in every photo. Mix it up a bit for a more rounded profile.”
Finally, Charlie suggests Dan appeals to the emotional side of his personality to make his profile read less like a CV. “The best advertising is emotional not rational – focus on how you want your profile to feel, not just the things it describes. If you’re funny, be funny. If you’re charming, be charming. What you say or show matters less than how you say it or show it.”
In conclusion
Dating cannot be mastered with just a good profile, and a good profile doesn’t mean you’ve mastered a dating app. Without a decent opening line, an ability to converse like a normal human being and the grace to ask to meet someone IRL without sounding like a serial killer, daters will struggle to get anywhere online. But in order to get to any of those points, a good profile is a necessity, and for Liam, Dan and Holly, theirs can be dramatically – and expertly – improved. And while it may not guarantee that they’ll find the person of their dreams, it is a good, and perhaps the only, place to start. CLICK HERE TO SEE A VIDEO PRESENTATION
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2020.08.23 10:12 JC-DisregardMe A Cast in Review - Trials & Tribulations

Let's get into the third game, hell yeah
I replayed Trials & Tribulations very recently (finishing DGS got me into a major series-replay mood), and was reminded repeatedly throughout of why it's still got the top spot in my rankings for Ace Attorney games. Check out my cast-review posts for the previous games, if you haven't seen them!
Otherwise, let's get into it!
MIA FEY
Being the first player character in this game, Mia's knocked Phoenix out of the top-billing spot for this post. Appropriate, too, considering that this is her best appearance by a margin so wide it warrants its own zipcode.
No longer just the big-sister type and cool-headed mentor, we get to see Mia as a nervous rookie, a woman sinking to her lowest point following the abrupt end of her first trial, and finally as a stone-faced badass practically spitting in Dahlia's face and outlining what a failure her cousin turned out to be.
I don't love the way her relationship with Diego was brushed over with so little detail. It isn't really terrible, and it doesn't actively damage her character, but it could've been a lot better. The way the game presents it, she shows almost none of her side to their relationship before or after they began dating, which can make Godot come across like he was obsessed with a relationship that players could miss entirely.
Still, Mia rocks in this game. As much as I would like to see just one more channelling from her in the modern era of the games, so she can see how far her protégé has come, Trials & Tribulations also makes a perfect send-off for her.
PHOENIX WRIGHT
While this game doesn't give Phoenix any life-changing development like 2-4 did, I think his characterization here is excellent all the same. We get to see the depth of his relationships with Mia, Maya, Pearl, and Edgeworth in better detail here than in any other game, as well as some sides to him that hadn't appeared before. His past with Dahlia hangs over him like a black cloud and leaves him with a lasting sense of heartache that doesn't fully go away until the very end of the story, and yet it also proves to be a key part in what drives him to finish the job in driving his ex-girlfriend's vengeful spirit out of Maya's body for good. That conflict is really much more Mia's thing, though.
We also get to see Phoenix demonstrating more guile than usual in this game, in moments like his outwitting of Furio Tigre. A bit of moral ambiguity makes him interesting when he's spent most of the series as the time-and-again hero up to this point.
MARVIN GROSSBERG
Same model of Grossberg, but in red. Now includes copious discussion of hemorrhoids!
Grossberg had to be a capable mentor on some level to push Mia to eventual success in her career. Sure, Diego was around and involved too, but not for as long. The story here doesn't touch upon his regrets regarding the Fey family, but I suppose that's not important to this case anyway. He knows what Mia is here for, and really does contribute meaningful help, rather than just being an exposition machine like in the first game.
DOUG SWALLOW
Dead, stuck-up British wannabe? Like most victims, he gets very little character even post-mortem. He's got enough sense to be one of precious few people to realize what a snake Dahlia really is, at least. Am I to assume that it actually was Dahlia herself dating him, then, and not Iris? I guess it would make sense, seeing as she only started a relationship with him to buy herself a chance to steal poison.
DAHLIA HAWTHORNE
Vile. Top-notch villain, and a truly despicable person in direct correlation.
Dahlia is a poison, making her favoured murder method quite apt. Everything she touches dies with her, and she is the root cause of every one of her own failures, no matter how hard she tries to deny it. There's an observable decay in her motives throughout the chronological order of the cases, too. She starts as a sociopathic teenager staging a fake kidnapping to make off with the ransom for herself, gladly letting her "boyfriend" of the time go to prison for her assumed murder. After that, she's a student trying to tie up loose ends left behind by her imperfect handling of the first scheme. These first two schemes go mostly as planned, but Dahlia makes enough mistakes to ensure she never gets away as cleanly as she'd like. Next, she poisons Diego and uses Phoenix as a convenient patsy to hide the evidence of her crime, which is ultimately what causes everything to collapse for her. Mia returns with a righteous aim to take her down for good, and Dahlia is finally out of luck, imprisoned for Doug Swallow's murder. All of this happened, of course, because she gave the game away by making Doug suspicious of her during their relationship. Finally, from beyond the grave, Dahlia's only motivation is to kill Maya as a means of striking back against Mia. From a wannabe mastermind to just the same kind of petty monster as her hated mother, and after it all, she's humiliated and defeated once again, getting none of what she wants.
Bridge to the Turnabout is a rare example of an Ace Attorney case that gains a lot on a replay. Knowing that the "Iris" you interact with for most of the case's second half is really Dahlia in disguise paints a very interesting picture of the way she views her twin sister. As "Iris", she talks of "her" betrayal of her sister, and how Dahlia "always does the right thing", making it more than clear that she views Iris as weak and obtrusive, while being a mildly useful tool at best. She makes more than one remark purely out of a petty desire to hurt Phoenix, as well.
Something interesting to note, that I'd forgotten - Dahlia says late in the case that she actually personally convinced her father to abandon Iris at Hazakura Temple.
WINSTON PAYNE
The Payne finally becomes a character of his own here in 3-1. Sporting a pompadour better than any 49 year-old man ought to be able to, Payne against all odds manages to prove that he really was a threat in the courtroom, once upon a time. Sure, most of the heavy lifting in his case is done by Dahlia, but to Payne's credit, he puts up a considerably better fight here than in 1-1 or 2-1, actually getting Mia nervous here and there, and she's already faced and very nearly defeated Edgeworth at this point.
Doug Swallow's murder is nothing compared to the crime that is the loss of that pompadour, I really mean it.
At least The Payne proves himself by beating Phoenix in court. You got one, buddy. ... Hold on, I'm getting a message about something.
THE JUDGE
Like in Justice For All, this game really just sees the Judge refine his technique as an eccentric, goofy old man who appears as timeless as the courthouse itself. He doesn't let himself be cowed by Godot as easily as with Franziska, and he gets both hilarious moments and moments of genuine wisdom in this game. My favourite is this one:
Judge: ... Well, Mr. Wright? It seems to make sense to me...
Phoenix: (It sounds like a reasonable deduction, but I still kinda wonder...)
Phoenix: I'm sorry to say this... but that interpretation would create an enormous contradiction!
Judge: That makes sense. After all, my deductions are almost certainly never correct.
He's still as capable as ever (despite his terrified reactions to Furio Tigre), always wants to see the truth come to light, and is even capable of a meaningful speech on the purpose of the court here and there.
MAYA FEY
Poor, poor Maya. The Fey trauma train will not be stopped.
Maya's character doesn't go particularly far in this game until Case 5, and even then, she spends most of that case off-screen, but against all odds, the case still proves to be a strong showing for her that puts her inner strength on full display, detailing at length why and how she always seems to bounce back from the horrible trauma her family's history forces her to endure.
Take note of how she addresses herself when she begins her testimony in the last trial segment of Case 5. Not "spirit medium", not even "acolyte", but "assistant manager at the Wright & Co. Law Offices". She wants absolutely nothing to do with the Fey Clan anymore, with every ounce of trust she had in her family save for Pearl and Mia destroyed.
I need to just say that having Maya act as the final witness in the original trilogy was a stroke of brilliance. A huge portion of the trilogy's narrative was built around her relationship with Phoenix, and I don't think there could've been any better way to close it off. These two have stuck together through unimaginable trauma and strain, only ever ending up closer for it with time. Phoenix and Maya have, hands down, my favourite opposite-sex friendship in all of fiction.
Finally seeing in full that the reason behind her bright smiles and cheerful remarks even in the face of soul-crushing adversity is her desire to shield those close to her from seeing what she views as her own weakness puts every traumatic event in her past into a different light, and I just love how it all comes together in the end.
Despite her massive self-esteem issues, Maya always tries to see the best in others, from her aunt Morgan's efforts to frame her for a murder a year prior, to her unflinching desperation to argue in Godot's favour in her final cross-examinations. It's crushingly sad to see her arguments slowly fold under the combined counterpoints put forth by both her closest friend and her apparent saviour, and my only real criticism here is that she didn't get a fresh set of sprites to show the utter exhaustion weighing on her. Reverting to her usual topknot-and-training-robes look right after the immediate aftermath of Dahlia's exorcism is about the only flaw I see in the last of the case's finale.
PEARL FEY
This poor kid. Much like her beloved cousin, Pearl always wants to believe the best of the people she loves, even when it's her black-hearted monster of a mother deliberately manipulating her trusting nature to turn her into a weapon. No kid should have to go through even a fraction of what Pearl does in this game.
Still, Pearl exhibits incredible strength for someone so young and in such a difficult, strained position. She always tries her best to do what she believes with all her heart is right, and gives her best effort not to appear weak or broken in front of others, even if her age makes her much less skilled at doing so than Maya.
RON DELITE
I really like Ron, honestly. The fact that he does turn out to genuinely be a criminal and faces no repercussions for it whatsoever is a little annoying, sure, but that's already been true of plenty of less sympathetic characters in the previous games before.
I find Ron endearing, his trailling-off gimmick funny, and his flamboyant persona as Mask☆DeMasque a particularly fun contrast. Where does he find the confidence? Is it all just stashed away inside the costume?
And to Ron's credit, he's not stupid. He tries so hard to confess to the Urn theft for what turns out to be exactly the same reason that Atmey does so, and even matches Atmey's double-jeopardy ploy at the case's end.
Mask☆DeMasque's theme music is great, as well.
DESIRÉE DELITE
Like Desirée, too. She's set up very deliberately to seem like she's just a gold-digger married to Ron's money, and also a potential suspect, but in the end, she's a very strong-willed, committed wife who won't let anything happen to her beloved husband if she can help it. Maybe it's not entirely legal, but she does her part to help out in the investigation more than most witnesses in the series ever have.
One can only imagine how much of a turn-on it is for a thrill-seeker like her to realize her husband really is the theatrical phantom thief himself.
KANE BULLARD
Dead. A jerk? Not much to say here. I guess he was at least clever enough to manage blackmail over Atmey.
DICK GUMSHOE
Gumshoe gets a strong showing again, even if he still doesn't develop particularly deeply. Still the same good-natured goof, and still showing the same refusal to give up in the face of trouble. He even saves Phoenix from a beatdown in Case 3, preventing Tigre from destroying critical evidence! He's put through the usual wringer, of course, with Maggey's harsh response to his actions in Case 3, and his continual abuse at Franziska's hands in Case 5. Phoenix and Maya show more appreciation for the big guy in this game than in most others, though, which is nice.
LARRY BUTZ
Larry is an odd case, in this game. Case 2 doesn't give him an especially great showing, being the case to kick-start what would become a long, wearying run of Flanderization for him. He acts obnoxiously desperate to try and catch Desirée's attention despite being perfectly aware that she's married (while also trying to tell Phoenix off for what he perceives as Nick flirting with her as well), and is generally a useless tool throughout the case, but then his appearance in Case 5 gives him back some of the humanizing traits he had in the first game. Sure, he's unequivocally terrible at trying to express his feelings toward Iris (though he somehow succeeds in inadvertently convincing her that he's an honest, hard-working, and upstanding person, much to Edgeworth's hilarious bafflement), but aside from some ego-driven Psycholocks and a testimony that proves to be as incomprehensible and yet utterly pivotal in solving the mystery as you'd expect from Larry, I think he honestly gets a pretty good showing here on average. He's able to put his childish behaviours aside to give Pearl some badly-needed emotional support in his own bumbling manner, and by the case's end, he has only altruistic motivations for continuing to pursue art now that it's become his inspiration.
... Sadly, the Investigations games and Turnabout Time Traveller would go on to drain away any and all positive traits remaining in Larry, but we don't have to worry about that for now.
WENDY OLDBAG
She shows up in the ending, she counts. And really - she brought macadamia nuts for everyone, and no one is even around to share them. The nerve of these young people, honestly.
ADRIAN ANDREWS
It's good to see Adrian again, free of the trauma and betrayals that made her such a broken woman back in 2-4. It seems that Franziska's influence and friendship have helped her a lot, and in a much healthier way than her past efforts to emulate Celeste Inpax's mannerisms. She's no doubt been a positive influence on Franziska, as well. Of course, she's not without her own new difficulties, her evident clumsiness causing her no shortage of stress in her new job at a high-end department store, but even her lowest moments in 3-2 are far, far better than the depths she was lost to in her first appearance.
LUKE ATMEY
I didn't particularly care for Luke Atmey the first time I played Trials & Tribulations. I saw him as a decent villain behind a very clever scheme. Aiming a little above his pay grade, basically.
This was the case until the English dubbed second season of the anime aired. If you haven't yet seen the anime's version of The Stolen Turnabout, I recommend that you change that at your earliest convenience. For now, though, take this sample of Ian Sinclair's utterly stellar performance as Detective Atmey himself.
At that point, I gained an entirely new appreciation for what an over-the-top lunatic Atmey is, on top of being one of the cleverest villains we've seen in this series. Replaying the case for myself not too long ago was a great time, and gave me more than enough reason to push the Ace Detective up a notch in my personal character rankings.
Another with great theme music.
GODOT
Ahh, Godot, you bastard. A deeply interesting anti-villain, this one. Diego Armando was clearly an entirely different person from the man he became after his coma, and one who had a profound effect on Mia, at that. Once he puts on both his figurative and literal masks, however, things change for the worse.
The coffee maniac is honestly a pretty terrible prosecutor. His cases are mainly built on the extreme efforts the true culprits went to in order to conceal their crimes, and just about all of his counterarguments boil down to "OK, sure, Trite - your theory explains literally everything about the case, and the witness flipped their shit the moment you said it, but uhh where's your proof idiot". Almost like his only experience with prosecutors came from the other side of the courtroom or something, huh?
Godot's deep-seated self-loathing is the ultimate reason for just about everything he does. He hates himself, and deep down, he knows that if he's to blame anyone at all for his situation, it ought to either be Dahlia or himself, but for one reason or another, be it ego or otherwise, he just can't accept that. He needs someone else to blame, and he casts it all onto Phoenix. Phoenix was the one Dahlia used to hide the poison that put him into his coma. Phoenix was the one who could've prevented Mia's murder. He's to blame, rather than the man who personally killed Mia. His own moment of carelessness when questioning Dahlia cost him everything he had but his life, and he just can't take that.
Again, like I mentioned in Mia's section, I wish that more had been done to show his relationship with her. The anime touches on it a bit more in its adaptation of the last trial segment, but there could've been so much more to it. The whole thing seems like an unfortunate victim of the first game's writing style, from back when Takumi had no idea of whether or not it would be successful enough to warrant sequels. This meant, of course, that absolutely nothing in games one or two pointed to Diego's mere existence, much less his evident influence on Mia.
The cracks in Godot's armour start to show for real in the final trial, when it starts to become clear that he is actively trying to steer the trial toward his own indictment. On some subconscious level, he wants Phoenix to prove him wrong and dispel his claims that he's unworthy to be Mia's successor. At the same time, of course, he's still fighting to validate his misplaced hatred toward Mia's protégé.
His hero complex is the other key component to what drives him in all he does in this story. When he caught wind of Morgan's scheme to kill Maya, Godot could have simply destroyed the letter Morgan had written to Pearl and potentially prevented the entire plan from ever coming to pass in the first place. He could have told Misty to go to Maya directly and warn her of what her aunt was planning. Instead of taking either of these routes, however, or any other that would cut the head off of Morgan's plan right from the start, he chooses to let the plan play out, taking a passive role from the sidelines that allows it to progress until the precise moment that he can step in and cast himself as the hero, deluding himself into believing that this will redeem his failure to "protect" Mia.
Godot is a deeply tragic character, but I appreciate even more on a replay how the game allows the player to choose for themselves whether or not he deserves sympathy. Maya certainly sympathizes with him, wanting to believe that he acted out of a desire to protect her for her late sister's sake, but Godot himself argues that there's no way to know that for sure. He says himself that he has no idea what was going through his mind when he "killed" Dahlia, despite having known that the person he would be killing would in all probability be Misty Fey herself, or, if things had really gone south, even poor Pearl.
At the end of all of this, "Godot" is dead, and we see one final conversation between Phoenix Wright and Diego Armando, the latter's text boxes even reverting to his true name to reflect the death of his prosecutor persona.
MAGGEY BYRDE
This is a weird showing for Maggey, like with Larry. At points she's good, and at other points she's unreasonable and annoying. It's obvious at a glance that Detective Gumshoe is incredibly uncomfortable with having to testify against her after fighting to secure an appeal for her case, and yet this case needlessly includes a downright mean-spirited subplot with Maggey acting outraged and resentful toward him for doing what is required of his job, seemingly only to kick the detective while he's down.
Otherwise, though, I still like Maggey on a basic level for the same overall reasons outlined in my Justice For All post.
GLEN ELG
haha palindromes crippling gambling debt
(did I seriously write the word "alliteration" here instead of "palindromes" the first time - I really was sleepy writing this)
JEAN ARMSTRONG
This character really wouldn't fly in a game made today, would he? I appreciate Janet Hsu's remarks on the challenges of localizing a character like Armstrong. Give them a read, if you're interested. Honestly, I just find him to be an unfortunate damper on the case due to the obvious and major differences in societal standards for LGBT+ characters in media today compared to the mid-2000s.
Putting that whole section aside though, Armstrong's just not especially likeable, is he? Fairly friendly, but also a selfish thief whose financial troubles are very much his own doing, and if not for a timely appearance by Gumshoe, he would've played a major part in rendering Maggey's case completely hopeless on Furio Tigre's orders. Still presenting critical evidence to the people it incriminates, huh, Nick?
VICTOR KUDO
At least a little more depth than you'd expect from a character of his archetype. Grumpiness and shoulder strap-related perversions aside, Kudo really isn't a bad guy. He's been left behind by the world he lives in, his family mostly treats him like a nuisance, and the cover-up for the crime leaves him so thoroughly duped that even his most honest efforts to provide truthful testimony make him look like a doddering old fool.
LISA BASIL
Sorry, who?
Boy, is she forgettable. One Psyche-Lock segment is the only thing sparing her from complete irrelevance. Neat character design, at least.
VIOLA CADAVERINI
Another without all that much to her. Like Victor Kudo, Viola's really not a particularly bad person. She's been tricked into believing that Tigre's affection toward her is genuine, and she badly wants to believe that it is, even going as far as to take part in his scheme to frame Maggey, only for harsh truth to force that belief away from her and leave her disgusted and regretful.
FURIO TIGRE
I like his presentation. The idea that he could somehow pull of an impression of Phoenix Wright that would convince an entire court full of people who had met the real thing before despite making only the minimum possible effort is hilarious, if a bit of a stretch even for this series. He's not on Atmey's level of cleverness, and while his defeat comes about in similar fashion, with Phoenix managing to dupe him into incriminating himself with a well-placed lie in the absence of hard evidence, Tigre's example makes him seem quite a bit dumber.
Great theme music, too. This game's character-specific music tracks are pretty much all top-notch, actually.
TERRY FAWLES
Man, things are seriously messed up for Terry. By all appearances, he has some unspecified developmental disability to begin with, creating a situation directly flipped from what would normally be expected when he ends up in a "romantic" relationship with the teenaged Dahlia. If anything, she's clearly the one taking advantage of him, from his overly-trusting nature to his extremely naïve perception of love.
Some people have contested this outlook on Terry using the fact that he was acting as Dahlia's "tutor" when they met. What exactly he was teaching her is never specified, and I put forth the additional point of speculation that Dahlia may very well have chosen him specifically as a tutor for her father to hire, seeing a particularly easy target. Next to nothing indicates that Mr. Hawthorne was a particularly attentive or concerned parent, which I think supports that claim pretty well.
In any case, Terry's death on the witness stand is a tragedy that closes out one of my favourite cases in the series in an agonizingly unfair manner, perfectly cementing the animosity between Mia and Dahlia in the years to follow. The entire climax to this trial is my favourite part of the game.
VALERIE HAWTHORNE
Dead, and morally-questionable, but certainly a damn sight better than her step-sister. Valerie was capable of remorse after effectively destroying Terry's life. Dahlia obviously wasn't.
THE (BR)OTHER JUDGE
(Yes, I know he appeared in Case 2 first, shut up)
The other, comparably bearded Judge is a fun contrast to his brother. He takes far less nonsensical shit from others in the courtroom, and while this is good sometimes, like when he tries to have Franziska's whip confiscated, it also creates problems for both sides of the court at times, whenever he gets tired of the current trial and decides to just move on with his verdict. In a rather strange contrast with himself, meanwhile, he's known to criticize his older brother for not studying up on the subjects of his cases well enough in advance.
... Now, for the important part - why is he stereotypically Canadian when his brother isn't? Did they grow up separately, with only him in Canada? Are they both Canadian, with only the younger of the two continuing to embrace his birth country's identity? What is Ace Attorney's version of Canada like, anyway? Get me that in AA7.
MISTY FEY
So, so many bad parents in this series. To Misty's credit, she loves her daughters and does show the initiative to protect Maya when presented with the opportunity, but she also takes a passive, distant enough approach that Maya ends up in extreme danger anyway, and the effort costs Misty her life. Letting Godot call the shots in their effort to combat Morgan's scheme was quite a mistake on her part. And speaking of...
MORGAN FEY
This woman can rot. Without even making an in-person appearance this time around, Morgan proves to be every bit the selfish monster that the worst interpretations of her 2-2 appearance would suggest. Using Pearl as nothing more than a proxy, she wants to kill Maya and put an end to her sister's side of the Fey family line, every step of her plan motivated solely by the resentment she was never mature enough to get past following her loss of the Master's position.
It certainly wasn't Morgan's fault that she was born without the spiritual powers necessary to become the Master of Kurain, but it also wasn't Misty's fault, and yet Morgan spends effectively her entire life with that same boiling sense of resentment toward her sister up to the end.
BIKINI
Flighty, well-meaning, and overall fairly likeable. Her personality makes for some nice moments of levity as well, particularly when she's chatting with the increasingly-irritated Edgeworth.
MILES EDGEWORTH
Ahh, the culmination of a three-game character arc. 3-5 Edgeworth is my favourite version of him. Gone is the shrewd, emotionally-stunted disciple of Manfred von Karma, replaced by a changed man whose motivation in life and work is to uncover the truth of every case put before him, no matter the odds. He's matured far more than Franziska seems willing to, shelving the pride he once treated with such importance, while Franziska simply won't allow herself to do the same.
... Of course, I can present all of this puffed-up talk about his changes in morals, but what I really love is how the playable version of Edgeworth in the case's first half so quickly proves himself to be a vendor of sarcasm so scathing it would take the paint off a wall. His exhausted, "are you fucking joking" responses to the madness he lets himself be roped into once Larry convinces him to return to America and help Phoenix out are an absolute delight. At first, he tries to brush off Larry's concerns over the phone completely, but once the Butz convinces him that Phoenix is dying, he lets himself be dragged into the events with palpable regret that once more reminds me of how frustrating I find his sudden drop-off in character depth in the Investigations games. A topic for another time, of course.
I've spoken plenty about Edgeworth's poor people skills. They're still present here, but he shows clear growth in moments like his conversation with Iris in the detention centre, telling her that he will defend her to the last word on the one condition that she confess the truth about her past to Phoenix once everything is done. He might not be in any way the right person to handle the issue himself, but Edgeworth can tell that his old friend is in serious pain due to something between him and Iris in the past, and he isn't about to ignore it.
(EDIT: 3-4 Edgeworth is tackled in a comment below!)
FRANZISKA VON KARMA
Much better here. She hasn't done an about-face and dropped her aggressive, spiteful personality altogether, but between her interactions with Phoenix leaning much closer to cordial, and her moments of brief weakness like when she's harshly rebuked by Pearl, and shown to be noticeably affected by the exchange, Franziska takes a good step away from being as dull and frustrating as she was in her debut. She still needs a lot more to reach Edgeworth's level of character writing quality, but this is a great start for her.
Her jealousy toward Edgeworth specifically is much more focused in 3-5, which lets her ease off from acting quite so horrible toward Phoenix, and she even puts it upon herself to help with the task of breaking open the Sacred Cavern when she believes that Maya's life will be in danger otherwise, knowing this will throw away her chance to prove herself in court. Sure, she's not doing it out of altruism, but it's still a net positive for her behaviour. Like I mentioned above, you figure this had anything to do with her becoming friends with Adrian?
IRIS
Oh, Sister Iris. You bland, bland character, you.
I carefully examined every last moment of screentime Iris has throughout my recent replay of Bridge to the Turnabout. I thought her motives through, I considered the way other characters talk about her, and I kept notes to organize my thoughts for this post.
There's next to nothing there.
I know Iris has her fans. I respect that. People have plenty of legitimate reasons to like her. I won't ever try and tell them they're wrong for liking her, or for drawing more depth from her character than I can.
But she's just so empty. Iris is barely even in the case, appearing on-and-off throughout the first half, and then spending most of the second offscreen and being impersonated by Dahlia. As I mentioned in Dahlia's section way back up near the top, this section of the case does offer some interesting insight into the way she views Iris, but let me tell you - it doesn't do Iris any favours. Her defining traits have always been and remain "she's very nice", "she loves Phoenix", and "she helps her sister with damn near every crime she's asked to".
Iris is weak. Her willful negligence allows Dahlia's worst excesses to continue over the years, and in spite of her single detailed effort to resist one of her sister's plots, she is ineffectual at best. Phoenix only survived Dahlia's efforts to get rid of him by blind luck, and no matter what - no matter how many countless lives Dahlia destroys, Iris still fucking feels sorry for her. Right to the game's ending, she insists that her sister was a good person deep down, and one who couldn't be blamed for her actions. Iris is too weak to break away from the influence of Dahlia's stronger personality even months after her sister's death, and her inaction only ever allows things to become worse. She blames not Dahlia, but herself for Valerie's murder, saying that it was because she backed out of their plan that things turned out the way they did, and not because of what a monster Dahlia was.
There's one thing in particular that I want to attack here: when Iris talks to Phoenix about Dahlia's efforts to poison him in their university days, she says that it was the first time Dahlia ever kept her in the dark about a plan of hers. Consider what that means for a moment. Dahlia poisoning Diego Armando? Iris knew about that in advance. What did she do? I don't think I really need to tell you that the answer is "nothing".
I don't miss Iris. I never will. I consider her final scene, in the game's end credits, to be a damn near laughable attempt to play up the hope that she might rekindle her relationship with Phoenix after her inaction caused him trauma after trauma.
(Aaand that about covers it. I love Trials & Tribulations. I'm up late getting this big-ass post finished, so let me know if I somehow skipped anyone, because my current state of sleepiness makes that easy to believe, and by all means - let me know your thoughts on all of this! I'd love to hear them.)
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2020.08.21 23:06 Quirky-Motor EXTENSIVE two-part write up. The murder of Laci Peterson- is there really reasonable doubt? The end of the prosecution case and defense's case. Part 2 of 2. Please read part 1 first for the prosecution case and background.

Other info used by the prosecution
What Laci was wearing when she went missing is somewhat of a mystery. Laci was found in tan maternity capris and a maternity bra. Her sister Amy, the last person who saw Laci conclusively, said she was wearing tan maternity capris, a floral blouse, and dress shoes when she saw Laci on the evening of the 23rd. Those clothes were found in the home during the search warrant. The blouse was in the hamper and the pants were in the hanging in the closet. Laci was found in very similar pants to the ones she was wearing on the 23rd, she may have had two pairs of the same pants. She was not found in a white shirt or black pants like Scott and neighbors claimed she as wearing. This was the outfit on Laci’s missing poster.
Scott refused to get Laci’s dental records for Modesto PD for weeks. He made excuses such as he didn’t know the address or couldn’t remember which dentist she went to. When police got the records, it showed that Scott and Laci went to the same dentist.
Scott never inventoried Laci’s things. When he discovered she was missing he never looked to see if she took her purse, cell phone, or coat with her on her walk.
At the home an open bottle of ranch dressing was on the counter on the night of the 24th. When asked Scott said he didn’t like ranch dressing and that it was for Laci’s pizza, which they ate the night before.
The Rochas wanted to retrieve some of Laci’s things such as mementos and Laci’s diary from the Peterson home, but Scott would not comply. Scott replied by getting a security system and Lee said the Rochas could not have these things because they were “Scott’s property.” Scott called the security company for his house and made sure the company knew “no Rochas” was his policy. Sharon later broke into the house to get these things- no charges were filed against the Rochas.
Scott tried to sell he and Laci’s home only three weeks after Laci went missing. He asked realtors to keep the story out of the press and wanted the house sold as is, completely furnished, with everything in it. Despite this he still would not give the Rochas Laci’s things such as her wedding dress, diary, or décor from the home.
There has been much debate over whether or not Scott wanted to have a baby or not and his behavior shows both a doting father and a bachelor playboy, depending on who you ask. At one-point Scott was talking to Anne Marie Rocha, Brent’s wife when he told her that he “was hoping for infertility” in the middle of Laci’s struggle to get pregnant. She thought it was a weird joke. On a home video of a holiday, Scott has to hold a baby for a few minutes and says “well this isn’t very fun” Laci says, “this is the only time you’ll see him do that (hold a baby)” and laughs. Scott told Amber Frey that he was so adamant about not having a child he wanted to get a vasectomy. Adversely, others have mentioned that Scott did want a baby. He painted Conner’s nursery and when Laci was trying to conceive, he got a Viagra prescription to make sure they would be able to have sex when she was ovulating.
In January 2003, Sharon Rocha called Scott to inform him that in a Jan. search of the bay searchers did not find Laci, only an anchor. Scott seems to whistle in relief. The conversation was so unsettling it was played for the jury.
Throughout the investigation Scott never participated in any public events for his wife. He refused to talk at vigils, on the news, or even get his photograph taken by local reporter Ted Rowlands. This was surprising to Rowlands as most missing people get very little press and when they do loved ones typically jump at the opportunity to spread the word about their missing relatives. Eventually, Scott contacted Gloria Gomez and gave a total of four interviews. In these interviews Scott said things like "I loved Laci" past tense and other statements which made him look bad to the public.
In January det. Grogan asked Scott again if he had had any affairs. Scott said no and Grogan produced a picture of Scott and Amber. Scott peered at the photo for a while and then responded, “Is that supposed to be me?”
In early January, when Laci had been missing for three weeks, Scott called dish network and added the Playboy channel to his subscription. Four days later he canceled the channel and instead added the TENXtsy channel, a hardcore porn channel instead which cost I believe an extra $12.99 monthly. This was for the TV in the living room. He canceled the channel on February 18th 2003, the day a search warrant was to be executed in his home. He told the dish network he was cancelling because he was moving abroad. One documentary claims that the police bought the subscription to frame Scott. Like many other tidbits in this story alone it doesn’t mean much but it shows how Scott was behaving as if his wife was not coming home.
Before his arrest Scott was staying with his half-sister Anne Bird in San Diego. While there Scott’s came on to Anne’s babysitter and made her mixed drinks, he called flirtinis. Jackie Peterson also said to the babysitter “I hope Scott can meet a nice girl like you.” The behavior of both Scott and Jackie was so outrageous and inappropriate the babysitter never came back.
Scott had two debit cards. One was linked to a PayPal account that Laci did not know about. He used this account to buy things for his various girlfriends.
Scott bought Ayiana, Amber’s daughter a pop-up book for Christmas. This book was purchased for Conner by Scott’s sister and given to Laci at Conner’s baby shower.
There were some rumors in this case that Laci had previously also had an affair with a man who worked at her gym. These rumors were unable to be verified by either the prosecution or the defense and no evidence to support this theory was ever found.
When patrol officers first entered the house, they noticed the defense attorney ad was open in the phone book on the kitchen counter. Later tests showed that the phone book naturally opened to several different ads because of how the pages were designed. This ad was one of those pages.
On Dec. 25th Lee Peterson made sure that Scott had an attorney, and was no longer speaking to anyone within the police department. This made some think that Lee was suspicious of his son from the beginning. Others have said that Lee was simply being proactive.
By February police told Laci’s family that they had cleared all of Laci’s family members… with the exclusion of Scott.
Chris Pixley and Richard Cole are two journalists who are always interviewed in documentaries about the case. Both men stayed with the Petersons and were planning on helping the Petersons write a book about the case after Scott was exonerated. Both men attended the trial on family passes.>
Laci’s family supported Scott for the first few weeks of the investigation.
After the testimony of over 100 prosecution witnesses, the Defense’s presented this case
Laci was alive and well on the morning of the 24th when Scott left for work and she met with foul play outside her home that morning. There were a variety of theories pushed forward.
  1. One was that Laci was accosted when she confronted the men robbing the Medina house across the street at approximately 11:40 am on Christmas eve. This is corroborated by a witness, Diane Jackson, who saw a van in the area at that time.
  2. Another was she was attacked in the park by either a sex offender or because of her nice jewelry.
  3. The third was that Laci was abducted by a family in a brown van who used her for some type of Satanic ritual.
Mark Geragos, Scott’s million-dollar celebrity attorney said in his opening statement that he would produce witnesses who saw Laci walking that morning, witnesses who saw Scott’s empty boat, and a witness who saw a pregnant woman being pushed into a van (a man named Tom Harshman), but none of these witnesses were produced at trial.
Timeline and theories
Early on in the case the defense scored major points by showing the jury that it was likely Laci was alive on Christmas eve, which was contrary to the prosecution who tried to show that Laci died on the evening of the 23rd. The defense showed this by demonstrating that Scott watched Martha Stewart that morning, and because Scott described Laci wearing clothes witnesses saw her in that day, white shirt and black pants. They also pointed to the fact that the dog was found with a leash on and that Laci’s curling iron was out on the counter. The computer evidence such as the online shopping on the computer that morning added to this theory. Geragos also told the jury that the prosecution could not answer how Laci was murdered, when she murdered, or where she was murdered with any detail at all. All of these things made the prosecution look like bumbling idiots and the jury was impressed.
Geragos also showed that Modesto PD had not interviewed all area sex offenders in an effort to show reasonable doubt. Brocchini explained that he did not interview all sex offenders because some were so elderly, but the damage was done. In another prosecution guffaw, it was revealed that not all witnesses who saw Laci that morning were formally interviewed by the police. Modesto PD claimed that it was impossible to interview every person, but that mistake was another piece in the puzzle that showed that perhaps, the police had tunnel vision in this case.
Geragos also tried to display that the men who robbed the Medina house were good suspects. The Medinas who lived on Covena Ave. left their home at 10:32 am on Christmas eve and did not return until the afternoon of the 26th when they discovered they had been robbed. Assuming that the robbery happened on the 24th and not the 25th or 26th like the robbers later claimed, it is believed the burglary happened at about 11:40 am, after the Medinas left for the Christmas holiday. This time is corroborated by a neighbor named Diane Jackson who saw three “dark skinned but not African American” men behind a van in front of the Medinas’ home at this time. Police put out a reward for information and got a break within days.
Steven Todd and Donald Pearce were arrested for the robbery on January 2nd 2003 after trying to sell some valuables from the Medina’s home. When apprehended the first words out of Steven Todd’s mouth was “I didn’t have anything to do with the pregnant girl.” The defense has always reasoned that the police should have pursued this exclamation, but they didn’t. Both men pleaded guilty to the robbery but claimed it happened Christmas day or early on the 26th, not on the 24th. Modesto PD asserted that they cleared these men as they believed the robbery happened later, after Laci was already missing. The defense and Scott’s family believe the burglary took place on the 24th and the criminals lied about the date to distance themselves from Laci’s disappearance.
This theory was somewhat strengthened by the statement of Russell Graybill, the Petersons’ mailman. Graybill testified that when he delivered a package to the Peterson’s home between 10:35 and 10:50 am. McKenzie did not bark at him. Graybill testified at trial that McKenzie normally barked at him but he didn’t bark on Christmas eve. This was shown to “prove” that Laci was walking him at that time.
Scott supporters have touted two other pieces of evidence to prove this theory. The first piece of the evidence in this story involved the fact that in January a woman who knew the burglars pawned a Croton watch similar to the one Laci had and was presumably wearing. The problem with the watch “evidence” lies in the pawn ticket. The pawned watch is not listed as having diamonds embedded into it like Laci’s did, casting doubt onto this idea that the watch was Laci’s. The second piece of evidence is much more compelling. From scottpetersonappeal.org,
“Yet another concerning tip came from a Lt. Aponte who worked in a California prison. He called Modesto Police to report a monitored phone conversation that one of their inmates had with his brother, who lived in Modesto. The brother told the inmate that Laci had confronted the burglars who were robbing the house directly across the street from where she lived. That house was, in fact, robbed the day Laci went missing. This conversation was recorded by the prison. Not only has the Modesto Police Department never handed over any follow up on the tip from Lt. Aponte, the tape has been lost.” This is a thought-provoking piece of evidence, but I am not sure it proves anything conclusively. ​
The problems with the “Laci confronted the burglars” theory are numerous. The timeline would go something like this. Laci leashes up McKenzie who gets out and wanders in the street until found by Karen Servas at 10:18 am. Servas puts McKenzie away and then later Laci walks McKenzie through the park where she is seen by witnesses. Laci returns home, puts McKenzie away (but keeps the leash on) and takes off her shoes. She either changes clothes or later the robbers re-dress her. Then shoeless, Laci at 8 months pregnant waddles across the street and confronts either 2 or 3 male burglars without even her dog for protection. (PS the men are breaking into the home in the middle of the day). The men kill her, rob the house, change Laci into a new outfit, only a maternity bra and tan capris, and dump her in the ocean ninety miles away EXACTLY where Scott Peterson was fishing. It is also important to note that the defense did not call any witnesses who could bolster this theory except Graybill.
Another possible theory floated by Scott supporters and the defense was the idea that Laci was kidnapped while in the park. One witness, Diana Campos, who worked at a hospital that abuts the park (only three blocks from the Peterson house) remembers seeing a pregnant woman walking a Golden Retriever in the park at 10:30 am on Christmas eve. The woman was struggling to control the dog, who was barking incessantly. A man in a beanie apparently yelled at the woman “Shut that f*cking dog up!”
The problem with this theory is that both the Modesto PD and Scott’s attorneys interviewed this woman and chose to NOT call her to testify at trial. I believe if the lead was credible, the woman would have testified for the defense. Another issue is the timeline and the details of the sighting. For this sighting to work we have to ignore Karen Servas’ testimony. If this woman in the park was Laci, she must have gotten McKenzie from the yard after McKenzie escaped then walked to the park where she encountered someone who wanted to harm her. This person then would have had to return Laci’s shoes to the house, re dressed her, put McKenzie in the backyard and then dump her body in the ocean ninety miles away EXACTLY where Scott Peterson was fishing.
A third possibility was mostly pushed by Matt Dalton, an attorney who worked on Scott’s case but was fired before trial. Geragos kicked Dalton off the case because Dalton was obsessed with the idea that a satanic cult kidnapped Laci and another woman, Evelyn Hernandez. I think Geragos did not want this to be mentioned at trial and focused on other angles, but this still needs to be discussed. As mentioned above a woman was raped in Modesto in the week before Laci’s disappearance. The victim called a crisis line and reported that she had been raped by a group of people in a brown van and that the assault was part of a Satanic ritual. The abductors then told the woman that they were going to commit a Christmas murder that she would “read about in the papers.” The police found the people and van in question and processed the brown van for evidence, surprisingly no evidence of any crime was found in the van. When the police were done with the vehicle, Geragos bought the van, but he never found anything or used the van at trial- leading spectators to believe that the van held no evidentiary value.
Other proof for this theory is mostly found in Dalton’s book about the case. Matt Dalton first dreamed up this theory when went to a bar in Modesto one night where he interviewed some young locals about the goings on in Modesto. After seeing some people in skull t-shirts playing Dungeons and Dragons, Dalton asked about cult activity. The people told him that Modesto had Satanists, including a weird family who lived in a brown van. Dalton then learned that Dec. 24th is a holy day in the Satanic calendar and thus he extrapolated that Satanists did sacrifices on this day. He also discovered that May 1st, the day Evelyn was last seen was also a Satanic holiday. He soon became obsessed with this idea that Laci was abducted for a ritualistic purpose. Once Laci’s body was found Matt Dalton walked along the beach where he found some weird paintings on rocks and determined this was where rituals were taking place. (The paintings ended up being a strange art installation by a group called The Bulb.) He also found a police report that someone had reported finding a bucket of organs on the beach, but this has never been independently verified. Dalton surmised that these were Laci’s organs as she was found mostly skeletonized and had very few organs left.
Dalton is famous for connecting Laci’s case to the case of Evelyn Hernandez. This piece of evidence is talked about online extensively and is used to show that pregnant women were going missing and being found headless in San Francisco bay. While it is a strange coincidence, what documentaries and Pro Scott pundits never tell you is that Evelyn’s case has a prime suspect and it is not a serial killer or a Satanist family, it is Evelyn’s boyfriend, Herman Aguilera. This man is presumed to have killed Evelyn when she was only one week from giving birth, on May 1st 2002. As friends and family later discovered Evelyn was Herman’s “other woman.” Evelyn did not know her boyfriend was married. According to Aguilera’s family Herman did not want to deal with a pregnant mistress or want another child. Evelyn was last seen at a gas station frequented by Herman. Tragically, Evelyn’s son Alexis age 5, and her full-term baby boy, Fernando disappeared with her and have never been found.
The problem with this satanic angle is that it is far-fetched and does not explain most of the evidence. If Laci was abducted, where? Was she walking down the street in the mid-morning when some Satan worshippers happened to drive by and abduct her, put the dog in the yard, put her shoes in the house, changed her clothes and then dumped her body in ocean just where Scott Peterson was fishing? And what about Evelyn? Were these same people driving by as she and her son went to a gas station near Aguilera’s home in the middle of the afternoon? As I said this theory doesn’t hold water, but it important to explore.
Rush to judgement
Another thing focused on heavily by the defense was the idea that the Modesto PD “rushed to judgement” and wanted to nail Scott from the beginning. The defense asserted that this began with officer Evers saying that home was “suspicious” at 6 pm to his superior. Geragos and team asserted that this was improper and created tunnel vision in the department.
The Modesto police has always held that they simply followed the evidence and focused on the most likely suspect, Scott. After all it was not just Evers who thought the scene was suspicious. It was Evers, Spurlock, other patrol officers, Brocchini, Laci’s friends, Amy Rocha, Sergeant Duerfeldt, neighbor Karen Servas and others. If the Modesto PD wanted to frame someone, as sad as it is, they could have framed the Medina burglars and no one would have batted an eye. But they didn’t.
Other evidence used by the defense
Laci sightings
Approximately 12 people called the MPD to report seeing a woman who matched Laci’s description walking a dog on the morning of the 24th within one mile of the Peterson home. The prosecution called four women to the stand who were dog walkers who lived in the vicinity of the Peterson home at the time of the disappearance to account for some of these sightings. Most people saw Laci or someone who resembled her in black leggings and a white top, the same outfit she was in on her missing posters. However, when she was found she was wearing tan maternity capri pants and a maternity bra only. According to the Petersons, nine of these witnesses were never interviewed by a detective. What they don’t tell you is that a patrol officer and the DA’s investigators did some of the interviews. Nevertheless, not all people who called in with witness sightings were interviewed which helped the defense. Let’s look at these witnesses who we know about.
The people interviewed in the documentary The Murder of Laci Peterson were apparent “witnesses” who were never interviewed by the police and were not called at trial. Why? Because when Geragos interviewed them he found them to be unreliable, confused, or just wrong. Homer Maldonado claimed to have seen Laci walking the dog three times…during times she was proven to be elsewhere. Maldonado also refused to be interview by police. Because of this he was not called. Vivian Mitchell was another witness who claimed she saw Laci walking the dog on Dec. 24th. She then specified she knew exactly the time because she saw Laci during the football game on TV, but there were no football games on TV on the 24th. Vivian was also 80 years old and her husband was 84. Her husband Bill told police he did not remember ever seeing Laci. Mike Chiavetta remembered seeing a woman walking a Golden Retriever in La Loma park on the most likely 24th but said that it was a bright sunny day and the park was filled with people. It was misty and overcast on the 24th although the 23rd was bright and sunny. Scott supporters will have you believe that Laci was abducted right after the Chiavetta sighting even though Chiavetta claims the park was filled with people that day. Also, Chiavetta never reported he saw Laci, he saw a woman in a white shirt walking a Golden Retriever. When asked if she was pregnant, he said “I don’t know.” Tom Harshman is the man who saw a pregnant woman pushed into a van on the 24th of December, however police documentation says this was not reported until the 28th. In between 2 and 4 pm, he saw a woman in a red shirt and black pants urinating against a fence. There was a man standing over her and she looked scared. Then he saw a hand reach out of a van and pull the woman into the van. The tip was not investigated by the Modesto police department because they circumstance, location, and clothing did not fit. Either way Geragos interviewed many of the witness and didn’t call any of them. He said specifically he would call Harshman, but he didn’t.
Conner’s live birth and condition of the bodies
One thing that is brought up often by the defense is information brought forth by their expert that Conner was alive for one week following Laci’s disappearance. The defense believed Conner was born alive and died at a different date, or that Laci and Conner were alive after Laci was abducted. They also like to talk about twine, or tape that was wrapped around Conner’s body. Laci’s body also had trace amounts of caffeine present even though Laci gave up caffeine during her pregnancy.
Laci and Conner were found in the same area but separately on different days. Laci was badly decomposed; barnacles were on her bones and most of her organs except parts of her uterus were gone. There was a large hole in her womb from decomposition. Conner was somewhat decomposed but he was fully intact. The medical examiner thought this was because he was protected inside of Laci until her uterus decomposed expelling him into the bay. The medical examiner could find no cause of death for Laci and ruled that Conner died due to his mother’s death at approximately 33 weeks gestation. Conner seemed to be inside of Laci until shortly before he was found. The medical examiner explained to the jury that Conner most likely floated out of his mother’s abdomen due to gasses building up in her body. Additionally, his umbilical cord was torn, not cut or clamped and he had no injuries of any kind. He was not even bruised. Further, Laci’s cervix was closed indicating she had not given birth recently. The ME also explained that there was 28 cm worth of tape around Conner’s torso, head, and shoulders. It is not a nice neat bow but rather a tangled length of tape or twine. To me it actually looks like the remains of a plastic shopping bag.
The defense has always argued that this twine was wrapped around his body on purpose by someone, although they cannot explain the function of the twine. Picture here- http://pwc-sii.com/Research/connetwine.htm. (PS this is from a website called Scott is Innocent just fair warning). They also cannot explain how Conner died as he was not even bruised. On cross examination the ME admitted that it was “possible” Conner was born alive. He also admitted it was possible he had lived longer than his mother. He could not conclusively rule out those things even though they were improbable. The defense saw this as a win and brought in their own expert to testify.
Dr. March, the defense expert is not a medical examiner or a forensic pathologist; he is fertility doctor who helps couples get pregnant. Using the same methods as the ME, which involves using ultrasound pictures and measuring the baby’s femur, Dr. March determined that Conner was 33 weeks gestation, BUT he also decided that when Laci went missing, she was only 32 weeks pregnant meaning she had survived a whole week after her disappearance. How did Dr. March know this? Dr. March pushed Laci’s conception date forward six days because “women always talk about these things.” Dr. March heard that Laci attended a baby shower for a friend on June 8th and did not tell her friends that she was pregnant. Because of this he surmised that Laci must have learned about her pregnancy on June 9th meaning her conception date was the last week of May. This was the evidence used to prove Conner was alive until the end of December.
Not surprisingly March was destroyed on cross examination. He admitted he did not know about decomposition or autopsies and was not an expert in those fields. He also admitted he really had no way to know when Laci got pregnant and he was just guessing from her behavior when she got pregnant. At one point he even said during cross “Cut me some slack!” when they were grilling him. By the end of his examination he was saying “I’m sorry” and “I really don’t know” To most questions. He was not a good witness and his blunders were some of the biggest in the trial.
Concrete
The defense always held that the missing concrete in Scott’s warehouse was used to repair the driveway and not used to make anchors for Laci’s body. The prosecution brought a petrographer to the stand who testified that the cement was not the same in the driveway as it was in the anchors- they had different chemical compositions. The defense also brought an expert to the stand who testified that the concrete samples weren’t the same…but they were very similar to one another. Gebler the defense expert testified that the driveway sample could have been different because it picked up debris already on the driveway.
Boat evidence
The final evidence that is brought up by the defense was an experiment conducted by Geragos’ investigators. They bought a boat similar to Scott’s and filmed someone trying to throw a 100 lbs. object off the boat. The experiment was meant to show that the boat was too small and throwing a person off the side would capsize a boat. At trial an expert fisherman testified that in order to throw a body off a boat that size you had to do it from the back of the boat, not the side. Nevertheless, Geragos wanted his video to be admitted at trial, but it was not.
The critical thing to note here is that this video was never meant to be admitted into evidence, it was a media stunt. Geragos sent this video to the media and then placed a similar boat two blocks from the court house and invited people to see how small it was. According to a book written by the jury after the trial, Geragos did this stunt to try to distract, confuse, or accidentally bias the jury in hopes of getting a mistrial. It did not work and the trial went on. The boat also backfired on Geragos as it became a shrine to Laci and baby Conner. Here’s the defense’s video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x03H94jjDGQ.
Amber was the aggressor
One thing that Scott’s apologists will often bring up is the fact that Scott wasn't really in love with Frey and that Amber was the “aggressor” in that relationship. Some people, like Matt Dalton have said things like “Scott wouldn’t leave Laci for Amber. Laci was way more attractive!” (yes, he really made that claim). They try to show that Amber aggressively pursued Scott even when he was trying to distance himself from her. They believe that Scott’s lies to Amber such as “I will be in Maine for Christmas” were his attempts to ditch her. They also make a fuss because on Dec. 26th Amber called Scott several times on the same day which proves that she was obsessed with him. Whether or not this is the case it doesn't really matter because Scott is a grown man who could have broken it off with Amber or even ghosted her at any point but he didn't. He chose to call Amber after Laci was missing, he continued to speak to Amber, and he continued seeing Amber in person. Further, he kept lying to her hoping she would not find out about his missing pregnant wife.
Whether Amber was Scott’s soul mate, a one-night stand, or a girl he took out to lunch a few times an affair is an affair. Scott did not have to be completely and utterly in love was Amber in order for that to be a motive for him to kill his wife. In my completely amateur opinion, Scott wasn't in love with Amber at all. Scott was in love with being a player who could do whatever he wanted and wife and child was getting in the way of that lifestyle.
Scott’s history of non-violence
One interesting thing that the defense uncovered was Scott’s history of non-violence. Going through school records the defense was able to show that Scott had absolutely no history of violence. Not even a school yard fist fight. Most spouse killers have a history of domestic violence, but Scott did not. In fact, most people remember Scott as being passive in his marriage, not angry or violent.
Scott would not plead down
In “Presumed Guilty” Dalton explains that he questioned Scott extensively and asked him if something happened, such as an accident or a domestic violence situation that lead to Laci’s death. Dalton thought that if this was the case Scott could plead to a lesser charge. Scott was adamant this was not the case and insisted he had nothing to do with Laci’s demise. Scott insisted on pleading not guilty.
Brocchini’s bad testimony
One thing that aided the defense in the trial was the testimony of Al Brocchini. Brocchini made several mistakes on the stand and the defense showed that four specific parts of Brocchini’s testimony were lies. Brocchini lied about one witness who he said he contacted. He also lied (or was confused) about the times certain tips came in to the tip line. Finally, he chose not to include one witnesses (Ms. O’Donnell) statement in his reports. This damaged Brocchini’s testimony and was a win for the defense. When asked about this the jury said that this was not a good look for the state, but it wasn’t Brocchini’s testimony that convinced them that Scott was guilty, it was detective Grogan’s. And of course, Scott’s own behavior and movements that day.
Five women who were pregnant went missing
Another piece of evidence spread around by Scott apologists is the fact that five pregnant women, seven if you include Evelyn and Laci, went missing in the time around Laci’s disappearance. Additionally, it was touted that these women all went missing from Northern California and area where 15 million people reside. Five women would be an interesting coincidence if they went missing from Modesto, or even the same county, but this is not the case.
Pregnant woman heckled
In one documentary on the case a pregnant woman in Modesto claimed that on Christmas eve, 2002 when she was heavily pregnant, she was opening her shop at about 11:00 am when she was “heckled” by two men. The incident made her uncomfortable enough that she got a male co-worker who told the men to get lost. While this is an interesting piece of information it doesn’t prove anything.
Not enough time to commit the murders
Some of Scott’s supporters will tell you that Scott had no time to commit these murders because his whereabouts were known for all of the day on Christmas eve. First, this assumes Laci was killed during Scott’s timeline which obviously wasn’t going account for this. Second, it does not explore the possibility that Scott killed his wife before 8:30am on the 24th when Scott said he got up for the day.
Incompetent legal counsel
There are also some people who are concerned that Mark Geragos was incompetent as Scott’s attorney. Mark Geragos has represented Michael Jackson, Winona Ryder, Jussie Smolet, Robert Clinton, Chris Brown and many other prominent clients. In general, he argues down and makes sure his clients never land in jail but rather get counseling, probation, and community service. Geragos may be cocky, but he is far from incompetent.
Tried in the court of public opinion
You cannot talk about this case without mentioning that Scott Peterson was tried in the court of public opinion. There is no denying this and an unbiased jury was hard to compile. But if history has shown us anything it is that good attorneys can keep hated clients (OJ Simpson, Casey Anthony) out of jail. Scott’s representation was the best of the best and he was still convicted.
The jury and the rush to judgment angle
The jury actually thought about this in deliberations pretty extensively. This idea of rush to judgement was woven through the opening statement as well as Geragos’ performance in the early weeks of the trial. In those first few weeks most jurors agreed that acquittal was on the horizon. Not only did the Modesto police seem to have tunnel vision, they made some extensive mistakes, and Geragos presented information in a much more interesting and compelling way. He made big promises to show Scott as “stone cold innocent” and vowed to bring witnesses who would break the case wide open. But after months of testimony and no compelling witnesses the jury had to convict because it wasn’t about who was more entertaining to watch. It was about the fact that 1) Scott was fishing in the vicinity of Laci’s body. 2) Scott washed himself and his clothes before even calling his missing wife. 3) Scott was the last person to see Laci alive. 4) And that Scott had a means, motive, and opportunity like no one else did. Although the jury were rubbed the wrong way by Scott’s demeanor, Scott was not convicted because the jury simply thought he seemed like he was lying or had bad character.
Random Info
Who’s is supporting Scott?
Scott’s supporters are mainly women most notably his sister Susan Caudillo, and his sister in law Janey Peterson. They run several websites and blogs about the case and call themselves the SPA (Scott Peterson Appeal) team. Their websites are linked below. They have explanations for everything Scott did in this case and spew their beliefs all over the internet.
The SPA team has pushed forward other suspects besides the ones discussed at trial. Laci’s family are some of their favorite suspects. Ron Grantski, Brent Rocha, Dennis Rocha, Amber Frey, and Amy Rocha have all been mentioned as possible suspects. For example, the SPA team throws suspicion on Dennis Rocha as Dennis had “deep-seated hatred” towards Scott. How do they know this? During his victim impact statement at the end of the trial Dennis said to Scott “You always thought you were better than us.” Apparently, this shows that Dennis had the motive to kill Laci or something. I don’t know their explanations are bizarre.
Why is Scott getting an appeal and maybe a new trial?
Scott is getting an appeal and maybe a new trial for two reasons. First, Scott gets a series of appeals because he was sentenced to death. It is routine for death row inmates to get a variety of appeals before their execution. The reason that Scott is possibly getting a new trial is because of issues with the jury in the first trial. As discussed above the case was incredibly hard to get a jury for and the appeals attorney is asking for a new trial due to juror misconduct, unreliable sniffer dog evidence, and issues with dismissed jurors. Scott is NOT getting a new trial due to new evidence, poor legal representation, or corruption within the police department or DAs office.
Misconceptions
There are two major misconceptions I have seen mentioned online and I wanted to correct them here before the end of this piece. The first misconception that was spread by the media was that the Petersons’ house smelled like bleach when patrol officers first arrived. This was not true; patrol officers never reported this. The second misconception is that Diane Jackson saw the Medina home being robbed on the 24th. This is not true. Diane saw three men by a van who she thought were landscapers. She only reported this information when she learned of Laci’s disappearance later that day. Diane Jackson never saw the men robbing the house or carrying a safe to the van.
Sources:
These books are a good place to start:
Deadly game by Catherine Crier
Presumed guilty by Matt Dalton
We the Jury by the members of the jury
Blood Brother by Anne Bird
For Laci by Sharon Rocha
The Murder of Laci Peterson by Pete Dove
Because most books are anti-Scott, I also read all information on these pro Scott websites in order to be thorough.
https://www.scottpetersonappeal.org/
https://pwc-sii.com/
An interesting Psychology today article- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/blind-injustice/201801/is-scott-peterson-innocent-part-one
If you want some laughs check out the Scott is Innocent Facebook page. There are a lot of people who think that Laci was abducted for a ritual purpose and that it has something to do with something called Pizza gate and Hollywood elites who cruise around northern CA abducting Hispanic looking women and cutting out their babies. (No, I am not kidding.)
If you want some thought provoking information about the Peterson family read this reddit post- https://www.reddit.com/ScottPetersonCase/comments/9eu7zi/peterson_family_lies/
Conclusion
After researching, reading, and exploring this case I think it is safe to say that Scott Peterson is guilty of his wife’s murder and that the doubt in this is case is not reasonable doubt at all. With that being said I do not think the media allowed for Scott to get an unbiased jury and I do think the hate spewed towards Scott’s family by the public was cruel and inappropriate, like the one bystander outside the court house who yelled at Jackie “I hope they fry your son!” However, I think if Scott gets a new trial, which he deserves, the outcome will likely be the same. What do you think, is there really doubt in the Laci Peterson case?
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2020.08.11 03:03 MinatoArysato Y'know Private Police and Emergency services would destroy the government in competition, and i'm not afraid to say it.

My rationale for this statement first started off when thinking about home invasions.
Let me start off that yes, I do believe that private entities, as they have been proven to be, more efficient then those of the government.
So, a robber is in your home, you call the police. Police arrive at the scene on an average of 30 minutes. Half of an entire hour, best case scenario, the cops are there 5-10 minutes. Any criminal, with a brain at least, is going to rob some jewelry and maybe some small devices, and be outta there in around a max of 3 minutes. So by statistics, if you call the police, the cops are already gone or you're fuckin dead.
Now, I ask you. How many home invaders are caught? 90 percent? 80? 70?
  1. 13 percent. Wow, that's only a little more than how many fingers I have.
Now, of course, this isn't solely because it is the government funded police, no, there needs to be evidence, actually finding the criminal, and so forth.
Let's have a look at car theft.
In 2016, more than 1,700,000 vehicle robberies were committed, which translates to one auto theft ever 6 and a half minutes.
At most, statistically, assuming you have all the correct information, and a gps, and so forth. Your best chances of recovering your car are 59%.
The police don't make it a priority, they don't go searching for this stolen car. They have other, admittedly more important crimes to investigate. I'll give them that.
Now time to get down to business, literally.
I think cops are poorly trained because the government, simply has no personal obligation to save the lives of you or your family. Now you can say "but the duty of the gubernment is to protect the lives of citizens!!!!!" yeah, they say that, but look at most of the world and see how well that's done. No matter if your entire family's house is destroyed by a criminal, the government won't have a bad day if they fail. You honestly think they care? If they really did, I think they would do their job better, in more ways than one. Here's where the theory is.
If a private company is called to a scene, they have a personal obligation to do good. Why? Because unlike the government, it's existence is based off of doing a good job, which leads to them getting money. If they don't arrive on time, investigate cases properly, or recover stolen vehicles on an efficient basis, they'll receive poor reviews, and they'll call for bankruptcy. And then another, better company, will take their place, doing a better job. How would these companies make money you may ask? Subscriptions. Subscribe to this security company, and pay them by a certain amount of time. Let's say someone calls the number, and they're not a client. Well, the business could deal with this buy charging them extra, giving the non subscriber motivation to become a client, in case if such an event happens again.
This principle of being more efficient simply because they depend on the quality of service to customers to exist, has already taken form in the real world. The United States Healthcare system, sure, people will complain about the cost, but people don't realize how many miracles our system performs, and just how much more efficient it is, compared to entire continents of the world.
Businesses, with the laws of basic human nature, are more obligated to do a better job, and I guarantee you, will do a better job, than the government, in many ways. Am I saying to completely defund federal police? No. I'm not a bumbling idiot. Some crimes can be prevented efficiently by the government. But I believe lots of crime could be committed if a private business is left to protect it's clients. If the people feel that the business is destructive, inefficient, discriminatory, unlike a government, the people aren't forced under that companies rule. The power, is truly in the hands of the people.
That concludes my theory, i'd like to know what you guys think, and some possible constructive criticism and elaboration as well!
Sources for statistics:
"Burglary and Crime Statistics Facts": https://www.alarms.org/burglary-statistics/
"Car Theft Statistics Auto Owners Must Know in 2020": https://carsurance.net/blog/car-theft-statistics/
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2020.08.11 02:51 MinatoArysato Y'know Private Police and Emergency Forces would do much better than the incompetent government, and i'm not afraid to say it.

My rationale for this statement first started off when thinking about home invasions.
Let me start off that yes, I do believe that private entities, as they have been proven to be, more efficient then those of the government.
So, a robber is in your home, you call the police. Police arrive at the scene on an average of 30 minutes. Half of an entire hour, best case scenario, the cops are there 5-10 minutes. Any criminal, with a brain at least, is going to rob some jewelry and maybe some small devices, and be outta there in around a max of 3 minutes. So by statistics, if you call the police, the cops are already gone or you're fuckin dead.
Now, I ask you. How many home invaders are caught? 90 percent? 80? 70?
  1. 13 percent. Wow, that's only a little more than how many fingers I have.
Now, of course, this isn't solely because it is the government funded police, no, there needs to be evidence, actually finding the criminal, and so forth.
Let's have a look at car theft.
In 2016, more than 1,700,000 vehicle robberies were committed, which translates to one auto theft ever 6 and a half minutes.
At most, statistically, assuming you have all the correct information, and a gps, and so forth. Your best chances of recovering your car are 59%.
The police don't make it a priority, they don't go searching for this stolen car. They have other, admittedly more important crimes to investigate. I'll give them that.
Now time to get down to business, literally.
I think cops are poorly trained because the government, simply has no personal obligation to save the lives of you or your family. Now you can say "but the duty of the gubernment is to protect the lives of citizens!!!!!" yeah, they say that, but look at most of the world and see how well that's done. No matter if your entire family's house is destroyed by a criminal, the government won't have a bad day if they fail. You honestly think they care? If they really did, I think they would do their job better, in more ways than one. Here's where the theory is.
If a private company is called to a scene, they have a personal obligation to do good. Why? Because unlike the government, it's existence is based off of doing a good job, which leads to them getting money. If they don't arrive on time, investigate cases properly, or recover stolen vehicles on an efficient basis, they'll receive poor reviews, and they'll call for bankruptcy. And then another, better company, will take their place, doing a better job. How would these companies make money you may ask? Subscriptions. Subscribe to this security company, and pay them by a certain amount of time. Let's say someone calls the number, and they're not a client. Well, the business could deal with this buy charging them extra, giving the non subscriber motivation to become a client, in case if such an event happens again.
This principle of being more efficient simply because they depend on the quality of service to customers to exist, has already taken form in the real world. The United States Healthcare system, sure, people will complain about the cost, but people don't realize how many miracles our system performs, and just how much more efficient it is, compared to entire continents of the world.
Businesses, with the laws of basic human nature, are more obligated to do a better job, and I guarantee you, will do a better job, than the government, in many ways. Am I saying to completely defund federal police? No. I'm not a bumbling idiot. Some crimes can be prevented efficiently by the government. But I believe lots of crime could be committed if a private business is left to protect it's clients. If the people feel that the business is destructive, inefficient, discriminatory, unlike a government, the people aren't forced under that companies rule. The power, is truly in the hands of the people.
That concludes my theory, i'd like to know what you guys think, and some possible constructive criticism and elaboration as well!
Sources for statistics:
"Burglary and Crime Statistics Facts": https://www.alarms.org/burglary-statistics/
"Car Theft Statistics Auto Owners Must Know in 2020": https://carsurance.net/blog/car-theft-statistics/
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2020.08.04 23:25 jirejire12 What's the happy medium between arranged shaadi and yet another "free" dating app?

There are a million studies about how dating apps aren't really useful beyond introducing you to new people.
All the matching algorithms and personality tests don't change the fact that social position, education level and economic status are the most important factors for compatibility.
In other words, we're not really as romantic as we like to think we are -- or romance counts for less in reality than it does in our dreams.
Also, "free" on apps tends to mean many thousands of starving guys looking for free sex, and a far fewer women searching for ego validation and/or a free meal.
(Although no one really cares about privacy, "free" also almost always means "selling your private data" which should immediately disqualify it, but we've all been well-trained to believe privacy is less important than getting things for free, especially online.)
So at least a non-free alternative will weed out some of the people who want to waste everyone's time.
Beyond that, there's the fact that endlessly swiping at matches tends to ridiculously inflate our expectations of who we "deserve", which leads to more missed connections and fewer real matches.
So the "all you can swipe" buffet approach really isn't the way to go, either.
Arranged marriages often don't lead to happy married people (or emotionally healthy kids -- just look at the horror stories posted here on ABCDesis every day).
Free dating apps are mostly the same, no matter how shiny, new and geeky their algorithms and slick video game-style designs may be.
Maybe a few matches in your inbox every week, arriving just in time for the weekend, might an alternative. No more swiping at a screen; no narcissistic ego trips; no more boring profiles complaining about how "nobody really reads these things"; no anonymous stalkerish chat requests or unsolicited d*ck pics crowding your inbox.
But I don't know, really. What do you think? What's the happy medium between arranged marriage and the next tedious dating app?
P.S. I added links for more information about how dating match algorithms (don't) really work, and why privacy matters in online dating.
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2020.08.03 03:05 juliantayarah What’s next for dating apps?

I read this article about the past and future of dating apps. Bumble has included a networking feature and a friends feature. Tons of apps have added video now, any thoughts on what’s next for the industry? I think they seem to think video is what’s next. I’m leaning towards agreeing now that covid-19 has ruined meeting people in person.
Also here’s the article for your reference:
https://realtalkapp.co/blog/online-dating-how-the-game-was-changed
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2020.07.30 00:49 -JaguarWong- Colony Wars Vengeance (PS1) - Gaming the Pandemic: Day 128

The difficult second album of a classic Psygnosis trilogy is today's title from my 520 game backlog, I'm playing one game a day, every day, while furloughed from work...

Colony Wars: Vengeance for the PlayStation

Previous days' entries are linked in my profile.
I said, a little while back, that somewhere around day 110 it started to feel like things in the world, or in my world at least, felt like they were getting back to normal because I began to struggle to find a good amount of time to play a game for this blog. I’ve since realised that this is only partly true.
I’m one of those people who needs a tangible deadline for motivation. For the last four months (or more) every day has felt much like the last. The very purpose of this blog was to give me something to focus on and keep my mind active. But now, with my return to the workplace just four days away, I have that ‘tangible deadline’, and the reason I’m finding it harder to find the time to play games is, yes, partly because the opportunities for other activities are far greater than they were, but also partly because I’ve realised that so many of the things I could, and probably should, have done while furloughed need to be completed in the next four days.
So where does that leave me with Colony Wars: Vengeance?
Woefully unprepared, is the all too apparent answer.
- - -
The recently announced Star Wars: Squadrons aside, they just don’t make games like Colony Wars any more. The last one I remember was the (actually rather good) Project Sylpheed for the 360. This kind of omnidirectional space shooter was hugely popular in the nineties, when new technology was making their existence possible for the first time. But the fires of excitement seemed to die rather quickly, and by the PS2 era they were already a rarity.
Coming from Psygnosis, the Colony Wars games, of which Vengeance is part 2, are heavily story focused. To this end they have eschewed the usual video game fail states and (as I understand it) you can bumble through the game failing almost every mission and there would still be plot and FMV sequences to convey your story.
In the case of Vengeance there are six possible denouements to the adventure, and if I carry on my game at a later date it’s pretty clear which one I’ll be getting.
This is a game that’s not just hard, but unpredictably, brutally, unapologetically hard. A lot of the time It’s also pretty sketchy on the details of why you failed - which can be controller-hurlingly frustrating especially when, just to squeeze lemon juice on the salt in the wound, you can only save after every third level.
Clearly Psygnosis wanted the player to start with the worst ending and gradually improve, and I would normally applaud that, but the difficulty of missions is all over the place, but it’s worth noting that this definite negative point might be partly due to a definitely positive one: The variety of missions on offer.
Now, I’m not as adverse to an escort mission as many others, but I’ll admit seeing that format in the very first mission of Vengeance filled me with dread. But the four or five missions I’ve played since have had four or five completely different structures.
I’ve mined asteroids, refuelled battle stations, and had numerous dogfights. This variety is exceptional, but there’s every possibility that in choosing to mix up the gameplay so often, any sense of a progressive difficulty curve was lost.
I’m hoping to persevere at some point, as there is much to enjoy with this game. It’s very nice looking, and the handling of the ship (there are apparently up to four to choose from) is a real joy. The developers' flair for the cinematic extends beyond the inter-level cutscenes too, with bombastic tunes and dramatic enemy arrivals throughout - or throughout the little I’ve played at least. There's always the option of the third game in series too, which reportedly resolves the balance issues and, according to some reviews from the time of release, is the best game in the series.
However, for me the elephant in the room is Psygnosis’ own ‘Blast Radius’; a game built with the Colony Wars engine, with all the audio visual bells and whistles, but which focuses on straightforward action set-pieces and the usual try-die-retry structure. This isn’t to say that the Colony Wars approach isn’t valid or impressive, it’s just that, after crashing head first into the difficulty wall with annoying irregularity, I didn’t feel like I was getting the space shooter fix that I came for.
Colony Wars: Vengeance - If you want your omnidirectional space shooter with a side of heavy plot and uneven difficulty, this is the game for you. Otherwise, play Blast Radius, or Project Sylpheed for that matter.
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2020.07.30 00:47 -JaguarWong- Colony Wars Vengeance (PS1) - Gaming the Pandemic: Day 128

The difficult second album of a classic Psygnosis trilogy is today's title from my 520 game backlog, I'm playing one game a day, every day, while furloughed from work...

Colony Wars: Vengeance for the PlayStation

Previous days' entries can be read HERE.
I said, a little while back, that somewhere around day 110 it started to feel like things in the world, or in my world at least, felt like they were getting back to normal because I began to struggle to find a good amount of time to play a game for this blog. I’ve since realised that this is only partly true.
I’m one of those people who needs a tangible deadline for motivation. For the last four months (or more) every day has felt much like the last. The very purpose of this blog was to give me something to focus on and keep my mind active. But now, with my return to the workplace just four days away, I have that ‘tangible deadline’, and the reason I’m finding it harder to find the time to play games is, yes, partly because the opportunities for other activities are far greater than they were, but also partly because I’ve realised that so many of the things I could, and probably should, have done while furloughed need to be completed in the next four days.
So where does that leave me with Colony Wars: Vengeance?
Woefully unprepared, is the all too apparent answer.
- - -
The recently announced Star Wars: Squadrons aside, they just don’t make games like Colony Wars any more. The last one I remember was the (actually rather good) Project Sylpheed for the 360. This kind of omnidirectional space shooter was hugely popular in the nineties, when new technology was making their existence possible for the first time. But the fires of excitement seemed to die rather quickly, and by the PS2 era they were already a rarity.
Coming from Psygnosis, the Colony Wars games, of which Vengeance is part 2, are heavily story focused. To this end they have eschewed the usual video game fail states and (as I understand it) you can bumble through the game failing almost every mission and there would still be plot and FMV sequences to convey your story.
In the case of Vengeance there are six possible denouements to the adventure, and if I carry on my game at a later date it’s pretty clear which one I’ll be getting.
This is a game that’s not just hard, but unpredictably, brutally, unapologetically hard. A lot of the time It’s also pretty sketchy on the details of why you failed - which can be controller-hurlingly frustrating especially when, just to squeeze lemon juice on the salt in the wound, you can only save after every third level.
Clearly Psygnosis wanted the player to start with the worst ending and gradually improve, and I would normally applaud that, but the difficulty of missions is all over the place, but it’s worth noting that this definite negative point might be partly due to a definitely positive one: The variety of missions on offer.
Now, I’m not as adverse to an escort mission as many others, but I’ll admit seeing that format in the very first mission of Vengeance filled me with dread. But the four or five missions I’ve played since have had four or five completely different structures.
I’ve mined asteroids, refuelled battle stations, and had numerous dogfights. This variety is exceptional, but there’s every possibility that in choosing to mix up the gameplay so often, any sense of a progressive difficulty curve was lost.
I’m hoping to persevere at some point, as there is much to enjoy with this game. It’s very nice looking, and the handling of the ship (there are apparently up to four to choose from) is a real joy. The developers' flair for the cinematic extends beyond the inter-level cutscenes too, with bombastic tunes and dramatic enemy arrivals throughout - or throughout the little I’ve played at least. There's always the option of the third game in series too, which reportedly resolves the balance issues and, according to some reviews from the time of release, is the best game in the series.
However, for me the elephant in the room is Psygnosis’ own ‘Blast Radius’; a game built with the Colony Wars engine, with all the audio visual bells and whistles, but which focuses on straightforward action set-pieces and the usual try-die-retry structure. This isn’t to say that the Colony Wars approach isn’t valid or impressive, it’s just that, after crashing head first into the difficulty wall with annoying irregularity, I didn’t feel like I was getting the space shooter fix that I came for.
Colony Wars: Vengeance - If you want your omnidirectional space shooter with a side of heavy plot and uneven difficulty, this is the game for you. Otherwise, play Blast Radius, or Project Sylpheed for that matter.
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2020.07.30 00:44 -JaguarWong- Colony Wars Vengeance - Gaming the Pandemic: Day 128

The difficult second album of a classic Psygnosis trilogy is today's title from my 520 game backlog, I'm playing one game a day, every day, while furloughed from work...

Colony Wars: Vengeance for the PlayStation

Previous days' entries can be read HERE.
I said, a little while back, that somewhere around day 110 it started to feel like things in the world, or in my world at least, felt like they were getting back to normal because I began to struggle to find a good amount of time to play a game for this blog. I’ve since realised that this is only partly true.
I’m one of those people who needs a tangible deadline for motivation. For the last four months (or more) every day has felt much like the last. The very purpose of this blog was to give me something to focus on and keep my mind active. But now, with my return to the workplace just four days away, I have that ‘tangible deadline’, and the reason I’m finding it harder to find the time to play games is, yes, partly because the opportunities for other activities are far greater than they were, but also partly because I’ve realised that so many of the things I could, and probably should, have done while furloughed need to be completed in the next four days.
So where does that leave me with Colony Wars: Vengeance?
Woefully unprepared, is the all too apparent answer.
- - -
The recently announced Star Wars: Squadrons aside, they just don’t make games like Colony Wars any more. The last one I remember was the (actually rather good) Project Sylpheed for the 360. This kind of omnidirectional space shooter was hugely popular in the nineties, when new technology was making their existence possible for the first time. But the fires of excitement seemed to die rather quickly, and by the PS2 era they were already a rarity.
Coming from Psygnosis, the Colony Wars games, of which Vengeance is part 2, are heavily story focused. To this end they have eschewed the usual video game fail states and (as I understand it) you can bumble through the game failing almost every mission and there would still be plot and FMV sequences to convey your story.
In the case of Vengeance there are six possible denouements to the adventure, and if I carry on my game at a later date it’s pretty clear which one I’ll be getting.
This is a game that’s not just hard, but unpredictably, brutally, unapologetically hard. A lot of the time It’s also pretty sketchy on the details of why you failed - which can be controller-hurlingly frustrating especially when, just to squeeze lemon juice on the salt in the wound, you can only save after every third level.
Clearly Psygnosis wanted the player to start with the worst ending and gradually improve, and I would normally applaud that, but the difficulty of missions is all over the place, but it’s worth noting that this definite negative point might be partly due to a definitely positive one: The variety of missions on offer.
Now, I’m not as adverse to an escort mission as many others, but I’ll admit seeing that format in the very first mission of Vengeance filled me with dread. But the four or five missions I’ve played since have had four or five completely different structures.
I’ve mined asteroids, refuelled battle stations, and had numerous dogfights. This variety is exceptional, but there’s every possibility that in choosing to mix up the gameplay so often, any sense of a progressive difficulty curve was lost.
I’m hoping to persevere at some point, as there is much to enjoy with this game. It’s very nice looking, and the handling of the ship (there are apparently up to four to choose from) is a real joy. The developers' flair for the cinematic extends beyond the inter-level cutscenes too, with bombastic tunes and dramatic enemy arrivals throughout - or throughout the little I’ve played at least. There's always the option of the third game in series too, which reportedly resolves the balance issues and, according to some reviews from the time of release, is the best game in the series.
However, for me the elephant in the room is Psygnosis’ own ‘Blast Radius’; a game built with the Colony Wars engine, with all the audio visual bells and whistles, but which focuses on straightforward action set-pieces and the usual try-die-retry structure. This isn’t to say that the Colony Wars approach isn’t valid or impressive, it’s just that, after crashing head first into the difficulty wall with annoying irregularity, I didn’t feel like I was getting the space shooter fix that I came for.
Colony Wars: Vengeance - If you want your omnidirectional space shooter with a side of heavy plot and uneven difficulty, this is the game for you. Otherwise, play Blast Radius, or Project Sylpheed for that matter.
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2020.07.27 01:47 ScrumptousLoL The Frugal Capitalist - a consumerist FI/RE story

I would like to think my FI journey has been unique. I’m a super spender in every sense of the word. I’m also pretty much in the middle of the FIRE journey and that isn’t something I see written about often. There are lots of stories of those in their last year, should I or shouldn’t I pull the trigger, those in their first few years of full retirement, and beginners. However, I’ve noticed a lack of those that are pretty much in the middle, maybe not even that serious about FIRE as a driving goal, but instead use the principles to be a better capitalist.
My story has nothing out of the ordinary beyond some rational choices and being overly conservative with our money, and an overwhelming desire to build businesses. We may not make it to FIRE early in life; we are having children and FIRE is not our number one concern or priority. As I’ve earned more I’ve absolutely let lifestyle inflation happen and we are 100% ok with that. The reason I wanted to tell my story was to tell the story of how these principals will always improve your situation at nearly every income level and I dream of a society (American) that can begin to see beyond the now.
\Before we begin, anytime I write something that shows I had/have extreme privilege, I promise I feel it and much as you see it. It would just be exhausting to call it out every time so consider this my one acknowledgement that I have had it WAY better than almost everyone in human history and I do feel guilty about that most of the time.*
I’m 35 years old and my wife is 30 and as of today we are roughly 60% of the way to FI/RE with a baby on the way.
I grew up in a lower middle class household in the midwest in a town you’ve never heard of but you’ve seen dozens of them. Both my wife and my childhoods were pretty traditional for the time in middle America, but most of this post will be from my perspective. For middle America it didn’t feel like we had much, but we had enough at all times. We were absolutely paycheck to paycheck, but there was some excessive spending and a gambling addiction. Divorced Parents when I was young enough to have really vague memories, but all in all I would say it falls right at an average American childhood in the 80s-2000s
My exposure to money was basically watch and learn. I had a bank account setup when I was old enough and told to save some everytime I made money “pay yourself first”. Something my parents didn’t really do much of, but at least they knew enough to try and teach me that. From there I was on my own and learned some bad habits, even though I always knew I shouldn’t be spending I just did it anyway. No matter how insane a purchase I made felt, there were others out there doing it way stupider, but being praised for it more. I began to embrace the research process to get the best thing that’s also the best value. Cars had a sweet spot at 4 years old from lease turn ins. I learned I could buy a 4 year old, low mileage lease, drive it for a year and sell it private party a year later for what I paid. My average age for owning a car must be like 9 months, but I have only had 1 or 2 instances where I lost a lot on a car. I began applying these principals of Capitalism to everything from bikes, to lodging (sleeping in my car), to growing my own food vs buying it. Nothing was off limits in the pursuit of living a life of luxury that was outside my income. See I wasn’t trying to live frugally for the sake of living frugally. I was doing it for the purposes of getting all the best and most luxurious things cheaper than the average consumer pays for the ordinary.
Some perspective, because frugality is a spectrum and I’m on the extreme end (spendy).
When I’m into something I go for the absolute best, every time. Some examples of things I bought before I was 25 while never making more than $50,000 a year and sometimes way less:
I was starting to think that nothing made sense. For the most part, I knew what my friends made; most of the time it was more than I was making and somehow I always had more, newer and cooler stuff than them, but they were the ones struggling with money. I almost never struggled with money even for the years I was near the poverty line for my income while taking on student loan debt or during a 4 month stretch of job loss where I was denied unemployment.
I really only saved for the short term. I would save for a goal, buy whatever that goal was depleting my savings or investments then repeat. I learned early on that having cash on hand would always get me the best deal and therefore made my meager salary go farther.
It wasn’t until I was around my mid 20s when a conservative and rich aunt told me about Dave Ramsey that I really started to embrace what FI/RE was and could be.
It’s hard to explain my relationship to DR, but what he was saying was truly life changing, but not for the reason that most people say DR changes their life. DR didn’t teach me a new way to look at money, he was simply the first person to even think remotely similar about money as I did. That at almost every income level, spending less than you make is really all that matters. If you live by that principal and apply a loose plan you should at least be able to survive in our current society. Up until this point in my life I felt I was the only person who felt I was doing well with money and I didn’t think I was doing that well. I always felt my spending was out of control and I could be so much more frugal. I actually remember the exact event that made me stop having debt when I was at my lowest NW.
I went to sign up for the Pigman triathlon short course, it was my favorite race and they did it twice a year. It was 90 minutes away from home so it was a perfect weekend trip for me. I went to register and didn’t have the $65 to write a check (yep, I’m old). I was going to put it on my credit card, but couldn’t find my wallet. I knew the number was printed on the statement so I went and opened the mail it was in. The amount of interest I was paying that month was something like $71. I got so pissed that if I had no debt I would have had the money to go do my race. I swore off debt at that moment and never looked back.
I was learning the FI and Dave Ramsey principals through an expensive trial and error process, but it was when I read DR’s book that it gave me justification that my instincts had been right about money and this guy proved to me that it works. I felt he was wrong about a few things, namely his aversion to credit cards never made any sense to me; later his conflicts of interest with investing. I hate debt far more than is rational, but credit cards are not debt and making 2% on every purchase for no additional effort? That’s foolish because it requires no additional effort in my daily life and has an immediate return.
From there I went on to Mr Money Mustache.This was my guy. Not only did I agree with him on a lot of stuff, but he was cool. Even if I was not making all the same choices he suggested I could at least follow his logic of thinking on nearly all of them. His suggestions always made me have an internal question of “Yeah, a minivan is the most logical vehicle for money savings” That’s how I ended up with a Honda Odyssey. However, I still was using these savings to be able to afford a more expensive lifestyle in the hobbies I loved and luxury is the rest of my life. From there I dove in deep into FI/RE blogs and knew that my next savings goal to add should be early retirement, and while it wouldn’t always be the number 1 goal or even a major priority, it would always be on the list. That was 9 years ago and is as close a start date as I can guess.
After digesting all the information I could I decided to go the “large income route” to achieve FI/RE. I love buying shit too much to lean fire so I knew the only shot I had was to get my income way up. It basically needed to double. When we decided to start my wife was still in college and I was working a lower paying accounting job and working part time at a running specialty store. I had also just started an additional part-time contract job timing races across the midwest. Between us we were making around $40,000 a year. Still living pretty large on that in our small, but insanely affordable condo.
Since I sorta had a gig economy work/life including one that was a 40 hour a week full time job I knew that going all in on working was my answer to FI/RE. I was not short on opportunities to make money, and I just needed time to do them all. I started with my accounting job. I was still pretty new to the accounting field with only 6 years of experience up to that point. Rather than try to earn more I took the gamble of working for a non-profit for $26,000 a year. In it for me was being 25 years old and having the title of Accounting Manager, managing a multi-million dollar budget, reporting to a board of directors, and having a small staff. From where I am today in my accountingcareer I can draw a direct line back to accepting that very low salary for a position I was under qualified for and figuring it out as I went.
The person I replaced was retiring so the systems were…..ancient to say the least. After learning the way the old guard did things I immediately began automating everything; tuition payments, contributions, tax documents to donors, reporting to the board, and anything else I could automate I did. This had the surprising effect of making me bored as hell most days.
It took me about 6 months to turn a 40 hour a week job done by hand into about 12 accomplishing even more tasks. In the beginning I fucked around but that gets old quick. Playing Hearthstone or Diablo for 6 hours a day in your office isn’t as fun as it sounds, trust me on that. I was working a couple part time jobs at this point, all of which were in my passion topic of racing, running, and outdoors. The problem was that I was so bored during the day that I wasn’t motivated to do much of anything the rest of the time.
It was important for me to always be in my office during business hours to help or answer questions, but as long as I met all my deadlines and my Board was happy with my performance, always made the non-profit the priority when I was there; then I felt comfortable spending the rest of my time there focusing on starting my own business. If it became too much I would drop the business before my boss even knew something was happening or off.
I applied all this additional time into focusing on Race Timing and Race Management. I had spent the last 7 years or so racing at these events any chance I got. It was one of my favorite places to be so the idea of being able to be PAID to be there? I was very entranced by this line of work. Through some connections I had made at events I started working for a guy who was kind of a prick but had the industry knowledge I needed. I worked for him for pretty cheap - $250 per event that I worked. This meant that I would leave after work on Friday, drive between 2-4 hours, sometimes stay overnight (slept in car), would work the event by myself and drive home to be back to work Monday morning. I was learning a lot and especially a lot of what NOT to do in business from the company owner. He was the definition of small business. It was just himself and sometimes he would hire friends or family to work these events with him. He hired me as a contractor on a per event basis and for the entire time I worked for him he only ever hired a couple of my friends when I said I needed help.
This guy was very smart and knew the technology better at the time than I do still almost 10 years later, but he was a fucking trainwreck. Here are some of my ‘favorite’ highlighted memories:
I learned almost everything I know about how to run a business and the way I operate today from watching him during this “apprenticeship”. I was taking races every weekend they were available cause $250 was a lot of money and working a bunch had the added benefit of not spending as much. Once I started to do his accounting I learned this guy is making FUCKING bank. This bumbling fool is making north of $200,000 a year in this business and he can’t even invoice people or just be polite. One event a year that we did together I was getting paid $250 and he was clearing $15,000.
This motivated me so much. I saw the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. The curtain had been pulled back. I saw a hole in the marketplace and I was going to fill it.
I was saving as much of my timing money and running store money as I could. I went from saving $0 for retirement at 24ish to saving about $8,000 a year. I knew it wasn’t going to be enough and so I just kept committing to working more and more, and at this point I was just saving to start a business. FIRE principles applied to our life, but really only for the goal of investing in a business. After a few years of some job moves in Accounting to timing more events, to doing the finances for the running store I had gained a sizable amount of knowledge and set forth on a huge life change.
I was going to start my own race timing business and move to where the races are, where I’ve always wanted to be, Colorado.
We made the move happen in a frugal way, staying with family here while my wife stayed with my folks for 6 weeks (she’s a saint). This was the only way we could afford this move, and was to save every penny possible along the way. We sold our beautiful house in Iowa for $150,000, exactly what we paid and bought a $300,000 fixer up that when the wind blew made the whole house shake. Double the money and a way worse house.
I quickly found a full time job that would pay the bills; one I was also able to automate and optimize to give me more time throughout the day. From there I spent all my free time building another new race business. From everything I learned from my ‘mentor’ I knew everything I didn’t want to do so I decided to model the business around some basic principles:
My theory was simple. If we charge way above the amount where everyone is fighting over margins, we can hire the best and afford to give each client a ton of attention to detail. An event planner is busy, they don’t want to think about the timer. If they are worrying about you then you fucked up.
We started slow, but my margins were strong enough that I was squeezing out around $50,000 a year my first year. I bought all my equipment for cash based on my hatred of debt. This allowed me a ton of freedom to pick and choose the work I wanted to do. It also started my reputation of “They are good, but you’ll pay for it.” A compliment I could not be more proud of.
All along the way I’ve always had an accounting job full-time to which I follow the same plan I’ve done for the last 12 years.
All along the way I was still involved at the retail store I discussed earlier. Since I’m never one to turn down someone paying me for work I did accounting and consulting for this retail store. Through a series of circumstances I took full ownership of this company in November 2019. (I did pay for it, but it was the result of an untimely death of a close friend. A situation that I wasn’t planning on for many years to come.)
As of today FIRE principles have helped me build a very privileged life. My events business is 100% shut down, but it doesn’t matter. I was able to pay my employees a sizable lump sum each for not working this year and since I run the business with no debt we only have $800 a month in liabilities. Compare this to some of my friends in the industry who have multiple leases on cargo vans,a warehouse they rent, six figure debt on equipment; I don’t think many of them will survive this.
The Running Specialty store I now own is in the exact same situation. Our one competitor in town is struggling because they have very high rent and are part of a franchise. I purchased our building and we pay cash for our inventory. My fixed expenses are very low and since my front line staff is working during a pandemic I just gave raises to everyone, averaging about 20%.
As of today I’m about 50% of the way to FI. I could likely just quit my accounting job and live from my businesses but I see no reason to do that. I’m having too much fun and have really been enjoying my money. I think the uniqueness of my approach is that I embrace a lot of modern culture but just attempt to do it in a more frugal way. Like most 30somethings that get a taste of success I made sure to buy a sports car. I’ve been into cars my whole life and it’s my greatest weakness for sure. Rather than go to a dealership I bought an immaculate 2004 911. After fixing some mechanical issues which made the purchase price cheap I only have about $30,000 in the car. It’s worth about $35,000 now. I think Mr Money Mustache would beat the shit out of me for buying that, but I got the dream car I had on my wall as a kid AND it’s costing me very little compared to my income, net worth and the fact that I learned everything I could about the 911 market and bought something worth more than I paid.
The major changes that have happened in the last 6 months are really what motivated me to write all of this down, because so much of what I knew in FI/RE has changed, and it feels like it’s all for the better.
There is no denying I’m a workaholic. The only thing I can say is that I really do love the grind. I’m friends with most of my clients at this point and owning a running store is like the coolest thing in the world. What changed in the last few months was my approach to investing.
As my income has risen, and there have been no new businesses for me to start since my time was pretty optimizely spent; my investments just kept growing.
6 months ago I was sitting on $200,000 in pre tax and $300,000 in after tax and savings.
I always felt that I can quit my accounting job and focus on my businesses when I hit $1,000,000 net worth. The thing that doesn’t get discussed much is that $500,000 in investments is a super boring spot to be.
For a person like myself who likes to be in charge of his own destiny seeing that $300,000 in after tax move with the market was annoying. I wanted it to go faster, but also I just felt so not in control. COVID has proved to me that I’m comfortable with the market for long term goals, but it’s dog shit for an entrepreneur that likes to see their money work. I believe in the market 100% and I’ll always keep my pre-tax money in low cost index funds, but I also believe in myself and it turns out I believe in myself way more than I believe in the market.
I have had rental properties in the past and was very happy with how I did. Even had some major issues that I fixed, appliances broke, water heater flooded and I needed to replace the floor, etc. No big deal, YouTube these days and you can do almost anything and just hire a pro when it’s something critical like electrical work that I’m not comfortable with.
One of the reasons I avoided real estate for so long was the HCOL here in Northern CO. It’s stupid here and you won’t make money unless you get in the vacation rental business and that’s just not for me. I’m a lazy workaholic at my core- I look at maximum return for the least effort. At the time I was trying to solve this problem I had a new creeping problem. The running store I owned was 13 hours away in my hometown and I was getting tired of coming back to work staying at either of my parents. Not because we don’t get along, it’s just a lot to ask of older parents. Plus there is an obligation to do a lot of socializing when I’m there to work plus working remote for other jobs it’s just better to have some space of my own.
I do not make enough to afford a proper second home. Also, that would defeat the entire purpose of purchasing the running store in the first place. Why bother if there is a 3 year break even just to afford a place to stay when I’m there, doesn't make sense.
Looking at non-traditional options I found a cabin in the woods that was fully furnished for $55,000. It was adorable, secluded, hard to access, right on the water and perfect. A house in my hometown at $55,000 would have been an absolute shit hole likely with bullet holes. This is in amazing shape, a 55 minute peaceful drive to my store and everything I love about nature.
The drive is not a big deal since I’m only there roughly 6 weeks a year. We also decided that is where we will spend 100% of our family vacations. I’ve spent the last decade travelling for work. Unlike most FI/RE folks I have little to no interest in travel to foreign lands. My own little slice of secluded land where I can hunt and fish is all I’ll ever need. Henry David Thoreau once wrote “I quite think I would enjoy a quiet life in the woods.” We paid cash.
Owning a property near my hometown and the location of my business opened up an opportunity to work my savings even better. I immediately started looking for rental properties. Applying my rules of least effort for my return and looking at many properties I settled on a beautifully remodeled 3 br condo, a $130 a month HOA fee to do all maintenance and made a cash offer of $122,500. Yes, it is mathematically better for me to leverage into a mortgage, trust me I know this I’m an accountant. My decision to pay cash is a risk aversion strategy to the max. Limiting how much I pay in interest goes back to that guy who couldn’t register for a race because I had to pay interest. Now, if it takes me a couple months to find a tenant at some point it doesn’t matter to me financially. That has value to me and it’s more valuable than the leverage a mortgage provides.
A little digging found that when these do come available to rent from other investors they are getting $1,300-$1,400 a month in rent for ones that are not remodeled. I’m confident I’ll be able to get these amounts which will earn me almost a 4x return over the rental market where we live in CO. Sure, a conventional life wouldn’t be to live in the mountains full time and have your cabin in Western Illinois, but it’s the most cost effective way to have both. I’ve found most people have their vacation homes or second homes in the opposite scenario financially. They live in the less desirable places and spend big bucks on the vacation home.
6 months ago I would have never guessed all of that was the plan, but the power of saving money has opened up so many opportunities for success in my life. As of today I’m casually looking for rental property number #2 in that area and I may try to learn how commercial financing works by putting 50% or more down while keeping the entire amount in a bond fund to pay off if it gets uncomfortable for me.
FIRE is no longer my primary goal. It would be nice to be able to walk away from my CFO position at some point; for now I like the insurance, salary and it’s a super fun job, so why leave? My goal now is diversification as that is what has worked for me to survive this pandemic and in nearly every life situation I’ve experienced.
If I had only done my events business when it got very successful I would be in trouble today as we have 0 clients, 0 revenue and no horizon for when that ends. Instead, we ran the business with FI principles and that business can just be dormant.
Same thing happened when retail was shut down. The month of March is usually our 2nd best month of the year, and this year we only did orders over the phone and delivered them, we were down 90% for 8 weeks. However, since I operate with no debt, we own the building and pay for inventory in cash we bled far less than our competitors. In fact, it has allowed us to take advantage of savings on reduced price inventory.
The last 2 months has seen me getting heavily into real estate from my after tax brokerage account. We were able to get a beautiful cabin by being the buyer who offered cash. There were other offers, some for more, but they all needed financing. Being overly conservative and having a large cash cushion is such a large contributor to success. It allows you to act from a place of confidence and action. When the deal is available, whether it’s business or personal you will be able to act and act first.
From here we are back to our usual ways. Every month we max 401ks & 457s, and then save whatever we don’t spend to keep buying more rentals. At some point I’ll stop buying them, but I can’t tell you when.
Whatever is left we spend on whatever we feel like. I’ve gotten a little out of control on vehicles lately. I keep talking about how much we spend and while I really don’t keep track here is one example so you know i’m not lying:
Current cars - I don’t count these in my networth but totalled it’s around $120,000
2004 911 4s
2016 Tesla Model X P90D
1987 Volvo 760 turbo
2017 Toyota Sienna Limited
I’ll be honest, even listing those out on a FI forum is embarrassing, but before 2020 we have never made more than $100,000 in a year. I just always save up for what I want, pay cash whenever possible and put significant effort into getting the best value.
I’m not as frugal as most of the people here, and I’m very comfortable with that. As long as I’m maxing my retirement accounts and investing in my businesses then I enjoy buying luxuries, toys and conveniences all the time.
Since it’s my favorite buy on my FI track here was my process from my “Should I buy a 911” spreadsheet.
Buying an exotic sports car is unheard of in the FI community, but it shouldn’t be. If it’s truly a hobby you love then my 911 is a steal.
I’ve owned that car for almost a year, and spent almost a year researching before purchasing it and as of today I could sell it for roughly $5,000 more than I paid. Along with that I’ve had a blast every time I drive it and spend a lot of free time enjoying it. In every purchase I make I feel it’s important to maximize your value. So far the 911 is a great example of excess American consumption done right.
If we just keep our investments on auto-pilot I shouldn’t need to work anywhere (other than rental properties) in 10 years or less, at age 45 and 40. We could do it much sooner if we really wanted to adjust our lifestyle but for now, that doesn’t seem necessary. To me that’s the beauty of the FI/RE movement. It’s personal and no matter how much or little you embrace, every little change you make will improve your financial life.
Reading individual stories is my favorite part of this community and I sincerely hope you enjoyed mine.
****I was somewhat vague on details, but at some point I gave up and figure if someone wants to figure out who I am it won’t be tough****
TL;DR - Took FI/RE principles and applied them to become a very efficient spendy pants and will still finish early.
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2020.07.26 00:09 ADPX94 An inappropriately long and probably biased opinion piece of the Denise Richards drama

I posted this on the other RH sub but thought you guys might enjoy it, as well. 🤷‍♂️ It’s pretty lengthy, though, so feel free to completely ignore it!
I’ve been team Denise all season but after some quiet reflection (i.e. hours spent watching the show and reading everything about it), I’ve decided it’s the hill I’m going to die on. In trying to convince a friend to ditch team Kyle and join the right side of Real Housewives history, I wound up writing more than ever needed to be said on the topic and so, I thought I’d share it with people who might actually care enough to read it but probably won’t. 😂
To fully understand why a person would be team Denise, we need to first look back at her life before the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Prior to it, Denise was married to Charlie Sheen. This is a man that cheated on her with hookers, sent her death threats, had a breakdown, and had a lot to say about biwinning and tiger’s blood. Furthermore, court records have also indicated that he had child pornography on his computer. In short, she’s seen some dark days with Charlie. It doesn’t stop there, though. All of this happened publicly and within their children’s lifetimes. Sam and Lola have had to carry the burden of being the children of Charlie Sheen their entire lives. This probably made it hard for them to make friends as no parent would want their kid hanging out with anyone associated with Charlie Sheen. While this is all just speculation, there’s no doubt that these thoughts have at least crossed Denise’s mind while raising them. It’s worth noting, too, that Charlie had other children with another woman and that Denise took them at one point, due to her and Charlie’s inability to care for them. That is beside the point but does indicate character, as it’s not something Denise HAD to do but chose to.
Fast forward to last year. Denise joins the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, and quickly becomes a fan favorite of the audience. She’s down to earth, fun to watch, and has hilarious responses to the drama happening around her (she’s usually eating and has no idea why anyone is fighting). Her entrance onto the show coincided with Lisa Vanderpump’s last season, as the rest of the cast was finally successful in taking her down. For years, the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Revolved around Lisa Vanderpump’s alleged manipulations of other cast members in their attempt at take downs of her. Now that they’ve succeeded, it appears there’s really no storyline left for them but to now go after Denise.
In the first episode of season 10, Teddi brings up to Denise that Charlie Sheen is trashing her in the media. This is particularly funny, as Teddi just shared on Twitter a text message with her dad, where she explains that Denise is the one always talking about Charlie Sheen. And yet, the first mention of him in this season came from Teddi, not Denise. It’s also interesting that Teddi appeared to have the news article memorized, although she very well could’ve been reading it from her phone. Either way, Teddi brought him up. Erika then felt the need to offer legal advice to Denise, despite the fact that Denise has been dealing with him for years and probably already knows what she needs to do. Erika then called Tom and asked him what he should do about her upcoming court date. Denise asked for none of this, by the way, but it’s not exactly the first time Erika or Teddi have dictated another person's story line while avoiding their own.
Denise later decides to throw a family party at her new home and invites the cast over. She has an ice sculpture (obviously a nod to the diamonds they hold in the opening credits) that according to her, Eloise picked out. Could be true, could be a well-played guilt trip. Either way, it’s the least of our worries. Kyle shows up to this party early and immediately starts talking shit about the decoration. If I recall correctly, she was already bothered by Denise taking Dorit’s side in a previous argument. Anyway, she later calls Denise a ragamuffin behind her back. While Kyle has portrayed herself as a girl's girl, none of this is particularly surprising, as jealousy has run rampant in her life since the very beginning of it. You don’t even have to hate Kyle to see that. Think about it. She grew up in Kim’s shadow, played “cool aunt” to Paris Hilton as an adult, and then finally snagged a leading role on reality TV only to play second fiddle to Lisa Vanderpump for the next nine years. When Lisa was finally run off the show in season 9, Dorit and Denise were the only ones to come out unscathed and still be well-received by the audience. Incidentally, those are the two that Kyle’s come at the hardest this season.
The same night Kyle calls Denise a ragamuffin, all of the women decide to discuss sex at the dinner table, despite the fact that there are kids one table over. Denise points this out, but it’s downright ignored. In her own home, no less. . Denise had already mentioned Aaron’s penis at that dinner, giving the impression that anything she’d have to say about the threesome conversation is null and void. However, she made one comment and did so in a much quieter fashion. It’s unlikely anyone at the kids table had heard her. Then, Kyle attacks Dorit yet again over glam and storms out of her party (only to be offended when Denise does the same later on). The following day or so, Denise brings up to Erika that she didn’t appreciate the adult conversations taking place around her children and their friends. Erika apologizes and we think that’s the end of it. However, Erika was not the only one to do this, so Denise does what any normal person would do and discusses it with the other women involved. All seems to be okay, until Lisa Rinna sinks her hooks into what appears to be at the very least a potential storyline, but more likely another takedown of someone more popular than her.
In Santa Monica, the women discuss threesome-gate and it’s at this moment that Erika breaks her number one rule and talks about somebody else’s child. She says that Sam and Lola probably know what a threesome is, if they haven’t had one already. This is the same woman who snapped on Eileen for saying “ it’s not like she killed your child” during the confrontation in Hong Kong. Why is it that Erika can say whatever she wants about a person's kid, not to mention in a nastier fashion, but no one can dare discuss her’s?
Denise eventually shows up and is forced into a group discussion about threesome-gate, even though she already cleared it up with everyone individually. She gets questioned by Rinna on whether or not Sam and Lola know about Charlie’s hookers, as if that matters. Furthermore, she gets a reminder of Wild Things, a movie that she made over 20 years ago (a 90s classic I might add). As if that even matters or is relevant to the discussion. Denise eventually shuts the conversation down after they cross her boundaries yet again byasking her what the threesome-gate conversation with her kids was like. Flashbacks indicate that they were fine with it and if there’s one thing she should’ve done differently in all of this, it’s to say that it didn’t really bother them all that much. Not sure how much it would’ve mattered, but we all know this is what they’ll be harping on at the reunion.
That’s not really the point, though. Denise is their mother and gets to decide in her own home what her kids are exposed to. And, these are kids that have already been exposed to so much. One would think because of that, they don’t need to be exposed to anything more. However, the ladies of Beverly Hills disagree and claim that because of how much their father’s put them through, they can say whatever they want in front of them. Erika basically says that to Denise, stating that a threesome is pretty low on the totem pole. As if it’s her right to decide that. Erika then accuses Denise of some “mom-shaming”, which is so ridiculous that I won’t even give it time. Asking your friends not to talk about sex in front of your kids is far from mom-shaming. Anyway, Sutton then makes a complete error of judgement and tells Denise not to bring the kids around next time, to which Denise responds that it was her party at her home. Sutton seems to get it and backs off immediately. Despite holding her own, Denise eventually gives up reasoning with these lunatics and says she’ll be more aware of bringing her kids around next time.
The next morning, Teddy brings up threesome-gate yet again, for the reason that Denise shutting it down must mean that she’s actually angrier than she claims to be. Denise assures them that she’s not, and Rinna yells “OWN IT BABY”, still having no idea what it means to own something. And what exactly is Denise supposed to own, Rinna? We still don’t know. Either way, Denise does own her shit and follows up on her promise to be more aware of bringing her children around. At Kyle‘s family BBQ, she comes with her just her husband, where threesome-gate is brought up once again. However, this time, Aaron jumps in and makes a complete ass out of himself. Denise calls Teddi a shit stirrer, and starts cussing a little bit louder than she should around Dorit’s daughter (though Dorit didn’t seem to mind). And, I’m sure if Dorit had brought it to her attention l, Denise would have chilled out. Instead, we get the ever-accountable Teddi pointing it out... to someone else. Aaron and Denise eventually decide they have enough, hint to us some concerning dynamics in their relationship (“I’ll crush your fucking hand”), and then leave to go to a strip club. Denise noted on Twitter that this was clearly a joke and made that clear in her confessional, but that it was left on the editing floor. However, even if it wasn’t a joke, they have every right to grab a burger at the local strip joint. They are grown ass adults. Either way, Rinna takes us back to the group as malicious gossip and then does some pole dancing for the rest of the group. I think it’s around that time that Garcelle decides to jump ship while she still can.
Denise then goes to Sutton’s event, where Erika picks a fight with her and while she’s in the bathroom. On a podcast, Erika explains that she wanted to have this conversation without Denise present, probably for no other reason than knowing he’d be too dumb to articulate his point. I get the feeling she doesn’t really like confrontation with people on her level, as we never really get to see any. Anyway, she goes off about “mansplaining” (letting us know how hip she is with words) and indicates that she would never let Tom do that. However, Tom has done exactly that. In season six, he not only talked down to the long-forgotten Kathryn Edwards during a dinner party, but told both Lisa Vanderpump and Erika not to interrupt him while he was talking. While Lisa gave a respectful nod and waited for the opportunity to circle the conversation back to her, Erika froze and sank back into her chair. Oh well, at least it gave Ken the chance to point out Tom’s acting like a judge when he’s just a lawyer. Anyway, Denise comes back from the bathroom and gets Aaron’s dumbass the hell out of there.
All of this brings us to Kyle‘s tacky sign party, where Brandi Glanville shows up and reconnects with Denise and Aaron. She tells them that she wants to be in a throuple with them, which is pretty odd considering that (according to Brandi) Denise is basically blackmailing her to keep quiet about their affair. Nevertheless, Brandi gets drunk, falls all over every floor she can find in that backyard, and inadvertently giving us the gif we never knew we needed. The next day or so, Erika has her own party, where Rinna announces they’ll all be going to Rome. Denise then takes a moment to clear the air with Erika, who’s had a problem with both her and Aaron throughout the season. Denise explains her confusion of why this conversation is still going, stating that she can have adult interactions and still have boundaries with her children. Erica ignores this, probably due to her lack of a rebuttal (you’re blowin’ it, Tom), and changes the topic to Aaron’s tendency to “mansplain”. Denise responds with “we’ll get to that in a minute” and Erica reminds us of how cold she can be. Whatever, it’s just diamonds. But, in her confessional, she accuses Denise of trying to control the conversation, even though that’s exactly what she just did to Denise by bringing up Aaron’s “mansplaining”. If season 10’s given us anything, it’s the revelation of Erika’s Girardi’s blatant hypocrisy.
Before the trip to Rome (or after if you believe the rumors), Kim Richards shows up to Kyle’s house to return some dresses. She’s in a hurry, because Brandi is waiting on the car. It’s apparently Brandi’s birthday and they’re going out for dinner. Or was it Reiki? Actually, it was dinner and then the story changed to Reiki. Anyway, Kyle, who’s miraculously made up with Brandi, tells Kim to go get her. Brandi comes in wearing a mic, indicating that this wasn’t really a random drive by. I suppose production could have mics on standby, but that’s really beside the point in all of this.
Brandi tells Kyle and Teddi that Denise is not who she pretends to be, that she talks shit about all of them (which is fine with me, given that’s all they’ve done to her this season), and that she “trusts Brandi because she has something on Brandi” (when the story she tells would indicate that Brandi actually has something on her). She explains that she made out with Denise and that they eventually hooked up, due to the “open relationship” that she and Aaron are in. Apparently, the hook up took place at Denise’s place (or was it a hotel?), where from what we can gather, there was no rollaway bed and Denise‘s kids were asleep downstairs. Whether or not the kids’ room had a door on it is up for debate, however, as Brandi stated that it did and then two seconds later said that it didn’t. This is the first sign of Brandi’s story changing to whatever narrative needs to be pushed. She then ends the story in a dramatic fashion, stating that she was told that Aaron could never find out or else he’d killed Denise. So, according to Brandi, Denise was not in an open relationship but lied about that in order to have sex with Brandi (I’d like to think Denise has better taste but I disgress). However, Brandi is now saying on Twitter that she’s not making this up, that they DO have an open relationship, and that they even asked her to find girls for them. Are we really supposed to believe that two people as hot as Aaron and Denise couldn’t find their on girls to have sex with, that they need Brandi Glanville of all people to help them? Furthermore, are we supposed to believe this never-ending, always-changing the story?
Well, Kyle seems to believe it, stating that Brandi may be a lot of things but that she is not a liar. She even went as far as saying that she was grateful for Brandi and Kim’s friendship, which has gotta be either a straight up or further proof that she couldn’t give a fuck less about Kim’s recovery. Nevertheless, of these statements contradict yourself footage we’ve already seen, as well as the blogs that she’s written in the past that state exactly the opposite. For example, one of her blog entries is even named “Brandi puts out lies”. Moreover, Kyle herself has sent cease-and-desists to Brandi in the past. What reason could she have for that? Either Brandi is a liar or the truth about Kyle Richards it’s just too painful for Kyle to hear. Either one is a honestly viable option. Still, it’s preposterous to even give credit to Kyle’s witness testimony of Brandi after everything we’ve seen over the years.
The reunion has since been filmed, which Rinna referred to as bullshit. However, Dorit stated on WWHL that she disagrees with that assessment. It seems pretty clear from Rinna’sInstagram that something went down and she is still upset about it. One post indicated that it had something to do with the cease-and-desist that Denise sent out but unless it’s one dealing with something separate from Brandi’s allegations, that’s just not true. This is for the reason that Brandi will be sitting down with Andy Cohen to discuss that particular storyline. They wouldn’t really be able to, if there was a cease-and-desist preventing them from doing so. Rinna has also (presumably) indicated in her story that Denise is a “phony” and was even kind enough to provide us with its definition, on the off chance that we’re too stupid to already know what it means. It doesn’t stop there, though. What’s resentment without a little homophobia mixed in? In her most recent stories, she’s been referring to Brandi and Denise as “Scissor Sisters”. It would be safe to say that at the very least, the reunion did not go the way that Rinna wanted it to. This makes sense, given how bumbled their takedown of Denise has been so far. I mean, they didn’t even try to attack Aaron’s business. Of all the things these women could have gone after, the pharmaceutical paranoia would’ve been the most obvious to capitalize on. Idiots. 🤦‍♂️ Anyway, it’s also worth noting that Denise has unfollowed Erika, Rinna, and Teddi. Garcelle has also unfollowed Rinna. There still a few episodes left and time will tell who’s side we should be on, but it seems pretty obvious to me that team Denise is for the win.
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2020.07.25 12:31 ADPX94 An inappropriately long and probably biased opinion piece of the Denise Richards drama

I’ve been team Denise all season but after some quiet reflection (i.e. hours spent watching the show and reading everything about it), I’ve decided it’s the hill I’m going to die on. In trying to convince a friend to ditch team Kyle and join the right side of Real Housewives history, I wound up writing more than ever needed to be said on the topic and so, I thought I’d share it with people who might actually care enough to read it but probably won’t. 😂
To fully understand why a person would be team Denise, we need to first look back at her life before the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Prior to it, Denise was married to Charlie Sheen. This is a man that cheated on her with hookers, sent her death threats, had a breakdown, and had a lot to say about biwinning and tiger’s blood. Furthermore, court records have also indicated that he had child pornography on his computer. In short, she’s seen some dark days with Charlie. It doesn’t stop there, though. All of this happened publicly and within their children’s lifetimes. Sam and Lola have had to carry the burden of being the children of Charlie Sheen their entire lives. This probably made it hard for them to make friends as no parent would want their kid hanging out with anyone associated with Charlie Sheen. While this is all just speculation, there’s no doubt that these thoughts have at least crossed Denise’s mind while raising them. It’s worth noting, too, that Charlie had other children with another woman and that Denise took them at one point, due to her and Charlie’s inability to care for them. That is beside the point but does indicate character, as it’s not something Denise HAD to do but chose to.
Fast forward to last year. Denise joins the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, and quickly becomes a fan favorite of the audience. She’s down to earth, fun to watch, and has hilarious responses to the drama happening around her (she’s usually eating and has no idea why anyone is fighting). Her entrance onto the show coincided with Lisa Vanderpump’s last season, as the rest of the cast was finally successful in taking her down. For years, the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Revolved around Lisa Vanderpump’s alleged manipulations of other cast members in their attempt at take downs of her. Now that they’ve succeeded, it appears there’s really no storyline left for them but to now go after Denise.
In the first episode of season 10, Teddi brings up to Denise that Charlie Sheen is trashing her in the media. This is particularly funny, as Teddi just shared on Twitter a text message with her dad, where she explains that Denise is the one always talking about Charlie Sheen. And yet, the first mention of him in this season came from Teddi, not Denise. It’s also interesting that Teddi appeared to have the news article memorized, although she very well could’ve been reading it from her phone. Either way, Teddi brought him up. Erika then felt the need to offer legal advice to Denise, despite the fact that Denise has been dealing with him for years and probably already knows what she needs to do. Erika then called Tom and asked him what he should do about her upcoming court date. Denise asked for none of this, by the way, but it’s not exactly the first time Erika or Teddi have dictated another person's story line while avoiding their own.
Denise later decides to throw a family party at her new home and invites the cast over. She has an ice sculpture (obviously a nod to the diamonds they hold in the opening credits) that according to her, Eloise picked out. Could be true, could be a well-played guilt trip. Either way, it’s the least of our worries. Kyle shows up to this party early and immediately starts talking shit about the decoration. If I recall correctly, she was already bothered by Denise taking Dorit’s side in a previous argument. Anyway, she later calls Denise a ragamuffin behind her back. While Kyle has portrayed herself as a girl's girl, none of this is particularly surprising, as jealousy has run rampant in her life since the very beginning of it. You don’t even have to hate Kyle to see that. Think about it. She grew up in Kim’s shadow, played “cool aunt” to Paris Hilton as an adult, and then finally snagged a leading role on reality TV only to play second fiddle to Lisa Vanderpump for the next nine years. When Lisa was finally run off the show in season 9, Dorit and Denise were the only ones to come out unscathed and still be well-received by the audience. Incidentally, those are the two that Kyle’s come at the hardest this season.
The same night Kyle calls Denise a ragamuffin, all of the women decide to discuss sex at the dinner table, despite the fact that there are kids one table over. Denise points this out, but it’s downright ignored. In her home, no less. Denise had already mentioned Aaron’s penis at that dinner, giving the impression that anything she’d have to say about the threesome conversation is null and void. However, she made one comment and did so in a much quieter fashion. It’s unlikely anyone at the kids table had heard her. Anyway, Kyle attacks Dorit yet again over glam and storms out of her party only to be offended when Denise does the same later on). The following day or so, Denise brings up to Erika that she didn’t appreciate the adult conversations taking place around her children and their friends. Erika apologizes and we think that’s the end of it. However, Erika was not the only one to do this, so Denise does what any normal person would do and discusses it with the other women involved. All seems to be okay, until Lisa Rinna sinks her hooks into what appears to be at the very least a potential storyline, but more likely another takedown of someone more popular than her.
In Santa Monica, the women discuss threesome-gate and it’s at this moment that Erika breaks her number one rule and talks about somebody else’s child. She says that Sam and Lola probably know what a threesome is, if they haven’t had one already. This is the same woman who snapped on Eileen for saying “ it’s not like she killed your child” during the confrontation in Hong Kong. Why is it that Erika can say whatever she wants about a person's kid, not to mention in a nastier fashion, but no one can dare discuss her’s?
Denise eventually shows up and is forced into a group discussion about threesome-gate, even though she already cleared it up with everyone individually. She gets questioned by Rinna on whether or not Sam and Lola know about Charlie’s hookers, as if that matters. Furthermore, she gets a reminder of Wild Things, a movie that she made over 20 years ago (a 90s classic I might add). As if that even matters or is relevant to the discussion. Denise eventually shuts the conversation down after they cross her boundaries yet again byasking her what the threesome-gate conversation with her kids was like. Flashbacks indicate that they were fine with it and if there’s one thing she should’ve done differently in all of this, it’s to say that it didn’t really bother them all that much. Not sure how much it would’ve mattered, but we all know this is what they’ll be harping on at the reunion.
That’s not really the point, though. Denise is their mother and gets to decide in her own home what her kids are exposed to. And, these are kids that have already been exposed to so much. One would think because of that, they don’t need to be exposed to anything more. However, the ladies of Beverly Hills disagree and claim that because of how much their father’s put them through, they can say whatever they want in front of them. Erika basically says that to Denise, stating that a threesome is pretty low on the totem pole. As if it’s her right to decide that. Erika then accuses Denise of some “mom-shaming”, which is so ridiculous that I won’t even give it time. Asking your friends not to talk about sex in front of your kids is far from mom-shaming. Anyway, Sutton then makes a complete error of judgement and tells Denise not to bring the kids around next time, to which Denise responds that it was her party at her home. Sutton seems to get it and backs off immediately. Despite holding her own, Denise eventually gives up reasoning with these lunatics and says she’ll be more aware of bringing her kids around next time.
The next morning, Teddy brings up threesome-gate yet again, for the reason that Denise shutting it down must mean that she’s actually angrier than she claims to be. Denise assures them that she’s not, and Rinna yells “OWN IT BABY”, still having no idea what it means to own something. And what exactly is Denise supposed to own, Rinna? We still don’t know. Either way, Denise does own her shit and follows up on her promise to be more aware of bringing her children around. At Kyle‘s family BBQ, she comes with her just her husband, where threesome-gate is brought up once again. However, this time, Aaron jumps in and makes a complete ass out of himself. Denise calls Teddi a shit stirrer, and starts cussing a little bit louder than she should around Dorit’s daughter (though Dorit didn’t seem to mind). And, I’m sure if Dorit had brought it to her attention l, Denise would have chilled out. Instead, we get the ever-accountable Teddi pointing it out... to someone else. Aaron and Denise eventually decide they have enough, hint to us some concerning dynamics in their relationship (“I’ll crush your fucking hand”), and then leave to go to a strip club. Denise noted on Twitter that this was clearly a joke and made that clear in her confessional, but that it was left on the editing floor. However, even if it wasn’t a joke, they have every right to grab a burger at the local strip joint. They are grown ass adults. Either way, Rinna takes us back to the group as malicious gossip and then does some pole dancing for the rest of the group. I think it’s around that time that Garcelle decides to jump ship while she still can.
Denise then goes to Sutton’s event, where Erika picks a fight with her and while she’s in the bathroom. On a podcast, Erika explains that she wanted to have this conversation without Denise present, probably for no other reason than knowing he’d be too dumb to articulate his point. I get the feeling she doesn’t really like confrontation with people on her level, as we never really get to see any. Anyway, she goes off about “mansplaining” (letting us know how hip she is with words) and indicates that she would never let Tom do that. However, Tom has done exactly that. In season six, he not only talked down to the long-forgotten Kathryn Edwards during a dinner party, but told both Lisa Vanderpump and Erika not to interrupt him while he was talking. While Lisa gave a respectful nod and waited for the opportunity to circle the conversation back to her, Erika froze and sank back into her chair. Oh well, at least it gave Ken the chance to point out Tom’s acting like a judge when he’s just a lawyer. Anyway, Denise comes back from the bathroom and gets Aaron’s dumbass the hell out of there.
All of this brings us to Kyle‘s tacky sign party, where Brandi Glanville shows up and reconnects with Denise and Aaron. She tells them that she wants to be in a throuple with them, which is pretty odd considering that (according to Brandi) Denise is basically blackmailing her to keep quiet about their affair. Nevertheless, Brandi gets drunk, falls all over every floor she can find in that backyard, and inadvertently giving us the gif we never knew we needed. The next day or so, Erika has her own party, where Rinna announces they’ll all be going to Rome. Denise then takes a moment to clear the air with Erika, who’s had a problem with both her and Aaron throughout the season. Denise explains her confusion of why this conversation is still going, stating that she can have adult interactions and still have boundaries with her children. Erica ignores this, probably due to her lack of a rebuttal (you’re blowin’ it, Tom), and changes the topic to Aaron’s tendency to “mansplain”. Denise responds with “we’ll get to that in a minute” and Erica reminds us of how cold she can be. Whatever, it’s just diamonds. But, in her confessional, she accuses Denise of trying to control the conversation, even though that’s exactly what she just did to Denise by bringing up Aaron’s “mansplaining”. If season 10’s given us anything, it’s the revelation of Erika’s Girardi’s blatant hypocrisy.
Before the trip to Rome (or after if you believe the rumors), Kim Richards shows up to Kyle’s house to return some dresses. She’s in a hurry, because Brandi is waiting on the car. It’s apparently Brandi’s birthday and they’re going out for dinner. Or was it Reiki? Actually, it was dinner and then the story changed to Reiki. Anyway, Kyle, who’s miraculously made up with Brandi, tells Kim to go get her. Brandi comes in wearing a mic, indicating that this wasn’t really a random drive by. I suppose production could have mics on standby, but that’s really beside the point in all of this.
Brandi tells Kyle and Teddi that Denise is not who she pretends to be, that she talks shit about all of them (which is fine with me, given that’s all they’ve done to her this season), and that she “trusts Brandi because she has something on Brandi” (when the story she tells would indicate that Brandi actually has something on her). She explains that she made out with Denise and that they eventually hooked up, due to the “open relationship” that she and Aaron are in. Apparently, the hook up took place at Denise’s place (or was it a hotel?), where from what we can gather, they were in a loft that did NOT have a rollaway bed or a door. Brandi also said that one of Denise‘s kids and a friend were asleep downstairs in a room with a door on it. She then ends the story in a dramatic fashion, stating that she was told that Aaron could never find out or else he’d killed Denise. So, according to Brandi, Denise was not in an open relationship but lied about that in order to have sex with Brandi (I’d like to think Denise has better taste but I disgress). However, Brandi said on a previous podcast they only made out and that it was a good time. She is now saying on Twitter that she’s not making this up, that they DO have an open relationship, and that they even asked her to find girls for them. Are we really supposed to believe that two people as hot as Aaron and Denise couldn’t find their on girls to have sex with, that they need Brandi Glanville of all people to help them? Furthermore, are we supposed to believe this never-ending, always-changing the story?
Well, Kyle seems to believe it, stating that Brandi may be a lot of things but that she is not a liar. She even went as far as saying that she was grateful for Brandi and Kim’s friendship, which has gotta be either a straight up or further proof that she couldn’t give a fuck less about Kim’s recovery. Nevertheless, of these statements contradict yourself footage we’ve already seen, as well as the blogs that she’s written in the past that state exactly the opposite. For example, one of her blog entries is even named “Brandi puts out lies”. Moreover, Kyle herself has sent cease-and-desists to Brandi in the past. What reason could she have for that? Either Brandi is a liar or the truth about Kyle Richards it’s just too painful for Kyle to hear. Either one is a honestly viable option. Still, it’s preposterous to even give credit to Kyle’s witness testimony of Brandi after everything we’ve seen over the years.
The reunion has since been filmed, which Rinna referred to as bullshit. However, Dorit stated on WWHL that she disagrees with that assessment. It seems pretty clear from Rinna’sInstagram that something went down and she is still upset about it. One post indicated that it had something to do with the cease-and-desist that Denise sent out but unless it’s one dealing with something separate from Brandi’s allegations, that’s just not true. This is for the reason that Brandi will be sitting down with Andy Cohen to discuss that particular storyline. They wouldn’t really be able to, if there was a cease-and-desist preventing them from doing so. Rinna has also (presumably) indicated in her story that Denise is a “phony” and was even kind enough to provide us with its definition, on the off chance that we’re too stupid to already know what it means. It doesn’t stop there, though. What’s resentment without a little homophobia mixed in? In her most recent stories, she’s been referring to Brandi and Denise as “Scissor Sisters”. It would be safe to say that at the very least, the reunion did not go the way that Rinna wanted it to. This makes sense, given how bumbled their takedown of Denise has been so far. I mean, they didn’t even try to attack Aaron’s business. Of all the things these women could have gone after, the pharmaceutical paranoia would’ve been the most obvious to capitalize on. Idiots. 🤦‍♂️ Anyway, it’s also worth noting that Denise has unfollowed Erika, Rinna, and Teddi. Garcelle has also unfollowed Rinna. There still a few episodes left and time will tell who’s side we should be on, but it seems pretty obvious to me that team Denise is for the win.
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2020.07.17 18:42 ReadTheStatement Demand for Canned Tuna Stays Strong - SoFi Blog

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by SoFi
July 17, 2020 at 12:16PM

Sales Hit Record Highs

For decades, canned tuna producers struggled with declining sales and a consumer base that thought of their products as old-fashioned. Then the coronavirus pandemic hit, and sales of canned tuna went through the roof. Analysts say this trend is likely to continue for some time.
Bumble Bee Foods reported that sales of canned and pouched tuna rose 100% between mid-March and early April. Costco (COST) placed limits on how much tuna people could buy when panic-purchasing began. This was not just a temporary surge in sales. Canned tuna has continued to fly off shelves since the pandemic began.
Due to supply chain constraints, producers are having a difficult time keeping up with the demand increase. Retailers have been able to keep tuna prices stable so far, but wholesale tuna prices have spiked 41% since last year. This contrasts with trends in other wholesale seafood markets, where prices are dropping sharply due to restaurant closures.

The Canned Tuna Supply Chain

The tuna supply chain is long and complicated. About 40% of commercial tuna is caught in the western and central Pacific Ocean near very small countries like Tuvalu and Kiribati. Then, the fish is processed on Pacific islands, or in Asia or South America. Often, it then makes its way to a third country to be canned before reaching its final destination in a grocery store.
Though it has been a successful year for tuna fishing, border issues related to the pandemic have caused bottlenecks in the supply chain. Demand for tuna shows little sign of slowing down, and producers are working to streamline their processes.

More Than Just Panic Buying

Analysts have been surprised by the longevity of the canned tuna boom since the pandemic began. Many believe that this trend is here to stay, at least for a while. Joerg Ayrle, the CFO of Thai Union (TU:TB) which owns the tuna brand Chicken of the Sea explained , “People are asking, is this pantry-loading? Is this consumption? I would say, every pantry-loading leads to higher consumption. People are not just leaving that in their pantry. They are consuming it.”
Tuna is one of the cheapest protein sources available, costing as little as $1 per 5-ounce can. People may keep consuming tuna, not just because it lasts long and is a good way to avoid frequent trips to the store, but because it is cost-effective.
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2020.07.04 01:51 karmascycles My crochet bumble bee! I got the idea from Tik tok and loosely followed the pattern from https://www.hookedbyrobin.com/blog/2019/03/amigurumi-bumblebee-free-crochet.html but instead of an amigurumi size I used Bernat Blanket yarn!

My crochet bumble bee! I got the idea from Tik tok and loosely followed the pattern from https://www.hookedbyrobin.com/blog/2019/03/amigurumi-bumblebee-free-crochet.html but instead of an amigurumi size I used Bernat Blanket yarn! submitted by karmascycles to crochet [link] [comments]


2020.06.26 19:19 yam11-11 Direct Exploration

While we can learn a lot from other people, such as from books, courses, classes, and online resources, I often find it valuable to learn from direct experience, even when doing so is slower and more error-prone.
There’s something special about exploring in the dark, gradually figuring out your own ways to accomplish something instead of having ready-made solutions spoon fed to you.
You can always look up a recipe for any dish you can imagine, but it can be more rewarding to set the cookbooks aside and bumble your way through. Maybe you’ll discover a dish you really like making. One of my favorites – the ultimate rice bowl – wasn’t discovered in any recipe book. I figured it out from personal experimentation. It’s simple and easy to make, and I love making it now and then. And since I figured it out myself, I also know many different ways to vary the recipe and have it still work, and my understanding of rice bowls is more robust because of that. I feel more confident and competent in this area because I’ve mapped much of the territory personally, as opposed to relying on a guide to tell me the highlights.
The risks of experimenting on your own include making more mistakes, getting stuck in pitfalls you could have avoided, and doing extra work to “reinvent the wheel.” But even when you’re rediscovering what’s already known to many other people, the personal experience of discovery can be more rewarding, and your knowledge will likely be less fragile. Your discovery of the wheel will be uniquely your own – and a lot more special than just buying a wheel.
Many years ago I decided to build my own PC by buying all the component parts from various sources and assembling it myself – motherboard, CPU, RAM chips, graphics card, hard drive, case, power supply, etc. It wasn’t worth the effort to save a little money, but I felt a special connection to that PC for years because I assembled it myself. It wasn’t just some mass market machine I’d bought from Dell. And the machine I built worked better and lasted longer than the pre-built ones I bought around the same time.
This month I’ve been experimenting with music composition again, mostly by messing around in Logic Pro. There’s a lot I don’t understand about how to layer a composition, so some of my experiments didn’t sound very good. But even though I could learn this skill faster from people with experience, I like fumbling around to see what I can figure out on my own. The discoveries feel more rewarding when I stumble upon them versus if I learn them from someone else.
This skill comes in handy in business too, especially when diving into something new. I didn’t know how to generate income from blogging when I first started in 2004 because blogging was still relatively new. So I experimented with income generation to figure how to make my work financially sustainable. I still got ideas from other people, but I had to test them in different ways to understand how to apply them to my business. Since I directly experimented a lot, I now know many effective ways to cover expenses and then some, so I feel confident and secure with income generation too. It’s just another rice bowl to me.
When you learn from other sources, you may acquire knowledge that’s more structured but also more fragile and rigid. You probably won’t gain the range and flexibility that comes from direct personal exploration.
I have degrees in computer science and mathematics, but what I learned in school wasn’t very helpful when I set out to design and program computer games. Most of the academic knowledge I’d gained was way too narrow and brittle. I advanced faster by studying programming on my own – often just by messing around to see what I could do. I also coded in different languages and on different types of devices. I learned so much more about coding by tackling dozens of small projects than by studying techniques from others. And learning coding on my own was way more fun, engaging, and interesting than formally studying it in school.
This isn’t an either-or proposition. Learning from others can be immensely valuable too. I’ve had some wonderful breakthroughs on that side as well. Just watch out for areas of life where you lean too heavily on the side of structured study and overlook the incredible long-term value of direct exploration. Use formal study to seed your own experimentation, not as a replacement for it.
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